Reality Checks from Boomerang Love [Paperback]

Lynn Melville (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: April 1, 2005

As the second book in the Boomerang Love series, is a compilation of many of the hard-hitting statements and truths published in Melville's first book, Breaking Free from Boomerang Love -- the statements you yourself highlighted as you read it. This second book is meant to be a companion to the first. This is your emotional first aid kit to carry in your briefcase for quick booster shots of courage and empowerment when depression starts to take you down. Or the book to reach for when the doubts and uncertainties hit you -- when the "woulda, coulda, shouldas" begin to weaken your decisions. Grab this book when you need support and only have a few minutes to drink in the words. "Whatever you are willing to put up with is exactly what you will have." "Welcome to the club for People Who Had Too Much Patience." "What most people don't understand is that the person we made our commitment to is not the person we ended up with." Take a quick dip into Reality Checks and get back on your path again, feeling confident and rebooted.

Editorial Reviews

From the Author

I wrote my book in the year 2000, over the course of four months. Each time I had an ah hah! moment, I just had to write it down, catch it and save it so I wouldn't forget -- so I could go back and re-read it, digest it further, understand the why's of BPD. It helped me not feel the hurt so deeply. At the time, I had no idea where the simple journaling of my feelings and healing journey would lead me.

Over those four months, my writing slowly turned into letters to others in the same confusion and pain of a BPD relationship -- letters to educate, soothe, comfort and encourage.

Today, my words have been rather magically transformed into a published book, with people all over the world becoming empowered from their reading of my pilgrimage. I can't begin to tell you how gratifying and humbling this experience has become for me.

Readers are truly becoming healed, empowered and set free from the abuse they've been receiving. In turn, it's my hope that the BPDs we love will eventually understand their need for healing and begin to reach out for it themselves.

About the Author

In writing Breaking Free from Boomerang Love -- Getting Unhooked fromAbusive Borderline Relationships , Lynn Melville's personal mission is to raise awareness of boomerang love , so that it becomes a household phrase, the meaning of which is clear to everyone.

Melville believes that repeatedly leaving and then returning to a painful relationship with another person is a sign that something is seriously wrong -- we just haven't known what that something is.

Melville believes that our culture is essentially color blind to the behavior of narcissistic Borderline Personality Disordered (BPD) people. Few know that there is an actual name and mental health diagnosis for the hurtful behavior that BPDs inflict on their partners in relationships. With the awareness that her Boomerang Love book generates about BPD, Melville hopes that families will seek professional mental health assistance sooner, both for themselves and the BPDs they love.

Melville has served as executive director of the Mental Health Association in her home town. Working with an all-volunteer board and community volunteers, she worked to educate the public about mental health issues. She has also served on numerous charitable boards and with many non-profit organizations. She currently works as a long term care insurance agent and resides in the Central Coast region of California.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 212 pages
• Publisher: Melville Publications (April 1, 2005)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0976060043
• ISBN-13: 978-0976060048
• Product Dimensions: 9 x 6 x 0.4 inches
• Shipping Weight: 13.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (1 customer review)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,330,957 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Lynn Melville's personal mission is to raise awareness of Borderline Personality Disorder and 'boomerang love' -- a love that draws us back into abusive relationships over and over.

In the Red Flags section of Lynn's web site -- www.boomeranglove.com -- she presents a list of over 80 behaviors that indicate the possible presence of the Borderline disorder

Lynn believes that repeatedly leaving and then returning to a painful relationship with another person is a sign that something is seriously wrong --we just haven't known what that 'something' is.

Lynn states that our culture is basically 'color blind' to the behaviors and symptoms of narcissistic Borderline Personality Disorder. Few know that there is an actual name and mental health diagnosis for the hurtful behavior that Borderlines inflict on their partners in relationships.

With the awareness that Lynn's books generate about Borderline Personality Disorder, she hopes that victims and families will seek professional mental health assistance sooner, both for themselves and the Borderline they love.

Lynn has served as executive director of the Mental Health Association in her home town. Working with an all-volunteer board and community volunteers, she worked to educate people about mental health issues. She currnently resides in the Central Coast region of California.

Customer Reviews

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

6 of 6 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A must have for someone living with a BP partner, July 25, 2005

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This review is from: Reality Checks from Boomerang Love (Paperback)

This book is great, almost done with it. It has

really helped - ALOT. I no longer feel the problems are my fault, and now realize there was nothing that I could have done to keep things together. By my trying to hard to keep all going, that actually feed her problem. I no longer will accept her badgering or abuse directed to me. I am still working on true bounderies, but trying to get stronger with keeping the my

acceptable bounderies. This book is great at helping to put those boundries together. I has helped me become free of the weight of living with a borderline spouse.