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Raising a Thinking Child: Help Your Young Child to Resolve Everyday Conflicts and Get Along with Others

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I have read over 20 books on parenting and this is the first one that really tells me how to do it, simply and concretely. This book has made my home much more peaceful. My kids come up with their own ideas and I don't have to tell them what to do anymore

This book teaches good thinking habits for the children and the adults. We often want to resort back to the way our parents raised us and sometimes it's old hat. Old hat isn't always bad, but getting the kids to empower themselves is much better. A little wordy but not too bad. It's the same thinking process as another book we found extremely helpful in motivating our children, "Mommy-CEO." Both books demostrate a logical plan for the entire family. This approach allows the children to "think" on their own and keeps them focused. My mom was very controlling and I just had to change my parenting skills and habits for my own sanity. I think we are all stronger, healthier and much happier.

My six year old son loves to play the ICPS games and has shown a marked improvement in conflict resoution with peers. He now knows the meaning of the word "frustrated" and how to avoid frustration (and how to avoid temper tantrums) by thinking of and evaluating his own alternatives in many cases. Instead of yelling or pushing to get his way, he offers to trade or works out a deal for sharing. It is a pleasure to watch his self-confidence grow and his self-esteem rise. As he grows older, he will be able to think for himself and avoid being controlled by others or becoming controlling himself. This book has been helpful for the whole family. This Mom now has some training in how to model good problem solving skills for the rest of the family, as well. Communication skills in our home have improved greatly at all levels due to Shure's book. It is one of the best parenting/communication books that I have ever read.

This book and its successor, Raising a Thinking Preteen, are going to be required reading for prospective parents when I am king of the world. There are so many cliche phrases that we learn from our parents, TV, etc. that are very destructive, and certainly not constructive, and this book teaches parents how to talk to their children to foster many positive traits, including the "hungry mind" attitude.

I echo what's been written about this book. I kept checking it out of the library over and over until I finally decided just to buy it. My 3 year old has been figuring out a DIFFERENT way to solve problems since we started ICPSing. Beginning with word concepts that can be started at a very early age (same/different, is/is not, good idea/not a good idea) then moving into more complex problem solving is a great approach. This book gives parents, or anyone working with children solid approaches on how to teach problem solving. I highly recommend this book.

When I play this audiotape in the car, my kids want to play the same games as the kids on the tape. It quiets them down. I give them a choice of this tape and childrens tapes and they always say, "Let's do ICPS". That stands for I Can Problem-Solve, the names of the games on this tape

The conflict-resolution techniques described in detail in this book are can be helpful to any parent. Using simple language, the author shows parents how to teach children how to think for themselves. This means that children even as young as two or three can learn to think their way through difficult or troubling situations and find solutions to problems on their own. The concepts and the techniques will be valuable to very young children as they learn to move through society, but will also benefit older children in their daily lives, not just at home. These are proven techniques that really work, techniques that are being taught through special programs in many schools across the country. Simple language, simple concepts that anyone can use. I consider these techniques invaluable in helping children learn to really think their way through problems. The method works.

This book is a wonderful way to teach problem-solving and possibility thinking early on. It teaches children HOW to think rather than WHAT to think. It teaches them empathy, consequential reasoning and the ability to brainstorm and be creative. This will help them deal with the world when you are not there. This has a huge impact. If we produce a younger generation that knows how to communicate and deal with problems compassionately and creatively, we will end up with a much better world. I also recommend the workbook for parents.

My graduate degree is in gifted education, and my son will be 2 in a few months. I bought this book to prepare for and head off toddler conflicts. While there are plenty of examples to illustrate the steps, and the steps are presented in logical, simple sequences, the text lacks the personality and humor that would make it enjoyable to read. My son is still a bit too young for this, but my experience in the classroom suggests these strategies would be helpful with all kinds of personalities. Still, I wish the writing were more engaging.

I'm having a hard time finishing the book. While I think the idea is brilliant and well worth learning about... the book itself is wordy and repetitive and comes across cheesy. Could be condensed into a little pamphlet or something.