"Some people may describe adoption as difficult; others simply describe it as different. I am inclined to think of it as complex," writes Lois Ruskai Melina in the updated, revised Raising Adopted Children: Practical, Reassuring Advice for Every Adoptive Parent.
Adoption practices have evolved considerably since this book's first publication in 1986, and the new version of the "Dr. Spock for adoptive parents" reflects the latest theories. Drawing on the findings and practices of pediatricians, social workers, scientists, and adoptive parents, Raising Adopted Children is carefully and thoroughly researched. Chapters on open adoption, international adoption, and transracial adoption are combined with advice on bonding and attachment, breast-feeding an adoptive infant (possible but complicated), dealing with schools, privacy issues, adopting a child with disabilities, adopting as a single parent, and the challenges of adolescence. While Melina's many years of professional and personal experience shape her advice, she remains very evenhanded. For example, she's a strong proponent of the "early telling" theory of adoption (being open about the adoption with the child from the beginning), but she also clearly presents other points of view, and, throughout the book, encourages parents to make decisions that feel right for them.
The text includes specific suggestions for explaining a child's birth circumstances, including common misconceptions, and a valuable discussion about whether adoptees are at greater risk for behavior problems or learning disabilities. She also provides suggestions for setting rules for contact with biological parents, easing grief, and acknowledging a child's history. A completely annotated list of selected references and resources rounds out this superior guide. --Ericka Lutz
In this comprehensive exploration of adoption issues (bonding and attachment, family adjustment, contact with biological relatives, etc.), the authoran adoptive parent and the editor of Adopted Child newsletteraims for a wide audience: parents, adoptees, and related professionals. Unfortunately, instead of including personal experiences, she takes a plodding though informative textbook approach that combines practical advice (making "Life books") with controversial suggestions (using "Toughlove" for discipline). Still, this is a helpful parenting guide that complements Edmund Blair Bolles's The Penguin Adoption Handbook ( LJ 4/15/84) and Lois Gilman's The Adoption Resource Book ( LJ 3/1/85). Janice Arenofsky, formerly with Arizona State Lib., Phoenix
Copyright 1986 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
This gave a lot of insight into the moods of Adopted children (my grandchildren). Very helpful for me to have patience during many temper tantrums. Read morePublished 12 days ago by Peggy's Posts
I am in the process of adopting a child and this book was required for the home study. It is well organized and has useful information. Read morePublished 8 months ago by Bes
There are some good parts of this book, and it discusses a wide range of adoption issues, but I often do not share the opinions of the author. Read morePublished 11 months ago by L S S
This book is packed with information. It is a great resource for newly adoptive parents! I would highly recommend this book. Read morePublished 14 months ago by Suzie Tremel
This was one of the books on the recommended reading list for my adoption. I found it dated; it did not go into much detail about open adoptions. I also found it discouraging. Read morePublished 19 months ago by Amazon Customer
I really enjoyed reading this book and learning all about the issues that may come up as an adoptive family.Published 20 months ago by Patricia Vogt
The book began by describing some of the fears that adoptive parents feel. It felt like Melina was in my head, expressing my own thoughts, and I felt so grateful to know that I... Read morePublished on April 17, 2013 by Rizzo
Does not have a good flow and is a bit choppy. I just could not get into this book. Next....Published on December 14, 2012 by Amazon Customer
This book has many valuable points, but also has many I do not agree with.
I will use my own critical thinking process to discern which aspects I want to hold onto, and... Read more