Adoption practices have evolved considerably since this book's first publication in 1986, and the new version of the "Dr. Spock for adoptive parents" reflects the latest theories. Drawing on the findings and practices of pediatricians, social workers, scientists, and adoptive parents, Raising Adopted Children is carefully and thoroughly researched. Chapters on open adoption, international adoption, and transracial adoption are combined with advice on bonding and attachment, breast-feeding an adoptive infant (possible but complicated), dealing with schools, privacy issues, adopting a child with disabilities, adopting as a single parent, and the challenges of adolescence. While Melina's many years of professional and personal experience shape her advice, she remains very evenhanded. For example, she's a strong proponent of the "early telling" theory of adoption (being open about the adoption with the child from the beginning), but she also clearly presents other points of view, and, throughout the book, encourages parents to make decisions that feel right for them.
The text includes specific suggestions for explaining a child's birth circumstances, including common misconceptions, and a valuable discussion about whether adoptees are at greater risk for behavior problems or learning disabilities. She also provides suggestions for setting rules for contact with biological parents, easing grief, and acknowledging a child's history. A completely annotated list of selected references and resources rounds out this superior guide. --Ericka Lutz
I'm only half way through this book but I think it has some really great information.
It's not that these things can't possibly be stressful but it feels like this book may be giving equal weight to every possibility.
The book outlines the typical problems encountered and various alternatives to managing the stresses of the adoption process.
There are some good parts of this book, and it discusses a wide range of adoption issues, but I often do not share the opinions of the author. Read morePublished 2 days ago by L S S
This book is packed with information. It is a great resource for newly adoptive parents! I would highly recommend this book. Read morePublished 2 months ago by Suzie Tremel
This was one of the books on the recommended reading list for my adoption. I found it dated; it did not go into much detail about open adoptions. I also found it discouraging. Read morePublished 7 months ago by Amazon Customer
I really enjoyed reading this book and learning all about the issues that may come up as an adoptive family.Published 8 months ago by Patricia Vogt
The book began by describing some of the fears that adoptive parents feel. It felt like Melina was in my head, expressing my own thoughts, and I felt so grateful to know that I... Read morePublished 17 months ago by Rizzo
Does not have a good flow and is a bit choppy. I just could not get into this book. Next....Published 21 months ago by Amazon Customer
This book has many valuable points, but also has many I do not agree with.
I will use my own critical thinking process to discern which aspects I want to hold onto, and... Read more
This book is a great resource for parents of adopted children - or prospective parents. It covers most issues and will be something to look back to over the years.Published on May 4, 2012 by Elizabeth Kathryn Lien
This book comes up over and over again in adoptive parenting circles, blogs, discussion groups, agency recommendations, etc. Read morePublished on February 27, 2011 by S. Goodman