Raising Children You Can Live With: A Guide for Frustrated Parents [Paperback]

Jamie B. Raser (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: April 1, 1999

Raising Children You Can Live With gives you answers to all your parenting questions. Jamie Raser provides helpful phrases to use in difficult situations, tells how to turn sour interactions into pleasant ones, and outlines specific strategies for success. This easy-to-use book gives you exactly what you need in order to have healthy, fulfilling relationships with your children.

Editorial Reviews

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"As a therapist, I come armed with a very sympathetic ear, a systemic approach to problems, models of family therapy, and a wonderful book to help guide us through the tangle of difficult parent/child interactions that have led, in some cases, to a virtual impasse in family communications. The book is Jamie Rasers Raising Children You Can Live With: A Guide for Frustrated Parents. The language is clear and concise. The charts and diagrams help explain and clarify the text. There are examples for every guiding point made, and there is a brief summary at the end of each chapter for easy review. Armed with [Jamie Rasers book], both parents and therapists have a useful collaborator in the challenging task of guiding children to adulthood and children gain a helping hand in making themselves heard and understood." -- Linda Walsh, PhD

"[Jamie Rasers] Strategic Interaction Approach" changes the base of power between parent and child, allowing parents to control situations, not to be in control of their child. For most parents, this is a big change, but an ultimately rewarding one as parents learn to play a personal role in their childs life (providing love, respect, fun friendship) without giving up the business role (discipline, guidance, structure, rules). He offers realistic, convincing examples of Strategic Interaction in action: phrases and positions to be memorized, rehearsed, and applied. There are fifteen "What Do I Do When" (My child lies? My child always blames others? My child is violent? Etc.) scenarios complete with sample dialogue. Concrete, practical guidance worth the price." -- Paulette Bochnig Sharkey, Independent Publisher, March 1999

"the 160-page paperback is free from the bewildering behavioral terms that are favorites of psychologists and social workers. That makes it easy for the average parent to read, understand and use. It gives real-life examples that will be familiar to most parents and tells how to keep problems from escalating into an us vs. them battlefield. Each chapter shows a right and a wrong way of handling a situation, ending by giving parents something to think about. I like, too, Rasers thought on parenthood: "Parenting is not something you do to a child; it is a relationship you have with a child." Raising Children You Can Live With is a valuable tool, especially for parents of adolescents." -- Jeannine Schaub, Boone News-Republican, September 23, 1999

From the Publisher

Raising Children You Can Live With has been "selected as outstanding" by Parent Council, Ltd. Parent Council, Ltd. Uses a panel of experts (parents, teachers, librarians and mental health professionals) to select and critique the best parenting titles available. Jamie Raser is also one of the newest recipients of The National Parenting Centers Seal of Approval for 1999 for his book Raising Children You Can Live With: A Guide for Frustrated Parents. The product evaluation division, which is run by independent evaluators including parents, educators, and panelists of The National Parenting Center found his book to be "a product of superb design and quality." Congratulations Jamie! With the ever-widening range of parenting resources on the market, its difficult for parents to distinguish which ones are worth their money and which will be most beneficial to their particular needs. "There are currently over 1,300 parenting titles in print," comments Dr. Victor Loos, Director of the Center for Family Consultation in Houston, Texas. "As a parent, I desperately need help sorting out the junk from the jewels." Organizations such as Parent Council, Ltd. and The National Parenting Center strive to make those decisions easier by reviewing the best new materials for children and parents.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 160 pages
• Publisher: Bayou Publishing (April 1, 1999)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1886298114
• ISBN-13: 978-1886298118
• Product Dimensions: 8.5 x 5.6 x 0.4 inches
• Shipping Weight: 6.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (5 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #824,307 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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9 of 9 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Should be in every parent's "arsenal", October 28, 1999

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This review is from: Raising Children You Can Live With: A Guide for Frustrated Parents (Paperback)

Although I usually read parenting books by Brazleton and other highly-publicized authors, a friend recommended that I try this one. I could just kiss her for that. This book isn't a summary of all the parenting advice you've ever heard (what a relief). Mr. Raser tackles issues with teens like a pro, and he would be the only person I know of that could raise a house full of teenagers and still go to bed every night with a smile on his face.

6 of 6 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Worthy of being on every parents bookcase!, May 9, 2000

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Julie P. Clark (Cobbs Creek, Virginia USA) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Raising Children You Can Live With: A Guide for Frustrated Parents (Paperback)

Raising Children You Can Live With is a book many parents can benefit from. Mr.Raser gives many practical suggestions for dealing with kids. I thought his "Strategic Interaction" plan would be helpful for many, and he gives good guidelines for how to deal with lying, cheating, a child who doesn't obey rules, and how to deal with a child who may show signs of depression. Mr. Raser has a great sense of humor, and his use of Calvin and Hobbes comics hooked me, as I'm a long-time fan of that comic strip! I think parents who read this book will find many useful, practical suggestions that will aid them in raising a child they can live with, and as he says, have fun doing it!

3 of 3 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Great for frustrated parents, September 15, 2005

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Michael E. Mcmillan (Highlands, Tx USA) - See all my reviews
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I've been having a frustrating time with my son for the past 3 years and wished that I found this book much earlier than I did. This book presents alternative ways of approaching my troubled teen. I have applied some of the techniques; I'm seeing some positive changes only after about 2 to 3 weeks. I really recommend this book and the ideas in it.