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I Quit!: Stop Pretending Everything Is Fine and Change Your Life Paperback – September 7, 2010

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Product Details

  • Paperback: 224 pages
  • Publisher: Zondervan (September 7, 2010)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0310321964
  • ISBN-13: 978-0310321965
  • Product Dimensions: 5.3 x 0.6 x 8 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 8 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (55 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #93,038 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

Editorial Reviews


"I read Geri Scazzero's book on a day that had been particularly challenging, one of those "I can't handle another thing!" kind of days. I was able to listen to her wisdom without all the defensive barriers I might normally erect when I don't want to be faced with uncomfortable truth. Geri's words encouraged me - and even pushed me - to examine my patterns of relating to God and to those closest to me. Her example of living in the freedom that comes from being confident of God's love inspires me to do some intentional soul work. Thank you, Geri." --- --Kay Warren, Founder, HIV/AIDS Initiative


'I needed this book. I was running on empty trying to meet others' expectations of me. Geri helped me diagnose my situation and gave me practical, applicable, biblical ways to address it. Thank you, Geri. This is a must-read. It is freeing!' -- Ruth Graham <br><br>

More About the Author

Geri Scazzero is a popular conference speaker for church leaders, married couples, and women's groups, both in North America and internationally. She trains and equips leadership teams, churches, and non-profit ministries to implement emotionally healthy skills and spiritual formation into their organizations. Geri is the author of The Emotionally Healthy Woman (Zondervan, 2013), co-author of the Emotionally Healthy Skills 2.0 curriculum, and the best-selling Emotionally Healthy Spirituality Workbook (Willow Creek Association, 2009). She has also served on the staff of New Life Fellowship Church in Queens, New York for the last twenty-five years. Connect with Geri on Facebook at www.facebook.com/GeriScazzero.

Customer Reviews

I found myself thinking deeply as I read through the book.
I took Geri's advice and read a couple of chapters "out of order" and found this in no way detracted from the overall message of the book.
David Carter
The good kind that frees us to be who God made us to be and not who we think others want or who we think we may need to be.
Michelle Neumeier

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47 of 51 people found the following review helpful By Jenni French on October 5, 2010
Format: Paperback
The author of this book posits that many people are afraid to evaluate what's wrong in their lives because they fear change. The status quo may not be ideal, but it is, at least, comfortable, and so people choose to live in their discomfort rather than improving their situation and taking care of themselves.

However, there does come a tipping point when a person decides that enough is enough, and changes can then occur. Scazzero herself reached this point in her life when things weren't working, and she chose to make some positive changes that improved her relationship with God and her ability to minister to those around her.

Those of you who have read Cloud and Townsend's Boundaries will recognize many of the ideas in this book. Scazzero divides her book into several different "I Quit" statements where she encourages her readers to quit on thing in order to receive something else, like quitting faulty thinking in order to live in reality.

I appreciated Scazzero's practical approach to this topic, and I believe that her book is one that should be read by everyone in full-time ministry or anyone who has a lingering dissatisfaction with the status quo. It could be that it is time for your status quo to change.

I received a complimentary copy of this book for the purposes of review.
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26 of 28 people found the following review helpful By Nancy A Cottington on October 25, 2010
Format: Kindle Edition Verified Purchase
I downloaded this book free from kindle. I am not a "religious" person, nor do I know the author.
This book is heavy on the religion, but I say whatever gets you through the day; however, I thought this book was fabulous in illustrating how sometimes we stumble into situations that either change and become overwhelming or just our own lack of initiative to set proper boundaries. It's hard to say no to family/friends/bosses/neighbors. This book is also about remaining true to yourself. To reminding you that you have a voice and even if something started with the best intentions that you have the right to set it down if it becomes too much. In our competitive society it is easy to get caught up in the work a full-time job/raise multiple kids/be the soccer mom/homeroom teacher/best friends/member of an extended family race. I wholeheartedly applaud anyone stopping, taking a step back and reevaluating if this situation is truly best for them. I read this book, recommended it to a friend who also downloaded it. We have already discussed buying this book in print because it is just one of those books you want on your bookshelf that you can pick up and read when things occasionally begin spiraling out of control.
What am I quitting? 1) I will no longer prop up a relationship that I should have allowed to collapse, 2) watching TV, because it really does not bring me joy...and I am just getting started.....
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9 of 11 people found the following review helpful By dachkl on November 23, 2010
Format: Paperback
I have had a number of conversations recently about emotional health in life and ministry. Some have argued that boundaries are necessarily for health and sustainability in ministry, while others have suggested that faithfulness calls for sacrifice. As I am currently in a rather demanding season of life wrestling through these issues, I was looking forward to reading Geri Scazzero's I Quit!: Stop Pretending Everything is Fine and Change Your Life (Zondervan, 2010).

While the book is written from Geri's perspective, it is co-written with her husband, Peter (co-author of The Emotionally Healthy Church). The book offers eight areas one might need to quit in order to pursue a healthy sense of balance emotionally, spiritually, psychologically, and vocationally:

* Quit Being Afraid of What Others Think
* Quit Lying
* Quit Dying to the Wrong Things
* Quit Denying Anger, Sadness, and Fear
* Quit Blaming
* Quit Overfunctioning
* Quit Faulty Thinking
* Quit Living Someone Else's Life

In these areas, Scazzero uses personal and biblical examples to show how 'quitting' in these areas offered release and freedom from the overbearing and unhealthy demands on her life as a wife, mother, pastor, and leader.

Scazzero does not shy away from her conviction that personal boundaries are healthy, necessary, and too often neglected for fear of not being seen as a "good Christian." This is a highly personal book and, at times, felt too personal as the author aired frustrations with marriage and family life throughout the book. Some of the examples and corresponding solutions felt a bit extreme, causing me, as a reader, to question whether my more moderate situation actually required the drastic changes encouraged in the book.
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9 of 11 people found the following review helpful By Kevin L. Nenstiel TOP 1000 REVIEWERVINE VOICE on November 10, 2010
Format: Kindle Edition Verified Purchase
When Geri Scazzero tells you to quit, she wants you to pare out everything that separates you from your authentic, God-given life. She bases this on firm Christian grounding and faith that God has a plan for you. She doesn't want you to throw your hands in the air and leave in a huff; she wants you to know and act on the difference between Godly truth and worldly illusion.

On the one hand, I understand what Scazzero means by "quit." Who hasn't occasionally tried to live an inauthentic life, putting out others' fires, binding ourselves to a life that divides us from God's will. When worldly pressures start to sap our God-given spirits, it's surely time to put aside the distractions of this world and turn our focus to what God wants for our lives.

But on the other hand, I question how Scazzero conveys her point. Years ago, she distanced herself from her husband and co-author, Pete, when his needs left her drained. She regales us with anecdotes--"I had to move to another church," "I had to demand Pete help raise the kids," "I had to get a job outside the home"--until the Christian guidance started to sound like a laundry list of grievances against Pete, and I felt like a voyeur at a private therapy session.

I agree with Scazzero's core points, especially since she accurately identifies several key areas where I'm guilty of letting something divide me from God. But as Pete stories accumulate, my eyes glaze over, often right when I most ought to pay attention. This book has many rewards, but getting to them can be a challenge in its own right.
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