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7 of 7 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
Amazing!, March 21, 2010
This review is from: The Real Reasons Men Commit: Why He Will - or Won't - Love, Honor and Marry You (Paperback)
This book was recommended to me after my failed engagement, by my friend whom just had a divorce. She told me it would change my life, and it did. As I was reading the chapters, every example was a man I've known or dated or considered dating. Obviously those relationships didn't work out because of the commitment issues these men had. I love that the book is written both in the male and woman's' perspective. I recommend this book for all women to shed some light on what these men are thinking!
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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful:
2.0 out of 5 stars
Save your time and money, May 15, 2011
I found this book to be frustratingly repetitious and offensively simplistic. It reads like a Cosmo article, (which is actually quotes stats from) and should be taken about as seriously as one. I guess the fact that Mario Lopez is one of the endorsers of the book should have been a clue... Here's how "smart" they think the average reader is...if on a first date a guy states that one loses sense of self and independence when in a relationship, he's probably not commitment minded (um, duh?). I'm very disappointed that this book was co-authored by a Ph.D. level therapist given it's bubblegum style, use of poorly referenced and meaningless stats, as well as it's lacking (sometimes inaccurate) description of mental health issues. Point in case, those with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (many individuals with NPD are VERY good lovers because they want to avoid criticism, and because they want to live up to their grandiose image, they are often people pleasers to gain the admiration and praise they crave). After reading about how sex is just sex to men for the 100th time and the phrase "your man" for the 1000th time, I was about ready to call it quits with this book...did I mention how repetitious it is? I was also annoyed at the case studies presented...though they were supposed to be from the perspective of individuals, they were all written in the same style and language which busted any credibility and seemed fabricated only to prove a point (often a pointless point at that! lol) Katie did what we said and got married in two months! Sarah did not follow our advice, and she lost her man and was heartbroken...I'm paraphrasing but the point is the advice and scenarios were way too cut and dry. In addition, if you are actually hoping to learn "the real reasons men commit", you are not going to find any easy answers in this book. In addition to not living up to the title, the authors spent WAY too much time writing about co-habitation and married men. Some of the material seemed tangential as if the authors liked it but since it was off topic, they just shoved it in anywhere they could fit it. For example, there is a whole chapter about women who are avoiding commitment...um, useful? maybe, but the book is supposed to be about the real reasons men commitment, not why some women don't commit. To summarize, this book could have been condensed into a ten page essay and gives men and women the value of characters on Sex in the City. Okay, to be fair, it has a few good points (like actions speak louder than words...original, huh?) but having to sift through the filler to find them is not worth it. If you are looking for help with your next relationship, The Real Reasons Men Commit doesn't live up to its name and will likely leave a sour taste in your mouth for the male species. After all, 99% of them are just out to manipulate you and use you for sex! For something more humanistic, realistic, and more applicable to us normal people, try Why Men Won't Commit by Weinberg (it's not perfect, but I found it much more compassionate and balanced).
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful:
4.0 out of 5 stars
definately a thought grabber, June 5, 2011
This review is from: The Real Reasons Men Commit: Why He Will - or Won't - Love, Honor and Marry You (Paperback)
This book made me think a lot. Made me question my relationship and push for something more. It is definately a book you should read if you want to find out if you man is going to commit and helps you lay your food down if you're ready to marry and he isnt.
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