Customer Reviews

Recovering From Rape

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With respects to significant others, friends and family, this book covers a sufficient beginnings on what a victim may need for understanding. A victim? I'll have to sign-on under that category for what happened a long time ago. When I was in recovery counseling, individual and group, this book helped me to leap into higher levels of coping skills. When I was healing, I was hunting for genuine helpful knowledge under every rock and around every aisle. I didn't need alphabet-soup authors who published nonsense, empty hypothesis, trying to impress their awed students. I needed help.

Linda Ledray, Dr. Ledray knows the subject matter, rape recovery. She knows the will that we victims whisper inside--the one that wants for a better level in life, perhaps a happy one. GO FOR IT! This book is not a panacea. If you are a victim, there will always be more issues on your hunt, like there was with mine. We are individuals, each experience is different.

I am back today, to purchase a third copy of this book. A young woman is going through the early stages of recovery. She's remembering the monsters and is plenty on the: "Why me?" "What did I do to..." She could use a little solid matter to peruse. I'm just a friend. My best choice was to shut my thoughts and get her this book. It was the best book resource among my hunt.

God bless you, all and all who care. Having your personality crunched-down and your soul invaded is not a matter to take lightly for a woman or a man or a boy or a girl or an infant. Dr. Ledray will cover that. Maybe someday, the law will reflect realistic trial proceedures and sentences. IN the end, God will always know the tally.

I bought this book after my first assault and am now re-reading it for a 3rd time, having been raped again. It is a GREAT book for the "basics". On the survivor's side, Dr. Ledray reminds you that you are not alone and you are not going crazy. She discusses the steps in everything from complete denial to going to court to STD's. For the secondary victim's (signifigant others), this book is not going to tell you everything that you want to know, but it can at least get you moving in the right direction.

Dr. Ledray does know survivors and that may be why she comes across as a "fear all men" kind of woman. But what she is truly expressing is that most survivors fear all men.

When I met my fiance, one year after my first rape, he had never known anyone who had been raped before. I kept asking him to read the book, because I couldn't explain to him what I needed or make him understand how I felt. About 3 months before my second rape, he read the book and he and I both saw a change in our relationship. After I came home from the hospital, he didn't ask why I felt a certain way or why I couldn't let it go. He had some sense of how I felt and how traumatizing it was for me.

Just don't buy this book to be the "fix" for everything. It's not, but it is a step in the right direction.

I bought this book shortly after I was sexually assaulted by a stranger last year. It has helped me greatly and also my new partner who did not know me at the time of the attack as he was able to read all the sections for 'the significant other'.

It provides good, hands on advice on how to take control of your life again. I suffered from terrible depression after the attack and this book provided lots of tips on how to get through this. My only reservations about the book are that it is for an American audience, (I think a British version coudl be written) and the descriptions of other cases I found too upsetting shortly after the attack.

On the whole though, an excellent book and I have recommended to all people I have met who have had a similar experience to mine.

My girlfriend is a rape victim and I was looking for a book that could help me help her, understand her, without me going insane--it's very tough :(

I kind of liked the book (that's why 3 stars), but it lacks information that focuses on "friends, family and loved ones." Granted, each little topic has a small section for such people, but it's not enough.

If you're looking for an [I'm the partner of a rape victim and want to know what to do and how to react from a psychological, intimate, and love/affection point of view] book, then this one is clearly not what you're looking for.

As a clinical psychologist working in a college counseling center, I often recommend this book to clients who have been victims of rape/sexual assault. It provides excellent educational material, including a review of rape myths, information on typical effects of a rape (very useful for helping survivors feel they are not alone), and much more. Plus, Ledray takes her readers through the legal process of prosecuting a rapist in a step-by-step fashion. A final valuable addition is the inclusion of guidelines for significant others at the end of every chapter. My only caveat is that this book focuses on stranger rape rather than the much more prevalent date rape, but despite this, it is an extremely valuable resource.

This book is an excellent choice for survivors, friends and family, and professionals going through the recovery process. It goes step by step through the recovery process for both the survivor and his/her family and friends. I actually first read this book in a course on Violence Against Women. I later found out that it is also used in the Sexual Assualt program at the Women's Crisis Center I work at. Now that I have taken the position as Sexual Assault Advocate, I will continue to use it in my work and reccommend it to my clients.

This book was one of the first I read after my rape a little over 2 years ago. I read this book in one day and handed it to my boyfriend to read it. It really helped me understand what I was going through and why. My boyfriend, at the time, was able to read it and was bale to further understand my anger, guilt-- all of the feelings that I was dealing with. Although one cannot fully understand those feelings unless you have gone through it yourself; this book does help family members, friends, and lovers understand as much as they can. I really recommend this book especially if you were recently raped. Please, also remember though that just reading a book and not seeking therapy will not help you recover fully. Seeking help from a person with experience in rape and sexual assault will help as well as reading, journaling, and speaking to friends and family.

I am Victim's Advocate at a domestic violence and sexual assault crisis center, and I am also a survivor of sexual assault. I read this book as part of my training in 1994, and I use it frequently to help my clients. When I read the book, it seemed that the author was writing about me! It made me understand many feelings I had as a child, teenager, and adult, and it made me feel more "normal".

It has helped so many of my clients to work through their feelings as victims and to help them become survivors. The simple language and order of the chapters allows them to start anywhere in the book, put the book down for a while to process their feelings, and pick it back up when they are ready to continue. I order several copies of this book every year so I can let clients take a copy of the book home with them. This allows them to move at their own speed. Sometimes we read the book together in counseling if their feelings are too overwhelming to process by themselves. I highly recommend this book.

this book is an excellent resource. it covers every aspect of post-rape healing and decisions. i highly recommend it to any rape survivor or a loved one of a survivor.

I found this book to be very helpful, both for me as a person recovering, and as I work with people who are recovering.