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Not a parenting book!!
on May 8, 2014
This was not a parenting book. This was a self-care book. There was almost no information on how to be a good parent. Yes, I know that she’s saying that taking more care of yourself will help you to be a happier parent, but then she should have called her book, “How Parents Can Take Better Care of Themselves.” When my kid is kicking in the midst of a temper tantrum, nothing in this book will be of any help. Any tips she did have were overly basic and vague. For example, when she talked about sibling fights, she wrote “Calm you kids down.” Really? Did she think that we needed a book to tell us to calm our kids down in the middle of a fight? Also, her book mainly consisted of examples of how she did things wrong, with comments about why not to do it that way, but without a follow up with examples on what to do. Although she sometimes said what to do, she rarely gave any information on how to do it. Plus, she was so self-deprecating throughout the book that it actually was a distraction. She should know that if you’re going to write a book, you don’t have to spend half of it negating your knowledge on the topic in order to feign humility. Drop the “I don’t know anything” act. Instead, be confident. If you don’t believe in yourself, your readers won’t believe you either.
You do not need to buy this book, because here is the summary of her very basic points:
1) Go out with your friends and to yoga class more
2) Get along with your co-parent
3) Be grateful
4) Forgive others
5) Be optimistic
6) Don’t threaten or bribe
7) Teach your kids to regulate their emotions (though she gives few examples on how to do so)
8) Be mindful
Her final points are: day care is bad, TV is bad, play is good, and eat dinner with your kids. Overall, this self-care book was most unhelpful for parents who are looking for solid techniques on how to interact more calmly and positively with their children.