Industrial-Sized Deals Shop all Back to School Shop Women's Handbags Learn more nav_sap_SWP_6M_fly_beacon $5 Albums $5 Off Fire TV Stick Grocery Shop Popular Services pivdl pivdl pivdl  Amazon Echo Starting at $99 Kindle Voyage Big Savings in the Amazon Fall Sportsman Event Baby Sale
Putting Children First and over one million other books are available for Amazon Kindle. Learn more
Buy New
$11.80
Qty:1
  • List Price: $17.00
  • Save: $5.20 (31%)
FREE Shipping on orders over $35.
In Stock.
Ships from and sold by Amazon.com.
Gift-wrap available.
Putting Children First: P... has been added to your Cart
Have one to sell? Sell on Amazon
Flip to back Flip to front
Listen Playing... Paused   You're listening to a sample of the Audible audio edition.
Learn more
See all 3 images

Putting Children First: Proven Parenting Strategies for Helping Children Thrive Through Divorce Paperback – May 4, 2010

72 customer reviews

See all 4 formats and editions Hide other formats and editions
Amazon Price New from Used from
Kindle
"Please retry"
Paperback
"Please retry"
$11.80
$5.98 $4.51

New & Popular:"The Brain Fog Fix"
Read the popular new book by Mike Dow.
$11.80 FREE Shipping on orders over $35. In Stock. Ships from and sold by Amazon.com. Gift-wrap available.

Frequently Bought Together

Putting Children First: Proven Parenting Strategies for Helping Children Thrive Through Divorce + Two Homes + My Family's Changing (A First Look At Series)
Price for all three: $24.24

Buy the selected items together

Editorial Reviews

Review

"I am proud to recommend Dr. JoAnne Pedro-Carroll's new book, Putting Children First: Proven Parenting Strategies for Helping Children Thrive Through Divorce. It is very readable, but incorporates a vast amount of research as well as the author's own extensive clinical experience. Today, when so many children suffer the problems created by their parent's divorce, parents and the professionals who work with them during the transitions relating to divorce will find this book a great guide to helping their children cope more successfully."
-Robert J. Haggerty, M.D. former president of The W. T. Grant Foundation and The American Academy of Pediatrics

"Putting Children First provides an abundance of useful information for parents who are divorced, thinking about divorce, or in the process of divorcing. JoAnne Pedro-Carroll is a highly respected psychologist, researcher, and developer of programs for children. She draws on scientific research as well as her own clinical experience to provide clear guidelines for parents based on the best available evidence about what works. I strongly recommend this book to parents as well as mental health and legal professionals who work with children from divorced families."
-Paul R. Amato, Arnold and Bette Hoffman Professor of Family Sociology and Demography, Pennsylvania State University

"This book provides tremendously valuable insight and information about a child's thoughts and feelings and practical advice to parents, counselors and therapists dealing with the trauma accompanying divorce proceedings. Dr. Pedro- Carroll describes the fears and concerns of children and clearly articulates a sensitive way for parents to approach these issues so that families can move forward with their lives in a healthy way."
-Judge Sondra Miller, Director, NYS Unified Court System Office of Matrimonial and Family Law, and former Justice, Appellate Division of the NYS Supreme Court.

"By listening to children and combining a quarter-century of experience with the results of extensive research, Dr. Pedro-Carroll shares invaluable insights into the thoughts and feelings of children who experience what they often call "my divorce."...The guidance offered by this book is unique because it is based on an exceptional knowledge of what goes on in the minds of children and because of the blended sensitivity and pragmatism of the author."
-Lawrence F. Nazarian, MD, Clinical Professor of Pediatrics, University of Rochester School of Medicine & Dentistry

"I have known JoAnne Pedro-Carroll personally and professionally for over 20 years. She clearly is one of the country's top divorce experts. She stands alone in her combination of ground breaking research, keen clinical insights, and unmatched sensitivity to children's struggles through divorce. Her reputation alone will garner great interest in the book. Her knowledge and emotional understanding will surely keep this book on the shelves of divorced parents, therapists, lawyers, and bookstores for years to come."
-Robert E. Emery, Professor of Psychology

About the Author

Joanne Pedro-Carroll, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist, researcher, therapist, and clinical associate professor of psychiatry at the University of Rochester Medical Center. Dr. Pedro-Carroll founded and directed the Children of Divorce Intervention Program and her work has earned numerous awards including the American Psychological Association's Award for Distinguished Contributions in Public Service. She has been married for thirty years and is the mother of seven children and stepchildren. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

NO_CONTENT_IN_FEATURE

Best Books of the Month
Best Books of the Month
Want to know our Editors' picks for the best books of the month? Browse Best Books of the Month, featuring our favorite new books in more than a dozen categories.

Product Details

  • Paperback: 352 pages
  • Publisher: Avery; 1 edition (May 4, 2010)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1583334017
  • ISBN-13: 978-1583334010
  • Product Dimensions: 6 x 0.9 x 9 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 12.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (72 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #15,377 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Discover books, learn about writers, read author blogs, and more.

Customer Reviews

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

39 of 40 people found the following review helpful By Jennifer, A Concerned Mom on January 16, 2012
Format: Paperback
I have searched for help dealing with a break up I didn't want, or see coming. I was blindsided and devastated. I have 3 beautiful children and knew I needed help. There was plenty of advice from well meaning friends and family but nothing really made a difference. The I found Dr. Pedro-Carroll's book, "Putting Children First" and it transformed my thinking and my life. Her suggestions for a more businesslike relationship with my ex helped me heal. There are so many ideas for reassuring and communicating with children that have brought my children and me closer together in understanding than ever before. This book is a MUST READ for any parent. There are plenty of great ideas for raising strong healthy children, whether you're divorced, single or married. My children and I could not have come through all the changes as well without this excellent book.
1 Comment Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback. If this review is inappropriate, please let us know.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
21 of 21 people found the following review helpful By Gail Ferraioli on July 1, 2010
Format: Paperback
JoAnne Pedro-Carroll has brought together sound research, personal experience and the insights from her practice to enlighten parents and professionals alike. Putting Children First imparts wisdom of the highest order - that which responds to the hearts of children who were brave enough to voice their needs and struggles when their parents separated or divorced. With clarity and compassion, this book informs the receptive reader how to take care of themselves and their children to protect their long-term health and well-being. In my practice as a mediator, I have already recommended this outstanding book to my clients. It is a contribution of utmost caring to parents who are struggling to maintain sense and sensibilities in the midst of emotional upheaval and a guide to preserve stability and demonstrate their deepest love for their children.
Comment Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback. If this review is inappropriate, please let us know.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
18 of 19 people found the following review helpful By Rita Izzo LCSWR on September 5, 2011
Format: Paperback
Having worked with children and families for almost thirty years I have read and recommended many self help books for the divorcing couple. Never have I seen any of them address specifics on visitation schedules for high divorce couples. We can't just keep telling people they have to get along for the sake of the children. This book looks at the reality that many divorces are and may remain high conflict and makes specific recommendations for those couples as well as cooperative parents. Fantastic to see this kind of detail!
Comment Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback. If this review is inappropriate, please let us know.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
26 of 30 people found the following review helpful By James Connell on September 19, 2010
Format: Paperback Verified Purchase
This outstanding book treats the challenge divorce presents to parents with respect, but not alarm. Dr. Pedro-Carroll does not spare the reader the harmful consequences a badly handled divorce can have for children. However, in every chapter, the author lays out clear and feasible options that all parents can draw on to help them and their children make it through divorce successfully.

This book speaks to a wide range of audiences -- parents, grandparents, mental health and legal professionals as well as folks like myself with friends and family members who face the challenge of divorce. Throughout the book, author's use of the research literature is clear and convincing. The case studies she uses are pointed, poignant and highly instructive. I feel like I "know" some of the people she describes; and I deeply appreciate the empathy and understanding the author brings to their situations.

Readers can open this book to any page or read it from front to back. In either case, you'll learn something important and useful about what it means and what it takes for parents and children to "make it" through this difficult transition.
2 Comments Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback. If this review is inappropriate, please let us know.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
9 of 9 people found the following review helpful By Donna Maier on February 9, 2012
Format: Paperback Verified Purchase
I am a financial professional working with folks who are ending or contemplating ending their marriage. While it might seem that most of my work would involve the financial aspects of their separation, we often discuss the many concerns they have about their children and how they may fare through the process. I have offered Dr. Pedro-Carroll's book to so many of my clients they seem to fly off my bookshelf. Parents are so relieved to have this book as a resource; it helps them refocus on how their children are also struggling to make sense of a world seemingly turned on its ear. I cannot express adequately enough the heartfelt thanks I receive from parents of children of all ages for connecting them to such sound and practical advice.

--Donna M. Maier, CDFA,AVA
Member of the Collaborative Law Association of the Rochester Area and International Academy of Collaborative Professionals
Comment Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback. If this review is inappropriate, please let us know.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
9 of 9 people found the following review helpful By Jody on April 24, 2013
Format: Paperback Verified Purchase
I am a grandmother and felt compelled to educate myself about children and divorce as my daughter and son-in-law recently announced that they are getting a divorce after 15 years of marriage. It was very informative and I noticed from other reviews that it is a very good read. Children are hit very hard when parents decide to break up a marriage. All parents need to educate themselves as much as possible when it comes to telling their children about their parents breaking up their marriage as they wonder "what is going to happen to me". They have so many questions, insecurities and it also deals with how you should break the news to them according to their age. I think any one going through a divorce with children will benefit from this book. I did and so did my daughter.
Comment Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback. If this review is inappropriate, please let us know.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
9 of 9 people found the following review helpful By M. Wilkens on July 10, 2013
Format: Paperback Verified Purchase
As a parent who's primary concern is my young son, this book has been extremely helpful. It's broken out into age segments so you can get an idea of what to expect now, as well as what your child may feel and experience as they grow older. After reading several chapters, I ordered one for my future ex so he could understand how important it is to put our differences aside and make the transition as easy as possible for our son. I highly recommend this book to anyone who is going through a separation or divorce.
Comment Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback. If this review is inappropriate, please let us know.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again

Set up an Amazon Giveaway

Amazon Giveaway allows you to run promotional giveaways in order to create buzz, reward your audience, and attract new followers and customers. Learn more
Putting Children First: Proven Parenting Strategies for Helping Children Thrive Through Divorce
This item: Putting Children First: Proven Parenting Strategies for Helping Children Thrive Through Divorce
Price: $11.80
Ships from and sold by Amazon.com

Want to discover more products? Check out these pages to see more: children divorce, single parenting, divorce dads