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Proud to Be: My Life, The Airforce, The Controversy [Hardcover]

Kelly Flinn (Author)
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November 18, 1997
An extraordinary young woman. An extraordinary controversy. This is Kelly Flinn's story--the one she couldn't tell when she was in uniform.

"I fell in love with the wrong man."--Kelly Flinn

She is the first woman to pilot a B-52, a charismatic twenty-six-year-old from a proper Georgia family who has always distinguished herself--as a fifteen- year-old at U.S. Space Camp and as a cadet at the U.S. Air Force Academy. There, she overcame considerable odds and earned a coveted position as a combat pilot. But nothing prepared Lieutenant Kelly Flinn for the controversy that erupted when the military began an investigation into her relationship with Marc Zigo, a man who lied to her about his marital status and then betrayed her to military authorities. Flinn was forced to resign amid charges of disobeying orders--charges she disputes in this poignant and powerful memoir.

This is the story of Flinn's love affair with flying . . . and the love affair that ended her trailblazing Air Force career. This is also the story of a determined young woman fighting for her rightful place in a military establishment run by men, many of whom are not yet ready to accept a female combat pilot. Flinn reveals examples of hypocrisy and sexism in the military that are, by any standard, infuriating. She rose higher and fell harder, but Kelly Flinn's story is universal, and it powerfully dramatizes the fault lines between our private and professional lives. With disarming candor, Flinn takes us inside her world. We feel her exhilaration as she soars through the sky and commands her own plane,and we share her horror as the love she dreamed of turns into a nightmare and she must battle the military's sex police behind closed doors. Kelly Flinn has been called "the Hester Prynne of our time," and her life has been depicted in the media as a combination of Top Gun and The Scarlet Letter.

In Proud to Be, she speaks in her own voice--determined, vulnerable, and all too human.

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Kelly Flinn might have been a fine pilot, but she's not much of a writer. That said, her book, Proud to Be, still manages to hold your interest and elicit your sympathy. Flinn, the first female bomber pilot in the United States Air Force, achieved a different sort of notoriety when she was forced to leave the service in the wake of an affair with a married enlisted man. In the civilian world, stories like Flinn's are a dime a dozen and, though painful for the parties involved, hardly the stuff of national controversy. In the military, however, sex is a hot-button issue. Already racked by the Tailhook scandal a few years ago (for which not a single male participant was punished), the Air Force whipped up a storm of controversy when it threatened Flinn with a court-martial for her adulterous behavior.

Certainly Flinn is not blameless in all this; she admits to her involvement with an enlisted man who was married to an enlisted woman, though Flinn is rather disingenuous when it comes to accepting responsibility for her actions. Nevertheless, the real story behind Kelly Flinn's run-in with the Air Force is less about sex than double standards in the military. Think what you will about Flinn, but her book raises some important and troubling questions about America's military establishment.

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The perky adulteress airs her side of the armed forces melodrama.

Product Details

  • Hardcover: 259 pages
  • Publisher: Random House; First edition (November 18, 1997)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0375501096
  • ISBN-13: 978-0375501098
  • Product Dimensions: 9.1 x 6 x 1.1 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 1.3 pounds
  • Average Customer Review: 3.1 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (29 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #2,424,749 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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17 of 19 people found the following review helpful:
1.0 out of 5 stars Logically inconsistent and whining but notable for one point, July 3, 1998
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This review is from: Proud to Be: My Life, The Airforce, The Controversy (Hardcover)
Kelly Flinn ambles her way through her side of the story with little regard for truth or logic. There's definitely a high pitched whine which becomes ever more nerve numbing as one wades through this piece. I felt she contradicted herself on what she was told when as well as what was expected of her. Readers should realize key facts were also neglected. She talks about the hard life and the lonely nature of a woman at a lonely base in North Dakota. She talks about her "love" and need for companionship which drove her first to an enlisted man and then an enlisted woman's spouse. She doesn't mention that this happens within her FIRST MONTH on base! She also ignores or downplays the fact that two male pilots at this base were also removed for sexual misconduct and lying within months of her "troubles." The one truly interesting point isn't how the military wronged Ms Flinn or failed to teach her that lying, cheating and abetting others in cheating were wrong. The most interesting point is the effectiveness of a modern PR campaign in creating a symbol of purity and persecution from someone who failed to learn the basics of right and wrong despite everything including the U.S. expenditure of over $3 million and over 15,000 training hours. With her firm no longer on retainer, there's not much left. Read it for the poignancy of a soul lost or as an opportunity squandered, but as a saga of the struggle of morality in the military you'd best look elsewhere.
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10 of 10 people found the following review helpful:
3.0 out of 5 stars A tragic and troubling memoir, February 11, 2005
This review is from: Proud to Be: My Life, The Airforce, The Controversy (Hardcover)
"Proud to Be" is a memoir by Kelly Flinn, a former United States Air Force officer who was the first woman to pilot a B-52 bomber. A sex scandal led to her 1997 resignation from the Air Force; she presents her side of the story in this book. While the story she tells is interesting, her approach to the material is quite troubling.

The book has a sleazy, self-serving tone. She constantly complains about the Air Force and tries to present herself as a victim, even while candidly admitting her violations of military rules governing sexual conduct. Typical quotes from the book are as follows: "I was a prime target for a predator" (p. 159); "I've [...] been singled out for shame in the media spotlight because I am a woman" (239). Of her married lover she writes, "But I just couldn't get him out of my mind" (168). Her constant whining becomes tiresome quickly.

Flinn seems to relish making allegations about perverse and scandalous sex within the Air Force community. On the Air Force social scene in Minot, North Dakota she claims, "Everybody was sleeping with everybody" (148). She seems to imply that her adultery should be excused because of the alleged piggish behavior of others in Air Force circles.

Ultimately, Flinn's argument falls apart because she seems to want to have it both ways: it appears she wants the reader to see her as both a strong, capable warrior and as a pitiable, abused victim. The overall gossipy and narcissistic feel of the book is quite distasteful. Still, it's an intriguing narrative, and despite the book's flaws Flinn's story raises some serious issues that are worth pondering.
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19 of 22 people found the following review helpful:
1.0 out of 5 stars Liar, September 14, 2003
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This review is from: Proud to Be: My Life, The Airforce, The Controversy (Hardcover)
Kelly Flinn was not "forced" to resign, she accepted a resignation because she knew she would be convicted. Her crime was not "falling love with the wrong man," her crime (in addition to adultery) was disobeying a lawful order to cease the relationship. Kelly Flinn and the feminists who love her saw her case as another example of an out of touch military hell bent on railroading her promising career. Hogwash. The reality is that she was given several opportunities to end the relationship. She instead chose to disobey direct orders. Rather comforting knowing that she was piloting nuclear capable aircraft. She played the media card and boo-hooed on 60 minutes. The Air Force, in an effort to protect HER privacy, kept quiet. It cost them in the PR battle, but they won the war, because Flinn no longer wears the uniform. This book is spin at its ugliest, don't waste your money.
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