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Reclaiming Your Sexual Self: How You Can Bring Desire Back Into Your Life

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My wife's on-again, off-again interest in romance had been driving me crazy for the five years of our marriage. Nothing I did seemed to have an impact on her desire for me...she was forever not in the mood. Periodically I'd get on a roll with exercise, doing the grocery shopping, helping more with the kids, making plans for us to have romantic dinners, and sometimes I'd light the candles in the bedroom only to find her disinterested or uncomfortable when she walked in.

I am pleased to report that things have taken a turn for the better since we both read Reclaiming Your Sexual Self. Dr. Hall's insightful comments and anecdotes from her clinical experience helped us to begin a dialog that has brought us to have a better understanding of each other. I have been able to drop my resentments from having been "neglected" by her and I have more compassion for the issues she struggles with. Dr. Hall's book helped to facilitate a dialog that is still ongoing. As a result we are closer than we have been in a long time and that has helped us to rediscovery some of the romantic spark that first drew us together.

This book is truly great. My boyfriend and I used to fight about sex a lot. I was convinced there was something wrong with me. After reading this book, I no longer felt like I had some kind of disease. My boyfriend and I read sections together, it was fun to read, very reassuring and I followed many of the suggestions Dr. Hall gave for getting desire back. And they worked! I highly recommend this book to everyone in a relationship - don't wait until the fighting about sex gets bad, read this book now.

I bought this book hot off the press but I had little hope a book could help me. I've had years of either feeling guilty about disappointing my husband or being angry with him for being too demanding. After reading this book, I feel neither guilty or angry but hopeful. There is a lot of information about sexual desire that is actually understandable and easy to read (and it helps to know this stuff!). The tips on communication were useful - things I could do right now. But what I found most helpful were the suggestions about what I could do to get the feeling of desire back.Other books gave me the message I just needed to forget that feeling, but I am actually feeling sexual desire again for the first time in years. Read this book. It really helps.

The big drug companies are trying sell women all kinds of pills and patches to fix a sex life that isn't working. Do yourself a favor: before taking antidepressants, hormones or running off to therapy, give this book a read. The author doesn't treat low desire like some sort of disease that needs to be cut out. Instead, she encourages you to look at what low desire might be saying, and how to deal with it in meaningful ways. Her approach can help you feel better about yourself and your life. I got a lot from this book and I highly recommend it for women and men.

Dr. Hall is clearly a very bright and talented therapist. Her ideas and counsel are things that are not only thought-provoking, but that I was able to actually use to improve my interaction with my husband. While not always easy because there's real honesty and work involved, the book was incredibly helpful for my relationship -- which was, frankly, a surprise given how little many books of this sort offer. Dr. Hall's book is insightful, has been beyond beneficial to my sense of self -- not just my sense of my own sexuality -- and has been worth infinitely more than the modest price.

I just finished reading it and thought it was very informative and helpful. You are absolutely right in that this is stuff people do not learn about but really do need to know. I think if more people read this book there would be less unhappy relationships and divorces. I think it is extremely valuable reading for men too. It really helped me to understand the dynamics and issues in a relationship from both view points. As Habit #5 of THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE states, "Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood". This book has really helped me to do this.

I recommend this book for anyone serious about making and keep their relationship as good as it can be.

Dr. Hall's book is one for which I have been waiting. It provides a tool for an all to common problem among women who when finding themselves in this situation tend to blame themselves. It is not a blaming book, but more of a normalizing experience (this can happen to anyone given the demands of day to day life). She then provides the reader with a practical guide for improving their own sexual self. As a therapist I highly recommend this book to clients and as a woman's advocate I applaud her ability to direct her work toward women without a hint of blame just an empathic expertise.

I'm glad this book showed up on an Amazon.com search for "seniors in love."

I found and ordered RECLAIMING YOUR SEXUAL SELF, SEASONED ROMANCE, and RECLAIMING DESIRE, among others.

Each one, in its own unique way, pointed me back to the fact that it is never too late to find both true love and wonderful sex, including for seniors.

The subtitle of this book, HOW YOU CAN BRING DESIRE BACK INTO YOUR LIFE, says it best! And I can tell you from experience that it is true. The libido wasn't lost; it was just in need of being reclaimed. There was still desire, but it needed to be fueled into flame!

Thank goodness for writers like Kathryn Hall and the others I've mentioned, for each extraordinary author has pointed the way toward filling life with romance (and hopefully lots of years of spicy, seasoned senior sex)!

It's time to bring desire back!

Ms. Hall could have written a more interesting book titled: "The Sexual Socialization of Males and How it Contributes to the Epidemic of Diminshed Libido in Women", instead, once again, the onus is placed on the woman to "fix" her low libido, while the sexually abusive culture she exists within, remains the same. Maybe lost libido is natures healthy response to the culture we live in, which does more to harm a woman's sexual development than help it. Not only do women have to deal with objectification, negative cultural messages about their intrinsic worth and purpose, as well as the threat of rape, but they should have a robust libido in the midst of all this. Ridiculous.