5 of 6 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
FROM FIZZLE TO SIZZLE, February 19, 2008
This review is from: Put Passion First: How Sexual Chemistry is the Key to Finding and Keeping the Man of Your Dreams (Paperback)
FROM FIZZLE TO SIZZLE!
This is the book I've been wanting for 30 years. Carol Cassell has finally said it out loud: Sexual attraction is hugely important. Compatiblity is important -- so are respect and communication and shared values and laughter. But dammit, so is chemistry!
In my practice as a relationship and sex therapist, every day I hear:
"We are best friends, partners, love each other hugely ... cuddle, hold hands ... but we're like brother and sister sexually. No desire for each other."
"If s/he touches me in any way that seems like it could be a sexual overture, I freeze."
"We had sex all the time when we were dating, but after we married [or after the kids, or after grad school, or after whatever whatever] we just lost interest."
AWOL libido is now the most prevailing presenting sexual problem. Sometimes in therapy we uncover psychological/interpersonal problems that get resolved. Maybe it's Yo Momma stuff, or unresolved resentment at each other, or just being overbooked and underslept. But too frequently it's a flame that flared for a while, then guttered and sputtered and finally snuffed.
While Dr. Cassell's excellent book is a cautionary tale for those not yet committed, it also offers wonderful counsel on how to fan the flames again, especially in chapters 5, 10, and 13.
This is my most-recommended book. It's a terrific adjunct to therapy and in some cases can be its replacement, which would be fine with me. I just want to see people claim and enjoy their birthright to happy, fun, bonding sex.
Roz Van Meter, author of "Put Your Big Girl Panties On and Deal With It."
Help other customers find the most helpful reviews
Was this review helpful to you? Yes
No
3 of 4 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
Reach for a relationship with sizzle!, March 10, 2008
This review is from: Put Passion First: How Sexual Chemistry is the Key to Finding and Keeping the Man of Your Dreams (Paperback)
I have known and worked with Dr. Cassell for a number of years. I loved her earlier books, Swept Away and Straight from the Heart. They are wise, kind, and compassionate.
The new book, Put Passion First, challenges women to think about a life partner, not only as a friend but as a lover and a sweetheart. It encourages women to reach for a relationship with some sizzle and not to be shy about that as a goal. She is funny, relevant and tells the truth.
She is the astute best friend that can chide you into answering the question, "can I make him love me if he does not want to commit"? A great book to get and to give!
Help other customers find the most helpful reviews
Was this review helpful to you? Yes
No
2 of 3 people found the following review helpful:
4.0 out of 5 stars
This book smokes...., March 10, 2008
This review is from: Put Passion First: How Sexual Chemistry is the Key to Finding and Keeping the Man of Your Dreams (Paperback)
PUT PASSION FIRST is the paradigm of the future. No more boring be-a-good-girl information saying that a good relationship is about what you and your partner have in common, about your being best friends, and all that other psychological hoo-hah we've been hearing for years. Author Dr. Carol Cassell, a renowned sexologist, makes it clear that for a relationship to last, it needs PASSION, particularly at the beginning. Yes, that's right girls (as if we didn't know it all along): PASSION! Her book lays out the milestones on the path of being an authentic sexual woman and shows women how to appreciate their "wild at heart" nature. PUT PASSION FIRST is science-based but warm-hearted and easy to read. I highly recommend it to women looking for a new honest approach to what does and doesn't make a relationship smoke.
Help other customers find the most helpful reviews
Was this review helpful to you? Yes
No
