Questions Adoptees Are Asking: ...about beginnings...about birth family...about searching...about finding peace [Paperback]

Sherrie Eldridge (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: January 15, 2009

People who have been adopted grow up with many similar questions, thoughts, challenges, and choices, such as, "Does my birth mother ever think about me?" and "What is my real worth? Was I a mistake?"

More than 70 adoptees discuss these and other adoption issues and try to arrive at answers.

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From the Back Cover

Do you ever:
• Wonder if your birth mother ever thinks about you?
• Feel uncomfortable talking to your parents about your birth family?
• Doubt your worth?
• Wonder if your life was a mistake?
• Think that others don’t “get it” about adoption?

Sherrie Eldridge interviews more than seventy adoptees to bring your questions to light, find the answers, and create connection among adult adoptees. Discover freedom in the unity and in your unique life purpose as you realize your value in life.

For five years, Twenty Life-Transforming Choices Adoptees Need to Make has impacted the lives of adoptees and their families. This updated edition goes deeper with study questions for support groups or personal use.

About the Author

Sherrie Eldridge is an internationally known speaker and author of books about adoption. Her best seller Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew is in its ninth year of publication and has sold more than 130,000 copies. By blending biblical truths with life-changing principles, Sherrie helps parents see adoption from their child’s viewpoint. Her passion is to deepen relationships between parents and their adopted children. Visit www.sherrieeldridge.com for details on other resources.

Other books:

Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew (1999, 2003)
Forever Fingerprints: An Amazing Discovery for Adopted Children (2007)
Twenty Things Adoptive Parents Need to Succeed (2009)

Free Workbooks at www.sherrieeldridge.com:

Under His Wings: Creating a Safe Place for Adoptees to Talk About Adoption
Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew
Beauty for Ashes: A Healing Path for Those Touched by Adoption
Twelve Steps for Adopted Teens

Product Details

• Paperback: 288 pages
• Publisher: NavPress; New Edition edition (January 15, 2009)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1600065953
• ISBN-13: 978-1600065958
• Product Dimensions: 8.3 x 5.5 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 8.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (5 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,006,270 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Sherrie Eldridge....Coaching Adoptees to Get Strong and Move On

Award-winning author and speaker, Sherrie Eldridge is straight-shooting, transparent, and compassionate toward everyone touched by adoption. Her basic belief about adoption loss is that one can grow from the loss and grief. Thus, the online support she founded is called the 140 member international ALL-ADOPTEE GROWTH [e-mail]. It is open to adopted teens and adults.

ADOPTION RESOURCES at www.sherrieeldridge.com:
Books:
~20 Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew
`20 Things Adoptive Parents Need to Succeed
~20 Life-Transforming Choices Adoptees Need to Make
~Questions Adoptees Are Asking
~Forever Fingerprints: An Amazing Discovery for Adopted Children

Free Workbooks: (for support group use, individual, counselor)
~Under His Wings: Creating a Safe Place for Adoptees to Talk @ Adoption
~Under His Wings: Spanish edition
~Beauty for Ashes...Transforming A Painful Past
~12 Steps for Adoptees
~12 Steps for Adopted Teens

ALL-ADOPTEE Online BOOT CAMP
~3 times per year
~Join; http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ALL-ADOPTEE

Blog: Braids of Adoption: http://sherrieeldridge.blogspot.com

Customer Reviews

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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars If you are an adoptee or an adoptive parent read this book, June 7, 2011

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PK - See all my reviews

This review is from: Questions Adoptees Are Asking: ...about beginnings...about birth family...about searching...about finding peace (Paperback)

This is the book is part of what I call "The Eldridge Trilogy"*.
As an adoptive parent do you ever wonder what is going on in you child's mind as s/he stars into space seemingly in another world. Maybe it's a temporary trance (you know, the one we all get once in awhile) but it could likely be that you child is thinking about her/his beginnings, about birth parents, about the numerous "whys" that pop up in his/her daily life. Not merely abstract existential questions but practical, "real world" whys- why I think about my birth parents (do they think about me?), why others don't understand me, why I get angry so easily, why I'm embarrassed or afraid about talking about adoption, why I feel terrified of rejection, why all of my questions seem unquenchable and in many cases unanswerable. Sherrie Eldridge discusses more than 22 "whys" in this book. Each chapter covers a specific "why" question. And, at the end of each chapter she includes two sections: "Discussion Questions for Support Groups or Personal Reflection" and/or "Digging Deeper for Answers to Our Adoption Questions". The second section is more religious based. This book is packed with information covering a broad range of Q/A, with practical illustrations from the author's life and from the thousands of adoptees and adoptive parents she has interacted with for years. This book is one that you can return to over and over, choosing the why question you or your child may be experiencing at the moment. The author's religious leaning is in the book but it does not detract from the content. If anything, it adds an affirming tone in dealing with why questions that many adoptees are asking.

*I highly recommend "The Eldridge Trilogy" which consists of "Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew ; Questions Adoptees Are Asking (about beginnings, about birth family, about searching, about finding peace)" and "20 Things Adoptive Parents Need to Succeed (Discover the secrets to understanding the unique needs of your adopted child- and becoming the best parent you can be)." These should be required reading for every adoption counselor or social worker involved in adoption, every adoptive parent, and when age appropriate, every adoptee.

1 of 1 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars "I can now see my adoption experience through God's eyes", April 12, 2011

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beth willis miller - See all my reviews

This review is from: Questions Adoptees Are Asking: ...about beginnings...about birth family...about searching...about finding peace (Paperback)

"I can now see my adoption experience through God's eyes" resonates with the truth I have come to learn by working through Sherrie Eldridge's wonderful book "Questions Adoptees Are Asking." You will want to read other fine works by Sherrie Eldridge, as well as connecting to her wisdom through her website and her blog: [...] and [...] Thank you, Sherrie, for giving voice to what I know is true in the innermost part of me in your description of "THE BEAUTIFUL BRAID OF ADOPTION...Long ago in eternity past, God determined that He would make a beautiful braid, and He called it Adoption. The braid has four ribbons: red for the adoptee, green for the birth parents, purple for the adoptive parents, and the golden strand for His Sovereignty that weaves our lives together...God planned who my birth parents would be and who my Mom and Dad would be. Both influences, plus His, are needed to help us become all that He created us to be."

5.0 out of 5 stars Helpful insights for parents of adopted kids, July 20, 2011

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Virginia - See all my reviews

This review is from: Questions Adoptees Are Asking: ...about beginnings...about birth family...about searching...about finding peace (Paperback)

I read Sherrie's books before when my children where younger, and I felt that they gave me insight that I would possibly need in the future. Well that time has arrived. My daughter is 10 and is full of questions and emotions related to her adoption. I have reread the books, and am so thankful for Sherrie's thorough research and her transparency about her own journey. It is uncanny to me that the thoughts my daughter is having are exactly those raised in this book. I am grateful that I can share with her that she is not alone and that it is OK to think through things. I believe that Sherrie's books have helped me feel comfortable with my daughter's thoughts, and helped me to not feel threatened in any way by her questioning the "Why's" of her adoption. No one person reacts in the same way. Every journey is different. I am just thankful that Sherrie's books have prepared me and given me a little window to my daughter's soul at this important time in her life.