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What are little boys made of? In Real Boys: Rescuing Our Sons from the Myths of Boyhood author and psychologist William Pollack presents his findings from almost 20 years of clinical work and his recently completed study examining contemporary boyhood and the ways boys manifest their social and emotional disconnection through anger and violence. There's a code of boy behavior, Pollack says--an unspoken "boy code" that teaches boys how to act and demands that they cover up their emotions. But the author submits that boys are lonely, they are loyal, they are depressed, they struggle with self-esteem issues, they are at risk, they need to be understood, and they need to be listened to. Boys can be empathetic and sensitive, Pollack stresses, as he effectively and convincingly disabuses readers of a number of myths: that testosterone controls a boy's behavior; that boys should fit into a gender stereotype of masculinity; and that boys are toxic, "psychologically unaware, emotionally unsocialized creatures."
Real Boys presents more than the problems of modern boyhood, it also provides advice and assistance--ways for parents to talk with their sons, read their moods and emotions, and help them become confident, empowered men with genuine voices of their own. --Ericka Lutz --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
In a lucidly written primer for parents, Harvard Medical School psychiatry professor Pollack dismantles what he terms "the Boy Code"?society's image of boys as tough, cool, rambunctious and obsessed with sports, cars and sex. These stereotypes, he argues, thwart creativity and originality in boys. Linking clinical insights to practical suggestions, Pollack advises caregivers how to help boys repair their fragile self-esteem, develop empathy and explore their sensitive sides. Drawing on his clinical experience as well as an ongoing Harvard research project, he offers advice on "attention deficit disorder"? which, he maintains, is often a misdiagnosis for normal high-energy behavior? recognizing signs of depression, discouraging violence and helping boys cope with their parents' divorce. In discussing homosexuality, he notes that many of the assumptions of the psychiatric profession have been shown to be incorrect, such as that homosexuality was abnormal, a psychological disorder. Pollack's glorification of sports as an arena for self-transformation and emotional openness is counterbalanced by his recognition that athletics often encourages brutal competitiveness. His proposal that schools adopt curricula "on traditionally 'male' and 'female' topics" to spark separately the interests of boys and girls seems at odds with his own imperative to break through gender stereotypes. On balance, though, his manual is enlightening and stimulating. Author tour.
Copyright 1998 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
I got it for someone who refuses to read it but I did and it is decent enough. The similar book I go by says some of the same stuff. It works.Published 8 months ago by E. sapp
This is a book that was required for a psychology course I am taking this fall. Overall, this book is a great read by itself as well. Read morePublished 12 months ago by Jamie F.
Just didn't find it helpful, I'm sorry. Very well researched.
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Great book. A must read for Divorced Parents. Understanding how Boys feel. I wish I had this book years ago.Published 14 months ago by RICHARD..MATURE
As I my son turned 13 and began changing and leaving behind the sweet little boy I knew, it was really unsettling. Read morePublished 19 months ago by Donna
There is lots in the media about young women, but seldom do we look at the trials of our young men. This book clearly explains the pressures and cultures our society is putting on... Read morePublished 20 months ago by Colleen E. Cunningham
An over-long, and seemingly outdated, opinion piece, with little research support or statistical evidence. Examples cited from the author's clinical experience seemed contrived.Published 20 months ago by Thomas J. Jennings
While doing research for a documentary, this has been the best research reading material I've bought online - to datePublished 21 months ago by LSP