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Reclaiming Desire: 4 Keys to Finding Your Lost Libido

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I bought this book based on the Amazon reviews and I'm glad I did. This book is for everyone; I am most certainly not the average victim of low libido - I'm 24 years old, no children, and in a committed loving relationship. It cleared up so many things for me; so much so that my therapist is buying it to recommend to his other patients. I have since recommended it to all of my girlfriends, even the ones who feel they have no libido problems. Besides getting me to feel more open discussing some of the problems that were weighing heavily on me, I learned some simple relaxation tips to keep me 'in the moment' and focused on the experience, not the grocery list that I used to make in my mind. I could go on and on, but just trust me. It's worth buying.

Reclaiming Desire is a gift to women who have lost their libido. Doctors Goldstein and Brandon have created a beautifully-written, comprehensive, empowering and compassionate book, and one I recommend wholeheartedly to my patients. It deals with women's low sexual desire in unusual depth, and in a remarkably balanced way---encompassing the physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual aspects of womens' sexuality.If you still love your partner and your relationship and you still want to bond, but your sex drive has vanished, this is the best book you could ever read.

Reclaiming Desire is the thinking woman's antidote to helplessness. It gives you the guidemap to pinpoint what is wrong, the courage to take responsibility for your part, the voice of a wise, ingenious, loving guide to cheer you on, and all the strategies you will need to change your libido. The chapter on the "Miracle of Motherhood" is a masterpiece. It should be required reading for all parents-to-be, and the professionals who take care of them.

This is a fabulous book and a first-rate contribution to the literature on women and sexuality.

Aline Zoldbrod Ph.D.
AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Diplomate in Sex Therapy,
Psychologist and Couples Therapist
Author, Sex Smart: How Your Childhood Shaped Your Sexual Life and What To Do About It, and co-author, Sex Talk: Uncensored Exercises for Exploring What Really Turns You On.

Reclaiming Desire is a must read for any woman who finds that her sex drive is not what it should be or what she wants it to be, and is willing to take steps to fix it. According to the authors there is no "quick fix" for low libido. Instead, the authors lay out a comprehensive plan for improving sex drive that makes sense and actially works! Their plan starts out with a self test that helps you identify why your sex drive is decreased. Then they explain how to fix it. For example, some women may find that they need to take hormones like testosterone or dopamine, while other women may need help with emotional or relationship problems. They also give a lot of useful information about some popular aphrodisiacs like ginko and ginseng, and talk about sexual desire at different stages of life (after giving birth, menopause, etc). There are lots of useful bullet points that summarize each chapter. One of the best parts of this book are the stories from actual patients that were treated by the authors. All in all this is good reading and lots of help for those of us whose sex drive is not what it once was.

Dr. Goldstein changed my life and probably saved my marriage. This is not an overstatement.

After having two children in a relatively short span of time, my husband and I found less time for each other and, when we had time, I was utterly exhausted and disinterested. The advice that Dr. Goldstein and his partner offer in their practice, and what they tell you in this book, will definitely help you understand the root causes of some of these issues. Sometimes things are more complicated than they seem at first. But more importantly, this book will give you some concrete action items to help you make positive changes.

I was lucky in that my "issues" were among the most common out there and are very treatable. But that didn't make it any easier for me to cope with. I am fortunate to have found Dr. Goldstein and have been a patient of his. I have personally found Dr. Goldstein to be pragmatic and honest in his dealings with his patients. I appreciate that about him. His advice is straight-forward without being clinical or harsh. Above all, this is useful stuff that anyone can benefit from.

Talking about sex is sometimes awkward but Drs. Goldstein and Brandon talk to you like a real person in this book. Most importantly they give you real answers.

Written for women, "Reclaiming Desire" explores why sexual desire fades and what can be done to bring it back. Authors Andrew Goldstein, M.D. and Marianne Brandon, Ph.D., the founders of the Sexual Wellness Center in Annapolis, Maryland, claim that there are four keys to reclaiming this desire. These keys are good physical health, being emotional resilient, being intellectually fulfilled, and having spiritual contentment.

We all go through various life changes, any one of which can affect the libido. The authors look at many of these changes and how they affect your sex drive as well as what can be done to reduce or eliminate that effect. Each of their four keys is examined in detail including not only how things like hormones, depression, anxiety, stress, menopause and other factors affect your drive but also exploring how to lessen those effects. They do a good job of exposing various myths and misconceptions as well as detailing what works and what does not. With today's focus on natural health options they even include information on how exercise and other natural options can be used.

Throughout the book two messages are clear - you are not alone and there is hope. "Reclaiming Desire" is highly recommended to any woman suffering from a declining libido who wants to reclaim that portion of their relationship as part of their life.

Drs. Goldstein and Brandon are geniuses. Their work changed my marriage. My wife and I both read this book and came away with an understanding that is hard to put into words. All I can tell you is READ THIS BOOK. The writing is engaging and the message is profound. The writers both display incredible knowledge that is intertwined with their compassion. They will help us all understand a little more about ourselves.

I have only made it through the first few chapters, but this book has already helped. I'm a recenlty married 26 year old, but because I have Hashimoto's Disease (low thyroid) I was stuggling with a low libido. My husband was trying to be very understanding, but it was difficult being that we have only been married a little over a year. This book helped me stop feeling so stressed out, and reminded me I needed to take time for myself. Once I started paying attention to myself and my own needs, I found my problems with low libido start to dissapear. I recommend this book for anyone stuggling with low libido. You aren't alone, and this book offers much needed support to help you get your libido back where it should be.

Reclaiming Desire issues an invitation to women with low libido to recover a vital part of their essence and to rediscover themselves and their partners in the process. With wisdom and compassion, Drs. Brandon and Goldstein encourage and empower women on this journey, helping them to learn about and take responsibility for their sexual wellness. Their holistic view encompasses the many-layered complexity of sexuality, using case examples to further enliven and enlighten the text. I will highly recommend this book to my patients.

Let's see, exercise more, eat right, love yourself, learn to meditate, read soft porn, tell your partner what you want. I think that sums it up. Oh yeah, if something is causing physical pain, figure out some new positions or buy a tube of K-Y.

I bought this book used and except for the quiz (which had been filled out twice), the book was brand new; no turned down pages, no cracks in the binding, no evidence that the previous owners gave it more than a glance. When I got to the part about bubble baths and sexy underwear I knew this wasn't for me. The authors touch on a lot of things, but don't really offer much help. Overweight? Lose some. Bad body image? Touch yourself more.

Nothing here I couldn't get out of Cosmopolitan and at least that offers some entertainment value.

This book was very helpful to me, especially the emotional section. I would suggest it to anyone that has had sexual trauma in the past and is still trying to cope with trusting another.