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Private Pain: It's About Life, Not Just Sex ... Understanding Vaginismus & Dyspareunia

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I got "Private Pain" from Amazon.com yesterday and was very excited, until I started reading it. The whole book consists of two things:
- basic information, available for free on the internet
- personal stories, all of which go, "My life was awful, I went to WTC, now my life is perfect"

If you know nothing about vaginismus, I guess you could find the
basic factual information helpful, since it's gathered conveniently in one place. If you've Googled "vaginismus", you won't learn anything new.

And the stories made me feel frankly depressed, because I will never get the kind of money I need to travel to New York and stay there for weeks, never mind paying for the actual treatment. And I got the feeling from the book that WTC is the one and only solution that works. So I am feeling completely hopeless -- and we all know that your feelings about this affect how your body acts, as a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Anyway, I am sorry I wasted my money on a 200-page ad for WTC, and I just wanted to warn others. I can't comment on the efficiency of the WTC method, I just feel cheated by the book.

This was certainly a book women with vaginismus need to read, though it really didn't tell me anything I didn't know. I've suffered for a long time, so I'm aware of all the ins and outs of the disorder -- and most of all, how it affects my life. The stories were nice, too...very warm stories of women who have been made well, and are now expecting their first child and such. Very nice. Forgive me, but maybe I'm just a little down, trying to figure out how I will come up with the $8500.00 needed for the treatment. These are wonderful women, these doctors, doing a tremendous service and helping many, many women regain their lives, and I can certainly appreciate that for all it's worth. However, since the treatment center that is nearly guaranteed to heal all your vaginismic woes does not accept any insurance, it's certainly NOT a disorder for the financially challenged to have. Certainly, a great number of women would say they would pay this and MORE to get their lives back...I've probably had this disorder longer than any of them (more than 20 years), but I STILL am in a quandary as to how to come up with that kind of money. I don't need to hear another story of how a person has recovered. Don't get me wrong, I am glad for them, and I hate to be the first to give this book a lower rating. But the doctors who wrote this book have the market cornered, and I think they know that. Women with vaginismus are desperate and would probably pay any amount of money to be over this terrible disorder. I think they know that, too. Pray for the poor among us --- those simply not able to afford the treatment AT ALL. Eventually, I may be able to come up with the money at some point...but there are those who never will.

The book was helpful in the sense that it includes many personal stories of other women who have suffered with this condition. Like many others, I felt like there must be something wrong with me. I had never heard of such a problem before, and knowing that I am not alone in my pain is comforting. However, I was disapointed in the fact that every "success" story seemed to end by the women attending the Women's Therapy Center in NY and being "cured". How many people have the money and time to travel to NY and go through that program? If the authors' goal is truly to help sufferers of this, I wish they would have least included countrywide list of approved counselors or facilities that could help on a local level. I am 24 and have been married a month and am still a virgin. Every single day that passes I become more frustrated and hopeless. I bought the book with the hope that I could receive some direction on how to deal with this, but according to the book, the only way I can be cured is to visit the WTC. That is beyond discouraging. Be warned before paying for this overpriced paperback, it's advertised message is deceiving.

This book should be on the shelf of every gynocologist. Having suffered from vaginismus this book was the opening line of communication to the 2 women who have changed my life. After reading "Private Pain" I was sure these women were experts on the topic of vaginismus. I immediately contacted the Women's Therapy Center in Plainview. I am surely proof that there is a cure for vaginismus. Now 3 months pregnant my husband and I have Ross and Ditza to thank for our new journey into parenthood!!

if you were looking for a how-to in treating this condition, look elsewhere. This book is nothing but a big advertisement for their clinic and a bunch of personal stories. Here is all they tell you: their technique is called the Five Penetrations of Life and it involves a finger, tampon, applicator with medicine, intercourse, or gynecologic exam. That's it. That's all they reveal. Not for people who neither have the time or money to fly to their clinic in New York.

This was certainly a book women with vaginismus need to read, though it really didn't tell me anything I didn't know. I've suffered for a long time, so I'm aware of all the ins and outs of the disorder -- and most of all, how it affects my life. The stories were nice, too...very warm stories of women who have been made well, and are now expecting their first child and such. Very nice. Forgive me, but maybe I'm just a little down, trying to figure out how I will come up with the [money] needed for the treatment. These are wonderful women, these doctors, doing a tremendous service and helping many, many women regain their lives, and I can certainly appreciate that for all it's worth. However, since the treatment center that is nearly guaranteed to heal all your vaginismic woes does not accept any insurance, it's certainly NOT a disorder for the financially challenged to have. Certainly, a great number of women would say they would pay this and MORE to get their lives back...I've probably had this disorder longer than any of them (more than 20 years), but I STILL am in a quandary as to how to come up with that kind of money. I don't need to hear another story of how a person has recovered. Don't get me wrong, I am glad for them, and I hate to be the first to give this book a lower rating. But the doctors who wrote this book have the market cornered, and I think they know that. Women with vaginismus are desperate and would probably pay any amount of money to be over this terrible disorder. I think they know that, too. Pray for the poor among us --- those simply not able to afford the treatment AT ALL. Eventually, I may be able to come up with the money at some point...but there are those who never will.

I suffered from vaginismus for years before discovering what my condition was by reading this book. I thought I was abnormal and not even fully a woman because I could not experience ordinary penetrations without panic or severe pain. What I found by reading this book is not just the name but also a cure for vaginismus! A few months after reading this book, I was able to go to the Women's Therapy Center in Plainview, NY and participate in an intensive 2-week program that changed my life and saved my marriage by enabling me to move from total fear to total freedom regarding vaginal penetrations. The book is great, but the treatment is even better and more life-altering. Check out their website too!

I have suffered from vaginismus for 5 years and just finished reading Private Pain. Although I can't get to WTC now I felt the book was extremely helpful. For the first time in my life I do not feel like a freak or that I am alone. I could identify with their patients and for the first time in a very long time got a good night sleep. Thank you Dr's Katz & Tabisel for writing this book you will never know how important it has been to me.

This book is one that is probably the most important to have on a shelf for people with vaginismus. These two wonderful women truly show their knowledge and experience on vaginismus. The book was the deciding factor for me to seek therapy at "The Women's Therapy Center". These two women prove that there is a cure for vaginismus. Their treatment is the best out there and this book was the saving grace to my life. I highly recommend this book and trust me I am proof that there really is a cure for vaginismus. Hats off to Ross and Ditza you are loved by many!!

This book is wonderful. If you suffer from Vaginismus or think you do, read this book. It explores not only the reasons why you might be suffering from Vaginismus but it gives first hand accounts of people who have suffered from it and have been cured!!! Drs. Tabisel and Katz know what they are talking about and how to help!! Their understanding of the subject is apparent by the end of the first chapter. They understand what people with Vaginismus suffer with in not only their sexual life but their every day life. How something so simple to the rest of the world is not so simple for people who suffer from Vaginismus. They know how to help and if you doubt that, read this book and you will know that their is help out there for you!!!

I too am a former patient of these wonderful doctors. And thanks to them I am expecting my first child in 2 1/2 months, something I never thought would happen to me.