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Quirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics

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I thought this was a great book and actually has an important message. We no longer need to be defined by our relationship history, current status or future plans. I think we are living in extraordinary times where a significant portion of the population are starting to make choices like this and that the trend will grow in direct proportion to our increased freedom and flexibility around relationships. However, the book is way too cute and fluffy and probably in the next few years Ms Cagen will be putting out some more weightier books. The other thing was that half the "quirky alone" bios were of people in their 20's and frankly unless you've had the hairy experience of singledom in your 30's you don't know anything.

I was thrilled to find this book after visiting the Quirkyalone website and discovering through taking their simple test I am VERY, VERY quirkyalone. All this time I just thought I was different than most people I met!!

I found this book comforting, hilarious, mind opening and connecting.

The biographies of other quirkyalones and the chapter on quirkytogethers was especially excellent, since being a quirkyalone does not mean you are a recluse, its more like you are comfortable with solitude AND enjoy company.

No wonder I never fared well on the Myers-Briggs when it came to "Am I Extroverted or Introverted?" I am quirkyalone! I love parties and people AND I need to be alone, too.

Ironically, I found this book in the "Relationships" section of the bookstore, which gave me a good laugh.

Read this book and give it as a gift to anyone you know who fits the profile. They will be glad, as I was, to know that I am no longer "alone" in my status as contented, peaceful quirkytogether quirkyalone!

By the time I discovered this book, it had already begun to dawn on me that perhaps I didn't NEED to be in a relationship to be happy, that just maybe what others call "too picky" is really exquisite self-awareness, and that life could be exciting, joyful, and filled with unending possibility once I learned to stop twisting myself into the shape society says we should take and be the real Me instead.

Sasha Cagen gave my journey a name: Quirkyalone.

While I may quibble with a few of the particulars she lays out, the bigger picture she has tapped into is clearly something deep and very important and deserving of attention. I hope that people aren't put off by the "alone" part of the title, because it is not at all about loneliness or isolation. Rather, it's about being courageously and unapologetically true to oneself and living life on one's own terms.

For those of us who feel we've already arrived, this book is comforting validation. For those who seek greater independence and fulfillment in their lives, it just may help lead the way.

i went to a reading by the author in san francisco last night, she was hysterical! what i like about the book is that it isn't just "rah-rah, being single is fantastic" , but looks at some of the more complex, darker (and very funny) aspects of single life too. i also like that it's very antidotal, and has a lot of different people's stories. definitely a fun read!

After I bought the book, I took a bath and spent all day reading it. Writing about women and dating is usually so generic and boring-we must follow the rules or treat relationships like business deals. Uggh! This book creates a new term and a new liberating way to look at ourselves. Although I am in a relationship, I can identify with many of the ideas of quirkyalone-cultivating a relationship with myself comes first for me and I love the way she talks about how important friendship is in life. I used to read the author's To-Do List zine and this magazine shows her zinester spirit. Maybe some people want heavy sociological reading on relationships, but to me the do-it-yourself spirit rocks. It has lots of real people's stories, cool lists and just plain funny, strange elements-I hate how polished some books are so that you can't see any of the real stuff. This book has the lightness of a good women's magazine (without being a sell-out on how to be great in bed or land a guy) and the grittiness of a zine. I really liked hearing about Sasha's life and I identified with the other quirkyalones. This book made me happy.

This book changed my life. It's one of the most unique books I've ever read--chock full of images, lists, quirkyalone mottos, advice, mad libs, and more! It's fun, insightful, quirky, and perfect. Cagen does a great job letting us know that we should embrace ourselves whether we are single or coupled.

It's the perfect antidote to patronizing books such as "The Rules" and "The Surrendered Single." I'm going to buy a copy for all of my friends and family members (especially the ones that are constantly bugging me about finding "the one")!

I came across the term Quirkyalone while reading the weekly "What's Going On" paper. It was about the upcoming International Quirkyalone Day and the QA idea. I knew then that the ideas being described were describing me, and from that day forward, I stopped wondering what I was doing wrong in trying to find and keep relationships with the opposite sex. I'm much happier since I let that go.

This book doesn't have the answers, but it's got some great questions to ponder and matters for debate. All I needed once I knew the term was that I wasn't alone.

Was "What do I need you for I'm the Queen of England!" Let this book be your manifesto anthem to declare your independance from boring and worse ... codependant draining relationships that are an utter waste of time!

I'm one of those incredibly romantic women who would rather bypass all the frogs for as long as it takes until the right person comes along. I would rather be a spinster than second or third wife, I'd rather be single than settle, and I'd rather be independant than codependant. To me life is to be romanced just like the French say joie de vivre (love of life)and my motto and prescription for love happiness is to have a rich inner life. I love romantic comedies and epic romantic foreign films .... but in this harried dating world .... most men are just about meeting the meat. Not interested! I'd rather engage in taking people on historical tours of the city, participate in storytelling festivals, and yoga away than invest any of my precious energy in the wrong man! Life is too short! Live it up and alone DOES NOT mean lonely.

One of the things I love about the book is the wit with which this concept is put forth. It's funny and smart, which is so not the case for most books in the "relationships" section of bookstores. I also feel a little spooked by Quirkyalone. I wonder if Sasha has secretly been living in one of my bedroom for years reading through my diaries. The book so articulates my life being single and the long-term relationships I have been involved in, that is almost scary! Highly recommended for everyone who does not believe in a "timeline" for getting married or that you need to bring a date to a wedding or any of the other stifling messages we get--a needed affirmation for people who want to live life on their own terms. THANK YOU SASHA!

This book articulated what I have felt and believed my whole life: love is important, but it is not always romatically focused. And when it is, it should never be a sellout or settling. This book is for anyone who has never aspired to the status quo of coupledom, but would welcome it when they met the right person. Insightful, playful, cutting edge, inspiring, fun & grounded at different turns... It revolutionized my world bc it gave me a label and a group to identify with. THANK YOU SASHA!!!