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Real Moments: Discover the Secret for True Happiness [Kindle Edition]

Barbara De Angelis
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Book Description

To many of us, the experiences that we grew up taking for granted leave become distant dreams in our adult lives: marriages that last a lifetime; safe neighborhoods to call home; the certainty that our children will have a better life than we did; and most of all, lots of time to spend as we wish, living for the moment.  Instead, we find our time and energy spent recovering from the past or protecting ourselves from the future.  The result is a desperate, sometimes dangerous, and often unsuccessful, search for meaning in our lives. In Real Moments, Barbara De Angelis defines happiness not as an acquisition, but as a skill--the skill of capturing every moment and living it completely.  With insight, wisdom, and vision, she teaches us how to rediscover real moments with our mates and our children, with our work and our play, in sex and intimacy, and real moments with ourselves.  It is an examination of our relationship with the process of living itself, offering inspiration as well as practical tools for creating more of one of the most precious moments of all--moments of true meaning in our lives.

Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly

Is true happiness achived by having a compatible marriage, the perfect job or owning the right house? Not necessarily, according to DeAngelis (How to Make Love All the Time). Happiness is a skill. That's why we need "real moments"-with our mates, our children and by ourselves-times in which we live fully in the present. A real moment could be enjoying sex or smelling grass after a rain. It could even occur during hard times, as when we receive comforting words from an unexpected source. DeAngelis also warns against defining ourselves by our jobs; even if we love our work, we can take a job too seriously and miss opportunities for real moments. While readers may want to skip the second chapter, "The Crisis of Spirit in America," overall this is an inspiring book.
Copyright 1994 Reed Business Information, Inc.

From Library Journal

The best-selling author of How To Make Love All the Time (LJ 6/1/87), among other titles, DeAngelis here examines the relationship we have with life and our search for inner peace. In this mix of philosophy and psychology, she argues that American society suffers from posttraumatic stress syndrome and that its members have anesthetized themselves to life. If Americans can learn to feel pain and pleasure and not rush through life, they will ultimately be happier with themselves and their surroundings. Although DeAngelis's message is not new, it is presented in the highly accessible vocabulary of the 1990s. As a result, more sophisticated readers may sometimes find the work cloying. Nevertheless, DeAngelis is sincere and heartfelt. Her work is at its worst harmless and at its best capable of leading readers to revelations about their lives. Because DeAngelis is a popular talk show guest, all public libraries should expect demand.
January Adams, ODSI Research Lib., Raritan, N.J.
Copyright 1994 Reed Business Information, Inc.

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  • File Size: 3353 KB
  • Print Length: 291 pages
  • Page Numbers Source ISBN: 0440507294
  • Publisher: Dell; Reprint edition (January 9, 2013)
  • Sold by: Random House LLC
  • Language: English
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35 of 37 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Right Now, I Am .... February 10, 2003
Before reading this book, this weekend, I had listened nearly 10 years ago to the "Real Moments" tape. In fact, in 1994, I bought many of Barbara DeAngelis' tape programs.
But I had never read her books, until now, because I was and am eternally grateful for what I have learned, and where I have arrived, as a result of Barbara putting herself out there for all of us to grow from.
In the book, as in Barbara's tapes, she provides so many life examples that expand upon her messages to her audience.
In my notes from nearly 10 years ago, I listed what real moments meant to me, and how I would live real moments - I certainly have grown since then.
And now, having written all over my book, as I recognize that I am further along on my journey to make a difference, here is some of what I see as having real moments;
Real Moments Are:
· Fully being here, now
· Realizing what they gift of now is
· Finding those parts of ourselves that we lost
· Moving deeply into your pain, rather than away from it
· Nourishing your hungry spirit
· Truly empathizing with your interlocutor
· Developing the skill of enjoying where you are now (happiness)
· Knowing that your life has meaning
· Filling yourself up with love and meaning
· Dong something with complete attention, and without any distractions
· Remembering what really matters
· Fully paying attention to the person you are in conversation with, while you ask yourself, "What does he or she need from me, right now?"
· Learning the power of "No," as a complete sentence.
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15 of 15 people found the following review helpful
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I read this book several years ago when it was in hardback. I have given it to friends also. 'Real Moments' was a great start in my own search for spirituality. I found the book so informative and so very important - keeping yourself in the moment by paying attention to the now. Opening not only your eyes but also your heart, mind and spirit --- your soul.
From reading 'Disappointed's' review and can tell that the point was totally missed.
'Real Moments' is a basic explanation of life and how to appreciate what you have day to day and how not to loose it because your mind is hung up on things in the past or things you desire for the future. Attention, attention, attention.... make yourself aware yourself and what you have in your own life.
Excellent book -- I also have the audio tapes and still listen to them over and over again.
Don't miss out on this book.... get in touch with you!
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14 of 14 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Creating a REAL Life in the Moment April 11, 2004
Real Moments is a wise, compassionate book of genuine wisdom to take the moment we are in and create what we are here to do, or what we love in order to live a life filled with inner peace and happiness.

There are many wonderful quotes from Barbara DeAngelis spread throughout the book that alone are worth this books price.
From work, to difficult times, love relationships, creating sacred spaces, acts of kindness, and family this book cover how to use inner reflection and silence to hear your own inner voice, and honor how you feel in the moment.

Highly recommended for anyone who lives life primarily angry, frustrated, stressed out and sick of it all. This wonderful book will help you turn that around.
Barbara Rose, author of "Stop Being the String Along: A Relationship Guide to Being THE ONE" and 'If God Was Like Man'
Editor of inspire! magazine
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7 of 7 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Soulful and Touching October 10, 1999
Barbara DeAngelis takes you on a journey into the heart and soul of daily living. She reminds us that no moment is ordinary. Each moment is filled with sacredness and joy. Thank You, Barbara DeAngelis, for reminding us to value each day we live. -- Samuel Oliver, author of WHAT THE DYING TEACH US: LESSONS ON LIVING.
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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars I Saw Myself in Many of Her Examples February 7, 2006
Barbara DeAngelis does a wonderful job of helping you understand how to make your present life more meaningful and happy by having more "real moments." By opening up about her own life and experiences, she helps you to understand how to be more present, appreciate and pay close attention to what is going on in your life which can cause you to have more moments of deep meaning and joy. I also agreed with her point that how you think and react to a situation you are in instead of changing the actual situation can have a dramatic effect on your life. Well worth the read.
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful
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I am definitely a fan of Barbara De Angelis, and in Real Moments, she does not disappoint. Dr. De Angelis provides a combination of insights into our frenzy of consumerism and busyness from both her PhD perspective and richly interwoven with many examples from her personal life that frankly, many Western women can relate to, and certainly many men.

Barbara, as ever, provides practical helps throughout her book, and in the case of Real Moments, these are often self-reflective questions to ask ourselves and mull over. These are not a series of quick action step questions, certainly more spiritually reflective. Barbara's own spirit shines through in a manner which readers with different faith backgrounds will mostly be able to incorporate and use whatever their faith practice is.

So many of us are fans of her books on Love and Relationships. Real Moments is about being present here now more often in our lives so that we can truly enjoy the joy of our love relationships. I highly recommend it.
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
5.0 out of 5 stars Five Stars
Excellent book!!
Published 6 days ago by Raymond C. Etcitty
5.0 out of 5 stars Five Stars
I really enjoyed this book it gave me a lot to think on
Published 2 months ago by Amazon Customer
5.0 out of 5 stars An oldie but a goodie - live life and appreciate it in the present...
This book is an oldie but a goodie. It taught me how to stay present and enjoy the real moments of every day life. It's amazing what I was missing! Read more
Published 5 months ago by Diane Dye Hansen - What Works Coaching
5.0 out of 5 stars Wonderful Book
Real Moments inspired me to be ME, to take back who I am and live the life that brings me peace and happiness. Read more
Published 11 months ago by Candice L. Lincoln
5.0 out of 5 stars Real Moments
Love all her books. Barbara teaches you to live by the moment. Listen to your spirit. Dance with Joy. A must read.
Published 15 months ago by frank s
5.0 out of 5 stars Real Moments Will Awaken to What is Really Important in Your Life,...
I've loved this book for years and recommend it to all my clients and friends. It teaches you what is truly important in life beyond what our culture teaches as important. Read more
Published 18 months ago by Howard Sambol
5.0 out of 5 stars Real Moments
An excellent read! Packed full with ideas for making the most out of life. Really inspired me. I will be re-reading soon!
Published 22 months ago by Ozjudes
5.0 out of 5 stars Real Moments
Hi, Awesome book. It is an older book...but it is all true still today. This book made me cry. It is explaining how to get real moments in your life and not just sit by the... Read more
Published 23 months ago by Shasha
5.0 out of 5 stars Wonderfully written
This book is beautifully done. I've read it twice... So far. :-)

I especially like the chapters "Silence and Sacred Spaces" and "Women and Real Moments". Read more
Published on January 10, 2013 by Joel Boggess
3.0 out of 5 stars Interesting
The book has some interesting suggestions. It was recommended by my doctor. I do like some of the ideas but I feel like it starts out strong and enlightening but then leaves you... Read more
Published on January 2, 2013 by Deb R
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