on November 8, 2012
First, it's great that someone has taken the time to study this subject. It can be hard for kids who aren't from affluent backgrounds at these schools - most students at these schools are wealthy, especially as they have become harder and harder to gain admission to.
I have two children in NESCAC schools, but they were prepared by attending Northeast (Boston area) elite high schools on partial scholarships. They did fine - they never pretended to be anyone but who they were, and had many friends and got along fine. The goal for our family was always the incredible opportunity they were getting and that was what mattered - we always told them that money doesn't make anyone better than you - they just have more money.
College has been a piece of cake - that whole class thing is watered down. But kids who are struggling should get the help and encouragement they need to "keep their eyes on the prize" and not let anyone make them feel out of place. They probably belong there more than lots of the other kids.