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Reclaiming Intimacy: Overcoming the Consequences of Premarital Relationships

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This book is certainly noble in purpose and probably helpful to many, but I was seeking information on overcoming the damage done when people have had premarital sex with others besides their spouses. There was almost none, perhaps because the authors have not been in that situation. Other books about the Christian perspective on sex in general have addressed that issue more fully than this one devoted to "the consequences of premarital relationships," so I was pretty disappointed.

This is an extraordinarily helpful and honest look at the consequences of premarital sex. It offers real insight, real hope, and real answers. A lot of people today, sometimes without knowing it, are dealing with the consequences of sex before marriage. And Christian couples aren't exempt from this struggle. Heather, by openly sharing her own story, helped us understand the lasting effects of these relationships, and showed us how to seek forgiveness and restoration.

As someone who often lectures on the subject of marital intimacy, I had never seen a book that dealt with the all-too-common problem of premarital sexual relationships in consenting relationships and the baggage they bring to the marriage relationship. The Jamisons have done a great service by providing such a resource, and they have done so by sharing from their own experience. They are honest and vulnerable without being self-focused--no small feat. This book is a valuable aid both to married couples dealing with the pain of previous relationships and to the unmarried who are considering their own standards of purity.

Both my husband and I really benefited from the information in this book, and we've been married for 15 years. We also recommeded the book to others we know that have been married for a while, because we feel it is so important to consider premarital sex as an issue- even this far down the road if it hasn't been effectively dealt with. We really just missed looking into this and I'm so thankful that Heather Jamison addressed this issue, so that we could address it. I know that our marriage will benefit from our time dealing with and resolving some of these issues. I think it's also a great warning to unmarried people that these issues are real and waiting to have sex until you're married is much more worth the time then struggling through these issues later. If you are considering waiting or not please read this book, it will give you good reason to make the "wait" choice!!!!

I just got in touch with Heather J in Kenya. She is so real in the book that I wanted to talk to someone who stood where I once did. I am about to work on a similar book and this one has made some good points for me to think over. It is true she doesn't deal a lot with women who have had sex with partners that they did not marry, but she did a wonderful job of reaching those of use who DID marry at least 1 of our partners. I am impressed with her honesty. It can't be easy to reveal such personal information. I admite Heather J.

This book is very readable. Heather Jamison's openness and honesty made me feel like she is real. She shares her personal feelings and experiences, and also includes those of us who didn't experience things in the exact way that she did. I've never seen another book quite like this in the Christian arena. Most of this type of book goes out to the abused or those who didn't know better than to have premarital sex. This book speaks to those who knew better, but did it anyway. There is hope and there is healing, and that is what this book is about.

I bought this book for a friend because it came highly recommended by my daughter. Both women felt the book helpful to many aspects of newly-married couples even when the circumstances were not similar. My daughter (now 28) hopes it will be made readily available to High School aged girls.