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Psychology of Romantic Love, The Paperback – April 1, 1985

4.6 out of 5 stars 29 customer reviews

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Distinguished psychologist Dr. Nathaniel Branden offers us a new understanding of the meaning of romantic love--what love is and what it depends on for fulfillment. His vision of love is at once passionate and thoroughly appropriate to our times and grounded in our nature as human beings. He reveals romantic love to be a pathway not only to extraordinary joy but also to profound self-discovery. Among the many challenging questions he explores are:

How does romantic love evolve?

What is the distinctive nature of romantic love?

What is the difference between mature and immature love?

What is the role of sex in romantic love?

Does romantic love necessarily imply sexual exclusivity?

How can we help romantic love to last?

How do we deal with jealousy?

For all those who long to love and yet wonder whether their dreams are attainable, The Psychology Of Romantic Love shows the way to translate dreams into reality.

About the Author

Nathaniel Branden, Ph.D. has done more than anyone to awaken America's consciousness to the importance of self-esteem. He has written many books on self-esteem including the bestsellers The Psychology of Self-Esteem, Honoring The Self, and How To Raise Your Self-Esteem. Dr. Branden is in private practice in Los Angeles where he offers self-esteem seminars and works as a consultant to businesses and other organizations. --This text refers to an alternate Paperback edition.
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Product Details

  • Paperback
  • Publisher: Bantam (May 1, 1985)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0553275550
  • ISBN-13: 978-0553275551
  • Product Dimensions: 0.8 x 4.2 x 7 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 4.8 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (29 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #3,386,673 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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Format: Paperback
I like this book because it draws clear distinctions between unhealthy romantic love and mature romantic love. In our culture, there tends to be a strong focus on romance and often what is presented in books, songs and the media is unrealistic and unattainable. This book presents a vision of mature, erotic love that embraces everyday realities and the maturing of love over time.

The content in this book is not heavy and it is readable by anyone. There is a lot of good food for thought and Nathaniel Branden writes in a simple straightforward style. He is also a therapist and this book goes beyond the pop culture type books on this subject that often have very little real substance.
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Format: Paperback
This is a great book about the nature of romantic love over the centuries. It puts the kind of love called romantic love into perspective with other kinds, and talks about what makes for a stable relationship. As a spouse of 27 years, I find it is very interesting to try to understand the nature of love and commitment. The fact that Branden is an authority on self-esteem also helps for this topic. I have read the book from the library, and now I am trying to find it to buy.
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Format: Mass Market Paperback
I have always wondered if I really even understood what real love is. This book explained it all to me. It's history, how my self-esteem effects it, why selfishness is a normal and valid part of love, what characteristics help love to succeed, and what missing links cause it to remain unfulfilling. I'm going to make my children read this before they get married. Everyone needs to know this stuff.
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Format: Hardcover
This book helped me grab a hold of what healthy love really is, what it is not, and what makes it last. Because I had no true role models in my life that I felt had healthy-romantic-love in their lives, I was often confused by what I thought love was supposed to be. Although I had had many relationships in my life, none of them satisfied my internal idea of what love could and should be. This book helped clear up misconceptions I had had about love, and just made my mind feel a whole lot more spacious. Branden also talks about his own life in this book which is wonderful because it helps the reader better relate to the situations and ideas he is trying to convey through his writing. If you are someone who might be confused about what love really is or isn't, or what it should feel like or not feel like, this book is for you...Just wonderful!
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Format: Hardcover
You must get through the initial, rather dry, historical information to truly understand and appreciate the balance of the book's content. It will open your eyes to many things about yourself and others.

It helps you understand why your previous relationships may have failed and what changes you need to apply to stop making the same relationship mistakes. It also helps you make better choices about who you can have a successful relationship with.

You will use this book over and over as a reference guide for yourself and you will use it try to educate the people you care about!
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Format: Paperback
This little book gives a crisp, well integrated way at looking at relationships and why we need them. Branden's relating the idea of romantic love to historical context is very important, a topic I've seen no one else discuss
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Format: Kindle Edition Verified Purchase
The title tells it all.

We live in an age of increasing fascination with technology and self awareness gleaned from networking via screen vs seeing our reflections in the eyes of others.

While I am fascinated with what technology has revealed about human nature in studies that enable us to peer into the inner workings of body and brain and heart, the message of this non science based book rings true in these technologically driven studies:
Love is a reaction of body and brain and that 'chemistry' we feel is real.
Nurturing and sustaining love requires engaging in the moment authentically with an other-getting 'in the zone' where connecting generates deep admiration and creates the feelings of deep romantic love for which we strive.
Self-esteem is the basis of being able to love in that way that nurtures the growth, evolution, and full expression of an other. With self-esteem, we can feel and express admiration for the person we love.
Without self-esteem, we are prone to feeling the perceived threat that drives us to extinguish our admiration for the other and pulls us into jealousy.
Communicating our true feelings including fears is key to jump starting and sustaining the connection required for romantic love.
And when a relationship can not accommodate such vulnerable and real communication, it does not provide the potential for true romantic love - a good sign of when to hold, when to fold, when to walk away or run...

Branden reads as if he is speaking to you. Taking the time to think with this book, to respond in your head as you might in dialogue with him, makes the book a field for growing your self and opening your heart.
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Very interesting in depth analysis of that which we call love. The author cites case studies and personal experience to illustrate the various aspects of love. The concepts of psychological visibility and mirroring were especially fascinating.
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