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The Rantings of a Single Male: Losing Patience with Feminism, Political Correctness... and Basically Everything

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Thomas Ellis has written a great book, I loved it and agreed with almost everything he had to say.

I have long been mystified by the extreme anti-male sentiments expressed in today's troubled society. Where is all the anger coming from? Why do women treat men so disrespectfully?

It would seem that many feminists would answer that question by saying, "Men have it coming to them!" Such dual-talk by extreme feminists is hateful and destructive and I doubt there is any joy from such ones who would turn the tables on their (imaginary) oppressors by becoming oppressors themselves.

I thoroughly am enjoying Thomas Ellis's book and can't help feeling both anger and sadness at the things he's described and that I know (believe me, as a female, I *know*!) are taking place.

Long before I began reading this book, I heard my own son expressing a combination of anger, sadness, and disgust that there are simply 'no nice women' around (at least that he's met so far) whom he wants to date. The young women he's so far met are all 'self-involved or crazy.' These are my son's words, and he said this when he was around the age of 19.

I feel for men, I really do, and it saddens me that there is such a wave of injustice and hatred and unbalance happening.

Women and men should not be each other's enemies, in any society, at any time.

This was the first book I ever read that elucidated a man's perspective toward feminism and misandry. I became hooked after the first chapter, enjoying the manner in which Ellis unapologetically lays out his case. Each chapter covers a specific aspect of feminist insanity, and Ellis covers the topic very well in my view. It is a profoundly persuasive read, more so because it is not pretentious or pseudo-academic. Ellis speaks directly to men in plain English, and yet provides enough empirical evidence (in court case law, popular culture, personal experience, and legislation) to support his conclusions.

I can't tell you the sense of vindication I felt while reading this book. It seemed that with each chapter, a light bulb went on in my mind where I seemed to say, "Yeah, I've noticed that too!" or "God, have I been there too buddy!"

Long after I've put this book down, certain points will always stay with me.

1. Women who lambaste men as "pre-disposed" toward violence and abuse often have kids as a way of showing they can "do it all." When such kids turn out to be BOYS, what is to become of them as they mature into men? What kinds of messages are their male-bashing mothers sending about boys, men, and masculinity in general and what effect will that have on these boys as they grow up?

2. I found great truth in Ellis' claim that that women have an inability to see things from a perspective other than their own. Hostile or dismissive statements against men are seen by women as harmless, until they see the same sentiment reflected directly back at them and it hurts. An attitude of entitlement pervades the thinking of many women in male-female relationships, and I wonder if women could ever see it as abusive and hurtful by imagining such attitudes used against them. Viewing something from a man's perspective is incredibly foreign to so many women, and Ellis nailed this point decisively. For example, a woman Ellis dated saw a news story about Lorena Bobbit (who cut off her husband's penis as a method of punishment for his alleged abuse) while Ellis and the woman were cuddled up watching TV. Supposedly friendly to men, she says something to the effect of "right on, sister! I support what Lorena Bobbit did." Would such a woman ever be able to imagine what it would be like if a "fed up husband" took a machete to her breasts? Role-reversal is anethema to such women!

3. Ellis illustrated how popular culture demonizes male sexuality, making men feel ashamed of their sexual attraction to women and making them feel like they should apologize for it. The suppression of male sexuality, Ellis asserts, leads to a warped view of sexual relations between men and women and itself creates abusers and molesters. Add to this the mixed message that our culture sends to women, telling them they are sexual beings who may openly flaunt it, and whose prerogative it is to destroy a man at will if he has expressed romantic interest. When boys must suppress their sexual feelings and girls are encouraged to aggressively express theirs, what kind of warped society will we end up in?

What I enjoyed most, however, is the utter lack of apology Ellis has toward feminists who might get offended by this book. I just felt a sense of "guilty pleasure" reading it, knowing it is so politically incorrect and yet secretly wishing the words in this book were shouted from the rooftops. Thank God he considers the reviews of his opponents irrelevant; this book is for men their their benefit. What does it matter what feminists think?

Thanks, Tom!

John Dias
Founder, DontMakeHerMad.com
"Stopping false allegations with technology"

As a woman lucky (or unlucky, depending) enough to have been born long after the sexual revolution, Ellis explained a lot of things I've long had questions for. It wasn't a comfortable read, even though I'm vehemently anti-feminist...at least in the sense of today's feminism. Ellis caught me. I've done some of that without a thought for how it would effect my boyfriend of the time, or even my male friends. I think of this book as a gentler slap to the back of the head than the men in my life should've administered.

I have to give the mandatory disclaimer that I believe in equality, but I believe in Ellis' definition of it. It's all merit. I've never had any patience for gender or race-based rewards, because regardless of who the beneficiary is, it's discrimination. It's unjust, and the US is supposed to pride itself on justice. Ellis gave me a lot of ammunition for my own debates, and having used his book to dig up some relevant studies, I can say his conclusions are drawn from solid information. Anyone with a shred of intellectual honesty is going to have to revise their opinions.

More than political, though, the personal nature of this book makes it resonate. For a woman, it's a unique opportunity to hear what a man REALLY thinks, without him worrying about hurting my feelings or upsetting me. My own experience with men has mostly been with the variety that leave me to make the decisions. They're just along for the ride. I understand now why that is, and what feminism, the hateful, destructive variety, has done to the men and women of this country.

I'm not sure how to FIX it, but if Ellis wanted another voice, another woman that doesn't look at men as an obstacle to be overcome or clay to be shaped away from masculinity, pride, and all those wonderful things that make a man a man, he's got a convert here.

...to read this book? Deep and dark with the feminist agenda stripped raw. Is it any wonder our society has become so damn perverse? Singles for the first time now out number married households. The divorce rate climbs. The hopelessly marginalized white male lingers in solitude unable to defend himself for fear of retribution. I hope this valuable and well written diatribe leads to a break-through in mending the war that has been waged against the only "non-identifiable group" or what's left of us and our beaten down hearts and souls.

My own experience is similar to Mr. Ellis'. Too many angry, demanding, manipulative, psychotic, self-obsessed and insecure women. I thought it was just me and my friends, but it's rampant. Us guys just want a nice woman we can share the rest of our lives with, as EQUAL partners. We don't want to have to decipher the agenda du jour to keep them constantly happy. Since when is making their life better by sacrificing so much of our own a man's duty? Just being decent providers, husbands and fathers is not good enough anymore. Those simple requirements have been obsoleted by a much broader and higher standard that most men will never meet. You're now expected to be a dynamo money making machine by day and an understanding, cowardly, but mildly assertive wimp at home. Why would she bother otherwise? You're deemed unqualified and unfit to be someone that will impress her family and friends, let alone her partner for life. Love ain't enough anymore. This dynamic makes for a lot of sad and lonely men and women out there.

I for one have simply given up. I've wasted too much time and money.
It's not worth the condecending put-downs. The constant battles and sneak attacks for some kind of power over us in the relationship, all to prove they are the supposed modern ideal of the empowered woman. It's never been more popular to be anything but a white male right now.

This book confirmed for me that I was never the bad guy. I claimed I was wrong when I wasn't. I apologized for being right when I was. Like most men today, I was merely trying to navigate the feminized emotional battlefield for some love in my life with out compromising the whole of my identity, my pride and my masculinity. So far it hasn't worked out so well but I'm now much less confused after reading the "Rantings".

On several occasions while reading this book, a chest tightening surge of fear rippled through my body. Like many men, I am fearful of awakening the wrath of a woman, especially one that I love. It is often necessary to remind myself that I am a 64 year old adult and no longer a little boy seeking approval from the women in my life.

Tom Ellis is sure to incur the wrath of many women with his new book, The Rantings of a Single Male. This will happen for one reason and one reason only. He is a man who dares to discuss the dark side of women, the feminine and femininism.

For over thirty years women activist have thoroughly excoriated the dark side of masculinity with little, if any, balancing validation of the vast sacrifices and contributions to family and society that have been made by men. The result is that today there is a new paradigm of gender in the collective unconscious that says, "women good, men bad."

It's not just that a few men or most men are bad but that all men are bad. It's a prime directive of men to be bad and oppress women. Well guess what... women have a dark side too. We just don't talk about it openly. Feminists, in their continuing demonization of men, have avoided taking a hard look in the mirror at themselves.

I believe that Mr. Ellis, through his personal experiences, speaks for many young men today who are greatly confused about how to remain true to their core self worth and still live with the bleak image of masculinity created by gender feminist excesses. It's no wonder that young men today are four times more likely to commit suicide than women of the same age.

Hopefully The Rantings of a Single Male will open some eyes to the issues young men face today. Please read this book with an open mind and compassionate heart.

Jim Bracewell
Editor, MENSIGHT Magazine http://mensightmagazine.com

I was at a job interview last year and the administrator before me was in her late sixties and outfitted in a traditional tweed business suit. Halfway through the questions I started to get the distinct impression that she liked me. She then critiqued the habits of the person who previously held the position and dismissed her as being "such a woman." She then asked if I knew what she meant? I suspected a trap so I told her uneasily that I did not. The administrator remarked that she hated going into meetings without a man at her side.

"No conference goes smoothly without a man in your corner. Women can do a lot of things but they're just not as effective in showdowns as men."

Didn't I think so? I gave no answer and hoped she'd move on to another subject. She did not. The question was repeated. Sheepishly I confessed that I did not know because I had always been present in the meetings I attended. I had to say something along those lines as her commentary was so politically incorrect that I doubted it to be genuine. I'll never know whether she was toying with me or not, however, as I did not hear back from that district. If she was being sincere, such women, and men for that matter, are about as rare as girls who scour the unemployment lists in the hopes of finding future husbands.

Although we can be sure of one thing, author Thomas Ellis has met precious few women like the one who interviewed me, but, in his life there has been no shortage of radical feminists, lipstick feminists, butch lesbians, lesbians in non-Wrangler clothing, herbologists, paranormal photographers, and occultist hangers-on. As they often say, "He has lived." A great many of his experiences are described in depth as a supplement to his meticulous analysis and observation concerning men, women, government, and nearly every element of our sexual lives in his recent release, The Rantings of a Single Male: Losing Patience with Feminism, Political Correctness, and Basically Everything.

Yet, his title is oddly inappropriate. This compendium of wisdom is written in a calm and (nearly) respectful tone. It is not a rant in the least. Ellis offers up a work of logic. He never lets emotion obscure the points that he makes. The narrative is joyful and more reminiscent of boys blowing up Blackcats and Ladyfingers in the backyard than of a forsaken heretic clacking away in a dungeon upon a keyboard. Ellis is more Fred Reed than Matthew Fitzgerald. Very few gross overgeneralizations can be detected in these 26 alphabetically organized chapters. He counterattacks the feminazis and man-haters with reason and wit alone. Yes, there are insults on many a page but they are more along the lines of Mr. Reed's "PhD=Purple Haired Dyke," than declarations of war against 51 percent of the population.

The honest truth is that I was not prepared to enjoy this tome as much as I did. I leafed through its pages and expected it to be overstated and vulgar, yet the author clearly is in earnest and conducted a great of research before putting it together. Ellis is intimately familiar with the feminist satanic works and also the responses to them which sprung from brave and defiant men. For those readers who follower the men's rights literature, I would place The Rantings of a Single Male as being a rung above The Miseducation of Women but a notch below Spreading Misandry: The Teaching of Contempt for Men in Popular Culture in terms of value and message.

The Rantings of a Single Male is a work of tremendous importance. It draws all the right conclusions about the serfification of the modern male. We are, thanks to the government, the inferior sex and it's time people started talking about. This book jams a piece of soundproofing into the Leviathan public address system that is political correctness, but we are still thousands of sections away from silencing it. Perhaps Ellis's book will never be a bestseller, but it is essential reading for anyone who despises the fascist version of tolerance that pervades our culture. Anyone who refuses to apologize for their genitalia, skin color, or nationality should buy a few copies for their friends, or better yet, leave them upon the doorsteps of their enemies. Who knows, maybe they might even peruse a couple of pages and then question their masters. If more and more of us took a courageous stand like Thomas Ellis, men wouldn't remain leaden tackling dummies in the endless powder-puff scrimmages that constitute gender relations.

Ellis' book is excellent and a must read for anyone concerned about equity between the genders. Ellis is perhaps too critical of individual women he has known (no one is perfect) and too quick to ascribe their short-comings to feminism, never-the-less his basic arguments that feminism encourages misoandry and discrimination against men are well made and undoubtedly right. Discussions of the book with my balanced wife, who likes men, has led me to believe that there is hope of a middle-way to gender equity, but Ellis convincingly argues this will never occur through feminism.

I thoroughly love this book. It is dead on and long overdue. I will be 30 this coming November and have just finished up my doctorate in a science profession. Academia today has many absurd feminist, anti-male ideologies and outright practices of misandry. I am no longer surprised at the hypocrisy found on the math and science boards of colleges throughout the states, where "women's-only" mentoring programs abound and those that are open to men have to be open to women. Millions are spent to promote women in various fields, including science, yet bold declarations are made of how men will become second-class citizens. Many female so-called "educators" and academics have openly mocked males and boast of low male enrollment in college, thus revealing their complete lack of concern for the equality that so many of them have claimed. The toxic anti-male environment of college today is still largely unaddressed and all too often allowed to continue. Despite overwhelming evidence to the contrary, men are now declared inferior intellectually, unable to write effectively, or produce original works of worth. It is as if living in an Orwellian world at times, in which lofty sounding names and program allegedly promoting equity is in fact promoting biased practices and tendentious ideologies founded on pseudo-scientific claims and just outright promiscuously directed mean-spiritedness at men at large.

One the of the worst books produced by this mindset that greeted the dawn of this new millennium was The First Sex by Helen Fisher. By implication, Fisher declares this century will prove that men are the second class. This book was heavily promoted during that time, in which many academics actually endorsed the book. It was also heavily popularized in the mainstream, even being in the Editor's Recommend section in Scientific American during the turn of the year 2000. Thankfully, today this book is largely discredited as an absurd work of retarded scholarship and fantasia. Nevertheless, however, it had its impact on many male readers, who are not so prone to forget.

In addition even mainstream TV shares its guilt of promoting misandry. Oprah in October of 1999 had an airing of (at that time) a Los Angeles based program called the Brotherhood/Sisterhood Club. It too proved an Orwellian organization, as this summer camp, consisting of mostly high school age teenagers, had a hundred girls line up to form a gauntlet, in which each male had to pass singularly down the row of females, who taunted the males sexually, degrading them. The males were also made to sit in chair, in which each girl came up behind them to whisper and utter again sexually degrading things. The Oprah studio, Harpo (which is Oprah spelled backwards), has tried to do its best to hide this despicable airing, in which Oprah declared it as a "life altering experience" for the males. Indeed, I agree. That is exactly how I would call an emotional gang raping of the minds of young, formative males. To this day I cannot look at Oprah without a certain word that I was previously disgusted of being immediately conjured in my mind. With her Angel Network, which I had so loved her for doing, the woman, and I use the word lightly, proved to be the most worthless hypocritical whore of them all as far as I am concerned.

Then there were (and still are) the shows like Alley McBeal and Sex and the City, which heavily influenced a wave of women to think and act a certain way, believing acting slutty and using the self-declared term "b*tch" is self-empowering. What this has produced are countless vain-glorious, deluded women mistaking equal opportunity for entitlement, and now even a thinking of having a legitimate right over men; or women conveniently oblivious and clueless to their tangerine bust status yet talking with a size-does-matter bathos; and females believing the things that would be judged ordinary in men are extraordinary in them. In short, our society has produced adult over-aged girls, who are emotionally insecure and believing they have a right to walk on men and that male inherent value is secondary, or as that Oprah showing illustrates, all men are in need of a "lesson," as one young woman rationalized her participation in that summer camp.

Quite frankly, growing up in this environment has indeed taught me several "life altering" lessons: not to have the unquestionable chivalrous concern for women as yesterday's men once had; love is not unconditional; and character does matter and only highlights the lacking physical ideals that many women believe and boldly declare possessing.

Despite these experiences, I have not become either a misogynist or racist, but do not have the same clean slate view of women as before. Each is called in question immediately from the beginning, owed to the fact that they are coming from a flawed upbringing that has preached to them that they are special and unique, superior, intellectually and morally over men, and that men are bad and women are good.

Yet men are far from the things they've been charged with supposedly being. Yes, there are in fact countless examples of male scum, but compared to the whole of mankind, such negative examples are a great minority. Moreover, how easily forgotten the many examples that abound of women being no strangers in doing evil: Female suicide bombers, mothers killing their kids, female teachers having sex with their underage students, and even raping and murdering not only children and men-but also themselves. Let us not forget the thousands of gleeful Italian and German women who helped to exterminate young children, women, and men, helping to process and collect valuable goods from millions of Jews and others who where to be shipped off to the death camps. Even in more recent times, there is Mirjana Markovic, wife of infamous Serbian dictator Slobodan Milosevic, who openly helped to stir the hatred that ran uncontrolled, essentially sanctioning mass genocide and rape, telling young Serbians at a rally that they were doing Serbia honor and serving their country.

As a whole, men are the gender that overwhelming risk their lives to save and defend others, will sign up for a job that demand they strap some fifty pounds of equipment on their backs and run up dozens and dozens of floors into a burning sky scrapper or put their lives in the way of certain death to defend the lofty true worthy ideals of freedom and life that resonates deeply to the core of humanity worldwide.

It is indeed hard not to become a bad man, wanting to exact vengeance, or be as generous and give a "life altering experience" or "lesson" back to certain thinking women who, as the women that organized and partook in that Brotherhood/Sisterhood Club, prove themselves worthy of being administered. Indeed, one at times struggles with the want to enjoy the crimes they are being charged, especially when they've never committed what they are sad being guilty of by mere fact of their gender alone.

And I am not alone in either feeling or thinking this way. Sadly, however, many men are not as relational about examining this or putting it all into a larger perspective. Thomas Ellis, however, is such a man, and has done us all a wonderful service of redressing the many egregious acts of misandry that have and are taking place in our culture and the damaging, angering effects it is having on men of both past and present generation-and of generations to come if not corrected.

This book is absolutely fantastic! It really has improved my life, for the following reason: For years, I have been frustrated with women's attitudes towards men which I thought were selfish, although it was difficult for me to put into words exactly what these attitudes are. What Thomas Ellis has done in this book is to perfectly articulate what these frustrations that I have felt for years are, so I feel relieved! I do not feel so awkward toward understanding women any more, but now feel greatly impowered. The book is a reminder for men to redfine themselves not in terms of how a women defines a man's success in life (eg, is he a "loser" or not?). Additionally, that this book is a confirmation of evolutionary psychology (expressed in an earlier review) is silly and not the point --the problem here is that men cannot stand the double standard of the demands of feminism, while allowing for women to continue to have all of the traditional perks (men paying for dinner, the big ring, etc). because, as Thomas says, "they are so cute." We, as men, can change the course of evolution of mankind by not accepting any of the double standard that many women want.

Thank you, Thomas Ellis, for this wonderful gift of a book, and PLEASE write another.

This is a pretty entertaining book that a lot of ways debunks the feminism.
And sheds light on a lot of interesting points concerning the plight of the modern western man. If they say the truth hurts then this is going to feel like a kick to the groin to some people. after reading this book i felt a little riled up but also that there's nothing wrong with me.