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50 Ways To Find A Lover; Proven Techniques for Finding Someone Special

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This book is worth its weight in platinum! It is easy to read (I read the book in 1 day) and the principles are explained in an easy to understand manner. I went out that night to exercise the principles explained in the book. It was one of the most successful nights of my social life, and the best night I have had in years! I met eight women, five of whom I found particularly interesting (and attractive!), and who are apparently interested in me. I also met some interesting guys, and had a great time talking about sports with them. I am planning on meeting most of these people at the same place in the near future. If you are having difficulty "clicking" with members of the opposite sex, read this book and practice the principles it describes. I hope you will be as successful as I was! If you are, then write an editorial like this, please!

Well, I would not be too hard on these authors, because how many people try to take on this subject, anyway? It's an easy, enjoyable, informative read that just might help somebody. I admire any author willing to raise the question: "Why is it that so many bright, interesting, good-looking, and fun-to-be-with people spend their Saturday nights [in America] watching late night movies all by themselves?"

These chapters were helpful for me to think about: Carry a Conversation Piece, Give Someone a Second Chance, Don't Take Yourself Too Seriously, and, especially, Practice Initiating Conversation.

Hey, some will see the gold in the stream and some will only see the tadpoles swimming by, right?!

What ruined this book for me, was its constant upbeat attitude, coupled with every chapter finishing with a fictional person who "followed" the advice and found success.

For example: "And when Ted started hanging out at the bookstore, it was only a matter of a few weeks before he literally tripped over Brittany, and they've been together ever since!"

Rah, rah, rah... If the advice in this book was so great, the authors wouldn't have had to invent success stories.

Also, whatever self-esteem I had when I started reading this book was destroyed when I wasn't able to re-create any of these success stories. I ended up hating myself when its rather simplistic advice didn't work for me.

In short, this book sucks. The only good advice in it is to carry a business card, so you can give prospective dates your number.

Sharyn and Katy should get out of the dating-advice business, before they hurt anyone else.

Let me start off by saying, the title of the book should be reworded. Let's take the words "Proven Techniques" for example. The book has a lot of success stories, I'll admit, but it really doesn't have nothing a person like myself can follow that I haven't already tried.

Some of "Proven Techniques" seemed kind of berzerk. Like when the book says to ask your parents to keep an eye out and an ear open. First of all, my mom and dad are the last people on earth I'm going to ask to keep an eye or ear out for a potential. If my mom overhears that some girl my age is single, then goes to her and says "my son is single" or "you and my son would make a great couple," what is going to be her first thoughts?....... (Her son must be real desperate to ask his parents for help).

Every book has a bad side, but there is always one piece of information you can take from any book. If your unfamiliar with dating services, online dating, meeting women in public, etc. etc. this book can prepare you so you know what to expect (keep in mind that it's not always good, eventhough the book has a lot of good in it).

I want to end my review on this note, the first thing I think about when I see "Proven Techniques" is, What is the success percentage of these "Proven Techniques"? Let's take a success story of Joe Schmoe and Jane Doe.

Joe Schmoe was a shy guy who didn't get out much and Jane Doe was almost the same, one day these two (without knowing each other) decided to go out to the same bar. Joe was with his friends drinking and Jane was doing the same with her friends. One of Joe's friends says, "Hey, that girl over there keeps checking you out" and one of Jane's friends says the same. Joe's friends nag Joe until he builds up the courage to go introduce himself. Then all of the sudden, he does it, he introduced himself, then Joe and Jane live happily ever after.

Then down the road some author can write about this "one" success story in a book (no need for a title), where you can read a Chapter titled, Meeting That Special Someone In A Bar, but keep in mind, if the author hears "one, I mean 1" success story, the author will not be lying when the author says meeting in a bar is a "Proven Technique."

My advice is, think to yourself "What is the success percentage of that show Blind Date?" Watch the show one week, Monday through Friday, there is always two dates per show so that equals ten dates for the week. The percentage rate of successful dates for that show is under 10%. Maybe, just maybe, in two weeks of watching the show there will be one successful date, keep that in mind.