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Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves: Transforming parent-child relationships from reaction and struggle to freedom, power and joy Paperback – January 1, 2006

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Product Details

  • Paperback: 280 pages
  • Publisher: Book Publishers Network; 1 edition (January 1, 2006)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1887542329
  • ISBN-13: 978-1887542326
  • Product Dimensions: 9 x 6.1 x 0.7 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 1.1 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (111 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #36,213 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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About the Author

Naomi Aldort is the author of, Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves, sold in thirteen languages. Her advice columns are published in progressive parenting magazines worldwide. Aldort offers guidance by phone/Skype internationally regarding all ages, babies through teens: attachment parenting; natural learning; peaceful and powerful parent-child relationships, self-realization, marriage and more. Products, phone sessions and free newsletter: www.authenticparent.com

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Naomi Aldort is the author of Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves and of hundreds of internationally published parenting advice columns.??She offers Phone counseling, Teleclasses, Free Newsletter, and CDs of her speaking: www.AuthenticParent.com

From infants and toddlers to children and teens, Aldort's guidance takes the struggle out of parenting. Instead of ways of controlling, she provides tools of understanding and responding to your baby, child and teen, so she can be the best of herself, not because she fears you, but because she wants to, of her own free will.

Naomi's SALVE communication formula has been praised as providing the best of The Work of Byron Katie and Nonviolent Communication combined and more.

Naomi addresses all subjects related to parenting of all ages, emotional, behavioral, learning, as well as the needs of parents, including and not limited to:

Understanding your child's behavior
Attachment and your baby's crying
Tantrums, aggression, defiance, anger
Cooperation without coercion, threats or praise
Sibling rivalry
Bed-time and Nighttime parenting
Nurturing Emotional resilience
Homeschooling and nurturing talent
Healthy food for children
Partners and relatives
Parent's emotions
Baby, toddler, child and teen behavior and emotions
Peaceful attachment parent-child relationships
Self-realization and healing through parenting
Self-directed learning and development
Special needs and situation
Trauma and your child

"Aldort's book should be on the must read list of all Moms and Dads. This book could carry a subtitle: "Saving the Emotional Lives of Our Children and The Future of Humanity.""
- James Prescott, Ph.D. Institute of Humanistic Science

"Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves operates on the radical premise that neither child nor parent must dominate; it is for those who want to give up scolding, threatening and punishing. Her SALVE "formula" alone is worth the price of the book."
- Peggy O'Mara Editor and Publisher of Mothering

Customer Reviews

I have read and re-read this book.
To any parents who are willing to raise a great human being, work on themselves to become better people this book is a goldmine!
Yana Clopton
In fact, I'd say it is the only parenting book you will ever need!

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

200 of 212 people found the following review helpful By K. Trumble on October 6, 2006
Format: Paperback
I have a young child who tends to get very aggressive when trying to tell me that his needs aren't being met. Until recently, he never listened to anything I asked of him. I was at my wits end. I'd tried everything. Things only got worse.

Then I found the answer that unlocked the mystery behind my child's behavior in Aldort's book, "Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves." It changed my relationship with my son the day I started following her recommendations. As I learned from the book (verified by my experience) it won't do any good to punish a child's behavior; it fact, it will only make it worse. There's an underlying reason for his behavior, and until I address it in an understanding and kind way, it will continue. Now I understand why he was acting the way he was and, more importantly, how I was causing it without even knowing it. Once I understood him, I could concentrate on solving the larger problem rather than correcting (punishing) the behavior.

Ever since I changed the way I interact with and speak to my child (according to Aldort's recommendations), my relationship with him has been transformed and, no surprise, he hasn't been aggressive at all. The book has given me tools of love and connection in all areas of parenting. I can't recommend this book highly enough. Buy one for yourself and one for all of your friends.
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194 of 209 people found the following review helpful By Candida Thumiger on May 25, 2008
Format: Paperback
Although I like Naomi Aldort's approach and techniques , I think that this book is not for everyone.
I agree that most parents should let go of their will of control over their children's behavior, and try to connect with them more on an emotional level. I also agree that bribes, punishments, time-outs and such methods are best avoided and do not work in the long run ( with my 3 y old they never worked even as short-term solutions).
But since parents are in charge, they sometimes need to take action in a firm and loving way. This book does NOT provide tools to figure out this proper way to deal with everyday issues.
It just points vaguely to the need to provide a strong leadership.
Perhaps for some enlightened people, like Naomi actually appears to be, there is no need for further explanation. Most parents would appreciate it though, including myself, who have always been a wishy-washy kind of parent.
Furthermore, I find Aldort's style a bit lousy and not very empathetic towards parents, despite her best intentions. While reading, I often found myself thinking " Gee, I'd really like to be like her" . But I'm not. So what?
Her approach stems out of her unique way to be an exceptionally nurturing, loving person rather than being a technique that everyone can learn ad apply.
It must be said that the books offers a very important tool with the S.A.L.V.E. technique which helps the parent to accept children the way they are, and validate their feelings. This is the most valuable part.
I have found a similar, yet much more useful and powerful approach in "Playful Parenting" by dr.L Cohen.
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132 of 141 people found the following review helpful By Sibilana on March 5, 2007
Format: Paperback
I agree with most of the 5-star reviews here. This is the best parenting book I've found - a great leap from the many modern parenting books out there. In fact, I'd say it is the only parenting book you will ever need! Like another reviewer, I am ordering many copies and actively distributing to all the parents I know.

Finally, a book that spells out with crystal clarity that yes, you can respect and trust your children fully, and love them unconditionally, without any "ifs" and "buts".

Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves provides the tools for being always kind and loving in our day-to-day interactions with our children, and illustrates the guidance via eloquent real-life examples. These tools are easy to remember and put to practice, and they actually work. This book has transformed my relationship with my 10-month old, giving me permission to fully love her the way I always felt - without holding back ANYTHING! Quite a liberating shift. The guidance carries all the way from infancy through the teen years, and I am so grateful that I stumbled upon it while she is still little!

The transformative effect of the book goes way beyond parenting, as both the title, and the subtitle proposed by James Prescott on the cover ('Saving the emotional lives of our children and the future of humanity'), suggest. It lays out a readily available path to self-healing and self-realization through our relationship with our children (as well as with other people): simply by starting to examine how we respond to others a little more closely. Imho, this is one of the most important books ever written, period.

I have a wish. I grew up in Europe (France) and, really, I CANNOT WAIT to see the book available there as well, in other languages, and start infusing its wisdom and compassion overseas. Any publisher out there interested in making a difference? Call Naomi today, you'll do yourself and the world a favor. Our world needs this book. QUICK!
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119 of 133 people found the following review helpful By CMZ on March 8, 2006
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I loved Naomi Aldort's ***tapes*** and would recommend them with 5 stars!!!! I think that the tapes "Trusting Our Children, Trusting Ourselves" was earthshaking, life-altering, and nothing short of absolutely unbelievable. I was so excited for the book to come out, but was sorely disappointed. I feel that if the book is given to someone who is a new parent, and not familiar with any positive discipline or AP techniques, they would think that the book had no substance on which to base the her opinions.

In my opinion, she is a great speaker, therapist and mother; but just not a good writer. I have consulted with her on parenting issues, and have been purely impressed with her insight and advice. You can go to her website Naomialdort.com, and schedule a phone consultation. She is excellent.

I have been reading about 1 parenting book a week, for the last 3 years. I just did not have that "wow" factor with Naomi's book. However, if you want good books to read that have more "science" to back up the advice, I would recommend:

)Teaching your Children Self-Respect by Thomas Gordon

(another poster had eluded to this author with PET, Parent Effectiveness Training)

Thomas Gordon is referred to by many other authors, including Alfie Kohn

2) Between Parent and Child by Haim Ginott

Short, consise and packed with information that you will use for toddlers to teenagers. A big sigh of "oh, I can really parent and be nice". Excellent book

3) Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn

You won't want to put it down. It really is thought provoking. He refers to Haim Ginott and Thomas Gordon.
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