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Good lessons, Distracting philosophies
on February 8, 2010
I found it very difficult to concentrate on the core message of the book because of the distracting philosophies presented.
First I believe that Colin has some very great ideas about forgiving. I can understand and accept the message about anger, hate and other feelings we hang on to cause much of our physical and emotional problems and lead to illness.
There are some very powerful lessons about how we play the victim role, how we want to be right, how we need to be validated. And our need to be right often creates or increases the problems in our lives. We often attract those who are a mirror of what we don't like about ourselves.
And even though he says Radical Forgiveness works whether you believe his assumptions or not, I still have some trouble getting past his assumptions. He is very honest and straightforward in his beliefs. He shares his assumptions but does not offer any proof on them in this book.
One of his assumptions is that the soul lives before and after the body. That our soul chooses to be born and chooses who the parents will be. Because of our past lives, we come into this life with certain problems and that fate brings people into our lives to help us solve the problem. He further believes that the soul forgets everything about past lives at a conscious level but retains knowledge at the subconscious level.
I do believe that a lot of what is taught in this book can bring about healing of the body and soul. However unless you are willing to overlook those things that you do not agree with or can totally embrace his philosophy and assumptions, you will probably be too distracted to see the value of the lessons. Even if you see and agree with the good points, some people will find the assumptions so distracting that they will only focus on what they disagree with.
If you cannot approach this book with a totally open mind, then do not even begin it. On the other hand, if you are comfortable with the core assumptions, you will probably find lots of value in the book.
If you can get past the philosophies, he gives you a worksheet for applying Radical Forgiveness to your own life.