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Harry G. Frankfurt (Author)
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0691091641 978-0691091648 January 5, 2004

This beautifully written book by one of the world's leading moral philosophers argues that the key to a fulfilled life is to pursue wholeheartedly what one cares about, that love is the most authoritative form of caring, and that the purest form of love is, in a complicated way, self-love.

Harry Frankfurt writes that it is through caring that we infuse the world with meaning. Caring provides us with stable ambitions and concerns; it shapes the framework of aims and interests within which we lead our lives. The most basic and essential question for a person to raise about the conduct of his or her life is not what he or she should care about but what, in fact, he or she cannot help caring about.

The most important form of caring, Frankfurt writes, is love, a nonvoluntary, disinterested concern for the flourishing of what is loved. Love is so important because meaningful practical reasoning must be grounded in ends that we do not seek only to attain other ends, and because it is in loving that we become bound to final ends desired for their own sakes.

Frankfurt argues that the purest form of love is self-love. This sounds perverse, but self-love--as distinct from self-indulgence--is at heart a disinterested concern for whatever it is that the person loves. The most elementary form of self-love is nothing more than the desire of a person to love. Insofar as this is true, self-love is simply a commitment to finding meaning in our lives.


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Provides the rare pleasure of witnessing an agile and sensitive mind grappling with an issue of universal importance.
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About the Author

Harry G. Frankfurt is Professor of Philosophy Emeritus at Princeton University. His books include the best-selling "On Bullshit" (Princeton); "Necessity, Volition, and Love; The Importance of What We Care About;" and "Demons, Dreamers, and Madmen: The Defense of Reason in Descartes's Meditations".

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  • Hardcover: 112 pages
  • Publisher: Princeton University Press (January 5, 2004)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0691091641
  • ISBN-13: 978-0691091648
  • Product Dimensions: 9 x 6.2 x 0.6 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 9.8 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 3.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (6 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,468,519 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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Harry G. Frankfurt is a professor of philosophy emeritus at Princeton University. His books include The Reasons of Love; Necessity, Volition, and Love; and The Importance of What We Care About. He lives in Princeton, New Jersey.

 

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5.0 out of 5 stars Love and the Goals of Life, August 29, 2006
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This short, beautifully written book by Henry Frankfurt, Professor of Philosophy Emeritus at Princeton University, is based upon lectures Frankfurt delivered in 2000 and 2001 titled "Some Thoughts about Norms, Love, and the Goals of Life." In his book, Frankfurt argues that love and the ability to love give meaning to a person's life and that the purest form of love is, ultimately self-love. By 'love', Professor Frankfurt does not mean romantic love. Rather, he characterizes love as 1. disinterested, 2.personal, 3. involving the self-identification of the lover with the beloved and 4. constraining one's action -- a person loves someone or something because he or she can't help doing so.

Frankfurt's book consists of three short chapters. The first chapter, "The Question: How shall we Live?" argues that caring and love, rather than moral behavior, gives meaning to a life and define a person's basic commitments and goals. Professor Frankfurt is not a rationalistic philosopher who extolls the power of reason to set goals. Rather, I think Frankfurt sees love as a matter of an existential commitment -- a person can't help loving what he or she loves. Love is not a question of thinking things through to conclude which subjects and persons merit one's care and concern.

The second chapter "On Love and its Reason" elaborates on the opening chapter and offers the four-fold definition of love I have summarized above. Frankfurt points out that the loves of a person define what that person is and give his or her life goals and meaning. What a person loves is prior to reasoning about one's choices, as evidenced, for Frankfurt, by one of the purest and most common forms of love, the love of a parent for his or her young children. In love, ends and means intersect, in that actions taken in furtherance of the interest of the beloved become themselves final goals rather than only insturmental goals.

In the final chapter, "The Dear Self", Frankfurt argues that the purest form of love is ultimately self-love, rejecting critiques of self-love by philosophers such as Kant. In this chapter, I think, Frankfurt basically equates self-love with self-knowledge. A person who loves himself, for Frankfurt, knows his own mind, knows what he wants and cherishes, and pursues it wholeheartedly without ambivalence. Most people don't know what they want and are plagued by competing goals which restrict severely their ability to love wholeheartedly. Franfurt characterizes such behavior as showing an inability to fully love oneself. In addition to Kant, Frankfurt in this chapter makes insightful references to St Augustine, Kierkegaard, and especially Spinoza. Frankfurt distinguishes again between morality and love as establishing the contours of a meaningful human life. For Frankfurt, a person can love someone or something wholeheartedly and yet be immoral. In addition to the philosophers Frankfurt mentions, I think there are many parallels to existential thought, especially that of Heidegger, behind Frankfurt's lucid and restrained prose.

This book will appeal to thoughtful readers who want to reflect upon and try to understand their lives and what matters to them. It shows that philosophy remains a meaningful, life-giving endeavor rather than the sterile, academic exercise seen by philosophy's detractors.

Robin Friedman
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15 of 16 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars characteristically rich, February 20, 2006
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This is essentially a book on the nature of practical reason. Frankfurt's central claim is that "the origins of normativity do not lie... either in the transient incitements of personal feeling and desire [as some Humeans would have it], or in the severely anonymous requirements of eternal reason [as some Kantians would have it]. They lie in the contingent necessities of love." In other words, love is "the ultimate ground of practical rationality." The title reflects Frankfurt's main ambition, which is to identify and analyze the type of reasons for action provided by love. On the way to this goal, Frankfurt raises some difficult and important questions: How important is moral theory to the theory of practical reason? How important are moral values to the age-old question of how we should live? What is the nature of love? How does it differ from things like romantic attraction? If practical reason is grounded in love, does that mean that practical reason is essentially selfish? He also provides some fascinating answers--some of which are more elaborately defended than others. To give some examples: He argues, as he has before, that morality is in a sense overrated--at least by theorists of practical reason. Moral concerns and values do not always express what is most important to us; therefore, morality is not always the most important source of reasons for action. He also claims that love is characterized by four essential features. It manifests a disinterested concern for the beloved; it is "ineluctably personal"; it involves identification with the beloved; and it imposes constraints upon the will. Surprisingly, Frankfurt argues that the purest (though not necessarily most admirable or valuable) form of love is self-love. He then goes on to argue that once we properly distinguish self-love from self-indulgence we'll be able to see that self-love is not a form of selfishness. So to ground practical reason in love is decidedly not to explain all deliberation in terms of self-centred calculation.

There are moments when it gets a little precious for my tastes, but Frankfurt's work is undeniably honest and deep. It seems driven by a genuine and earnest desire to figure things out--to say something clear, helpful, and even beautiful about things that matter to us. His prose is refreshingly jargon-free. It is certainly a work of analytic philosophy, but he distinguishes himself from many contemporary philosophers by refusing to limit himself to discussions carried on in the latest journals. This means that technical terminology is kept to a minimum, and there is virtually no name-dropping. A reader familiar with the literature in contemporary ethics and practical reason will get more out of this than a novice. But it is a virtue of Frankfurt's work (not just in this book) that anyone sufficiently curious about these matters could read and profit from it. He refers to classic authors such as Aristotle, Kant, St. Augustine, Kierkegaard, and Spinoza. But nothing he writes assumes that the reader already knows their work.

The book clearly furthers an ongoing project. For years Frankfurt has argued that freedom of the will consists in having the will one wants, and that this requires being able to wholeheartedly identify with some desires rather than others. "The Reasons of Love" continues his efforts to elaborate on and justify that basic idea. This comes out most clearly in the last half of the last chapter, where Frankfurt explains how true self-love accomplishes the "wholehearted identification" that is necessary for the "volitional unity" that enables perons to achieve the kind of freedom that's worth having. The discussion here will resonate most with readers of his other works--particularly the numerous essays on identification, caring, volitional necessity, and autonomy.

That should not scare off the uninitiated. On the contrary: just about anyone inclined to ask themselves hard questions about freedom, love, reason, and the nature of the self is likely to find reading Harry Frankfurt deeply rewarding. He's careful and precise without being technical or overly-dry. More important, he never loses sight of the stuff most of us actually care about. My sense is that those unfamiliar with Frankfurt's work will find in "The Reasons of Love" a great place to start reading one of the most interesting and important philosophers writing today.
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2 of 3 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars Delightful but dispiriting, January 20, 2009
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The prose of Mr. Frankfurt is in this book as terse, concise and understandable as in previous works ("taking us seriously and getting it right", "on truth"), which does not mean hastily construed, as it is evident from the density of information and the carefulness of the choice of words that he has given long thoughts on the subject he reflects upon. So, as stated in the title of this review, it is delightful to read his essays in general, and this one in particular, which have the added benefit of not being cluttered with countless quotes and references, as so many philosphers today feel compelled to do (a vice specially conspicuous in European thinkers). There are a few of those quotes and references (St. Augustine and Bernard WIlliams come to mind), but always relevant and well serving the purpose of illuminating the main line of argument, instead of calling our attention to the erudition of the author.
As for the content, that's the dispiriting fact, as the central thesis of the book is that traditional rationalist philosphies have got it wrong in trying to identify normative reasons that would authoritatively dictate how we should act (and, by extension, how we should live). As he states brilliantly in section 10 of the first chapter, to be able to ascertain the validity of those reasons of how to live we should have previously agreed on what kind of live is (objectively) valuable to pursue, so the whole argument suffers from an unavoidable circularity that makes the intent of finding those reasons (or answer the question they seek to settle rationally) necessarily bound to fail. We'll come back later to the implications of that inability of reason to help us determine the ultimate ends of our lives (which is not in itself original). Mr. Frankfurt contends in the rest of the book that asking for the ultimate reasons to live is getting the causality backwards, as instead of having reasons to care for things as ends in themselves what we find ourselves with is objects of our interests that we care about (being love the higher degree of caring that can exist) which in turn, because of them being important to us, give us reason to act in a certain way.
All of that is well and good, and in line with some emotivist descrptions of normativity that can trace it's origins back to Hume (if not further, as it can be argued that Epicurus already held similar views four centuries BC).
The more orignal part of the book is developed in the third chapter, where Mr. Frankfurt argues that the higher form of love, and a precondition for truly loving anything (thus truly caring about, and because of that, truly having reasons to act in certain ways) is self-love. I'm afraid I found this part less persuasive than the rest, as the self-love it postulates ends up seeming to be little more than a contrivance to justify having a reason to care for something in the first place (as both from stoic and buddhist stances it could be argued that it would be better for men not to love anything, as it causes us to be attached to things over which we have no control).
A final word about the consequences of assuming the inability of a universal (or objective, or even intersubjective) reason to provide us with the ultimate ends we should pursue: if that were the case (and I repeat that Mr. Frankfurt book makes one of the best laid out arguments I've read so far for it) it would be impossible to adjudicate between competing claims made by different individuals, as each could defend those claims by stating they were acting in the best interest of what they most deeply care about, and those inerest would be incommensurable. So for example, we would have no rational argument to defend that loving a racial minority (and thus acting to improve their lot in life) is morally superior to hating that same minority (and thus working to extermiante it, as hate could be construed as a love for the disappearance of that particular group). The members of the Frankfurt school (so called because of the German city that originally hosted the Institute of Social Studies with which most of them were associated, nothing to do with the author we are considering here) are just one example of thinkers who, after denouncing the inability of the scientific-technical (or instrumental, or sujective) reason to provide us with ultimate ends, spelled out the need for practical philosophy (or ethics) to devote its energy to that quest (the quest for a rationality that had something to say about our ultimate ends, the ends that are not means to attain anything else). If that quest is doomed, ethic is impossible, and moral discourse is irrelevant.
Although Mr. Frankfurt admonishes us in his final paragraph to bear that irrelevance with good humour, and his brilliant book gives us much to think about, all I can say is that I still do not find the overall description of our human condition satisfactory, although of course that goes well beyond the opinion that this very fine piece of work deserves.
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