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Product Details

  • Paperback: 208 pages
  • Publisher: Harvest House Publishers (August 1, 2011)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0736937773
  • ISBN-13: 978-0736937771
  • Product Dimensions: 8.4 x 5.5 x 0.6 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 7.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (35 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #225,139 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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"Clayton and Charie have written the book that single people have been waiting for. It is practical. It is biblical. It is filled with advice that is doable. And it also has much to offer married people as well. In a day when the church desperately needs its people to show the reality of the gospel to a lost world by how we love each other in our marriages, I cannot think of a better book for Christians to read and implement than this one."
--Perry Noble, Senior pastor, Newspring Church

"While some claim to have all the answers, Clayton and Charie take another approach. You might say they have all the questions. The eye-opening book they've written, 12 Questions to Ask Before You Marry, will show you that your craving for lifelong intimacy is a God-given desire. With wisdom, humor, and practical advice, they'll help you prepare for that God-honoring relationship...
"With God's direction through this powerful book, I pray you'll find the answers that lead you to the one-of-a-kind love story God has written for your life."
--Craig Groeschel, author; founding and senior pastor of LifeChurch.tv

"Future generations of husbands and wives need wise, biblical instruction on how to enjoy God's gift of marriage. Clayton and Charie King have done a fantastic job of preparing young men and women for marriage by encouraging them to ask commonsense questions that reveal very important issues of character, conviction, and competence. I urge you to read this book, whether you are dating or have been married for 40 years."
--Daniel Akin, president, Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary and author of God on Sex

"Here at Liberty University, the world's largest Christian university, we have recently been blessed to have Clayton King serve as our campus pastor. He is loved by our students, who demand authenticity and candor from their spiritual leaders. Students joke about how many breakups occur after some of Clayton's sermons, but they are thankful because the biblically based instruction that he provides about love and marriage has helped prevent many mistakes that could have ruined young lives. In this book, he and Charie, his wife, share the same truth and wisdom, which I believe will help young Christian couples build strong relationships that will last for a lifetime."
--Jerry Falwell Jr., chancellor and president, Liberty University

"Clayton and Charie King have crafted a book that needs to be read by married couples as well as singles, college students, parents of teenagers, and adolescents. Too often, people approach marriage as if the feelings of love alone will sustain them indefinitely. Of course, this is not true, but this book goes further than quoting divorce statistics and flashing warning signs. It encourages caution, instructs with wisdom, and inspires with biblical truth. I hope you will read this book and apply its principles."
--Tim Clinton, president, American Association of Christian Counselors

"Clayton and Charie King want to see marriages bring joy to families and glory to God. This helpful book advises young adults to look past sentimental notions of romance to see the challenges and rewards of the reality of lifelong commitment. Clayton and Charie offer strong medicine that will lead to stronger families."
--Trevin Wax, author of Counterfeit Gospels and Holy Subversion

"The Kings have demonstrated to me personally over the last ten years what it means to be truly married and truly following Christ. They have patterned their lives not on mountaintop ideals but on hard-won principles from the Word lived out in the valleys of real life. Clayton and Charie have written a gift to the church, a book on relationships that meets all of us wherever we are and spurs us on towards the gracious Lordship of Jesus Christ."
--Matt Orth, pastor, Broad River Community Church

"Clayton King is one of the most anointed communicators in the church today. I have seen God use Clayton in front of thousands, and I've seen God use him in front of just a few people. In both situations, Clayton has the right word at the right moment to encourage, to influence, and most importantly, to point people to Christ. I know that God will use this book to impact thousands--my prayer is that you will allow this book to impact you."
--Jonathan Falwell, pastor, Thomas Road Baptist Church

"Since I first met Clayton, he has been passionate about people having healthy relationships and marriages. He's one of the greatest men of God I've ever known, and there's no one better equipped to help you have the God-honoring relationship you've been created for. Whether you're single or married, this book is essential reading."
--Steven Furtick, lead pastor, Elevation Church and author of Sun Stand Still

"If your parents were divorced and you have ever said, ‘I don't want my relationship to end up like theirs,' then this book is for you!  Dating, courtship and engagement are words that sound like a terrifying emotional gauntlet to most Millenniums.  Who can blame them for being so fearful with such a high body count of those who have failed at navigating their way through the relational maze?  12 Questions to Ask Before You Marry breaks the code and helps readers to successfully steer and sustain God-centered and healthy relationships that last a lifetime."
--Tony Nolan

About the Author

Clayton King, a pastor, evangelist, missionary, and author, has been dedicated since age 14 to proclaiming the gospel and calling Christians to live out the life of Jesus. He has spoken to millions of people in 30-plus countries and written numerous books, including Dying to Live, Amazing Encounters with God, and 12 Questions to Ask Before You Marry (coauthored with his wife, Charie). Clayton loves good books, the outdoors, strong coffee, dirt bikes and four-wheelers, and especially his wife and children.

Sharie King is an artist, author, and a popular speaker at youth and women's conferences. She has coauthored 12 Questions to Ask Before You Marry with her husband, Clayton. Together with her pastor-evangelist husband, Sharie shares a passion to serve Christ through ministry, missions, and marriage, which she pursues by prioritizing being a wife to Clayton and a mom to their two sons.

More About the Author

Clayton is the author of 7 books and sold over 150,000 copies independently before being published with Harvest House. His most recent book "12 Questions" focuses on the most important issues in dating relationships and marriage.

He is the Founder and President of Crossroads Worldwide, a non-profit ministry, and is Teaching Pastor at Newspring Church in South Carolina. He is also Campus Pastor at Liberty University, the world's largest Christian university. He is founder of Crossroads Summer Camps, Crossroads Missions, and Jacob's Well Music Festival.

He has traveled in 35 countries, been chased by the Russian KGB in Moscow, been thrown out of a Motley Crue concert, and been shot at in the Himalayas of Kashmir. He is married to Charie, adores his two boys Jacob and Joseph, and he can talk backwards.

You can watch him speak at www.claytonking.com/media and for an entire sermon, go to http://vimeo.com/31926584

You can preview and purchase his self-published titles at www.claytonking.com/store

Customer Reviews

Both of you should read this book and then sit down and discuss in detail.
John c.Paden
I absolutely loved the book and would highly recommend it to anybody; single, married, young, or old.
This book establishes the basic foundation for defining healthy relationships.

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

8 of 8 people found the following review helpful By Lydia on September 13, 2011
Format: Paperback
I started this book with every intention to tell my boyfriend of two years that we were ready to get marry. Well have way through I realized that not only were we not ready, we really shouldn't have been together at all. It was so rocky (break up-get back together) over seven times in two years. But after re-reading the first chapter (that I had skimmed because I thought it didn't apply to me) I saw just how childish I act and how I have not been in a Christ-centered relationship ever. This is a hard realization because I attend a school that breeds couples and expects marriage in a timely fashion. So now I can sort of use this book as my excuse! I would recommend to anyone in any relationship status and honestly don't just assume you have all the answers to these 12 questions, because I sure didn't.

PS Totally getting one for all the single adults in my life.
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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful By Jeremy Carroll Carden on September 21, 2011
Format: Paperback
It was a blessing to read this book, I am single but it helped me to prepare not just for a relationship but in a future marriage. Clayton King and his wife put some life-changing lessons within the 12 questions that they ask in this book. Some real-life experiences that they went through were some that made me laugh but really think about myself and what I need to change before I am ready to bring another person into my life. I would HIGHLY recommend this book for anyone that is thinking about marriage or how one should prepare them for it.

Thanks to the Kings for writing such an excellent book!
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful By BrittP on September 20, 2011
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I love this book! My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years now, and obviously, the marriage talk as come up. After three years, you think you know someone and there can't possibly be anything left to find out. Well, that's wrong! This book IS NOT promoting breaking up if you don't hit or agree on all aspects of the 12 questions. Rather, it's a guide to help you deal with these very important aspects of your relationship. I was able to have a deeper conversation with my boyfriend, based on another couple's guidance.

Don't be quick to judge the Kings either. They are far from "out of touch" with 20 somethings and definitely remember what it was like before they were married and had a family. They also know what it is like to be young and in love, and offer advice to a productive relationship!

Again, this book is not going to tell you to break up STAT if you haven't covered one question in the text. If you look at it like a map to helping you figure out what should be happening in your relationship, I promise you will get what you're looking for. You have to be open, receptive, and communicate with your significant other and I strongly suggest you use this book as a helpful tool!
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By Kennedy on August 30, 2011
Format: Paperback
By Clayton and Charie King (Harvest House Publishers, 2011)

There is always a myriad of inquiries circulating your mind like a thousand gerbils running around in a quickened pace on their exercise wheels, prior to taking the plunge into the sacred vows of marriage. This book focuses on twelve essential questions to ask yourself and discuss with your potential spouse before you go dress and tuxedo shopping.

Deep thoughts to consider are delicately beaded with personal stories of the authors to supply this book with ideas to ponder and discussions to have with your possible mate. Biblical wisdom and quotes are sprinkled throughout the pages of this book.

Fresh perspectives are laced within this book, which work to open the pathways of communication between probable life partners. This book would make an excellent addition to your personal library if you are planning to take the walk down the aisle; this book would also make a memorable gift to a friend who is fluffing their mind with thoughts of a proposal or a wedding.

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher through the Harvest House Publishers book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255vf: "Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising."
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By Alvin Reid on August 25, 2011
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I spend most of my life with young adults either as a professor at a seminary, a director of ministry to young professionals in my church, or as a spiritual dad to a lot of young adults I love. Clayton and Charie King have written a helpful and practical book for young adults and others. Many today are nervous about marriage because they see failure all around them. Others have never seen a great and godly marriage, so they do not know what that looks like. The Kings show the wonderful, positive, beautiful side of a marriage founded in Christ without ignoring the real struggles we all face. I will be having the couples I counsel read this one, and I encourage you to do the same.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By Jennifer on August 23, 2011
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I read this book, expecting a confirmation that I was ready for marriage. Boy was I wrong but I loved the book. It forced me to look at myself, my thought patterns and habits, where my heart is and how my heart is reflected through actions. I HIGHLY recommend this to anyone looking to get married, all ages, all stages of life. It is also a book for singles and marrieds alike. I like that it pointed me to where I am and gave instructions on how to move forward. Even if you don't buy into the whole church/ Jesus thing this advice is just plain good common sense. The Bible, in general, is a good rule of thumb. Not to take away from how amazing a relationship with Jesus is but don't shy away from the book just because you aren't a believer. Thank you Clayton and Charie for being transparent and pouring into people from your overflow.
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