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Recovering from Sexual Abuse, Addictions, and Compulsive Behaviors: "Numb" Survivors

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As a survivor of abuse as a very young child, it was very difficult for me to connect my own destructive, compulsive behavior to abuse. By researching the stories of many other survivors in this book I've been able to piece together what most likely happened. Survivors should be prepared for some potentially triggering content while reading, but it's still a good resource. Topics from eating disorders to alcohol and drugs are covered, and I'm starting to "get it" that all escape behaviors can be tied to childhood abuse, neglect, or shame of some kind.

The three-star rating would have been more if the content were not so triggering, and because my own recovery draws more from authors such as Patrick Carnes and John Bradshaw. Yet, for prepared survivors, and perhaps even more so for therapists, this is a good book to understand the wide variety of negative repercussions which result from abuse.

This book was the first one I found which discussed the affects of child sexual abuse it has on us as adults. This was an excellent book in making me understand better why I do what I do and joining the dots for me.

This is a very insightful book which I fully intend to read again and keep as a reference. This book is for those abused who are ready to explore the inner needs which drive us to utilize useless and/or harmful coping mechanisms without knowing why. It is also for those who love us and need to develop patience through understanding. Having been the recipient of physical, emotional, & verbal abuse for much of my life, initially from the very people who were supposed to love & nurture me (and later from the broken record of their hateful words in my head), it was very interesting to see myself in each and every chapter. I saw my withdrawn & untrusting nature within these pages. I can better understand now my tendency to alternate between long periods of "numbness", when no one can penetrate my thick emotional armor, and those unwelcome periods of extreme emotional fragility when I must retreat to my "cave" in order to survive the pain. It gives me strength to understand that my reactions are normal given what I have been through. Also, through her apt descriptions of addictions and compulsions, which I had never thought applied to me, I better understand now my compulsive bird/mouse-like behavior of actively seeking and collecting "pretty/shiny things" as if they will somehow fill or repair the empty holes in my life. They don't. They only put holes in my bank account and clutter up my home. While reading her book, I found it helpful to replace "sexual abuse" with "abuse" in general, as the majority of the abuse I experienced was not sexual in nature (though not completely void of it). In doing so, I found that the majority of her insights clearly apply to my experiences, too. I imagine there are many others who would benefit from reading this book, as long as they don't give in to the easy temptation to say, "This book is not for me as I wasn't sexually abused." All labels aside, abuse is abuse, and rare is the adult who doesn't still have a little child inside who is hurting.

THIS BOOK IS JUST AMAZING IN THE PRESENTATION. I LOVE THE WAY SHE DESCRIBES AND RELATES ALL ADDICTIONS, NOT JUST SEXUAL ABUSE. I WILL DEFINATELY USE IT AS A REFERENCE BOOK IN MY ENDEVORS. IT IS WRITTEN IN "LAYMAN'S TERMS" - SO ANYONE COULD UNDERSTAND THE TEXT. BRAVO!

This book opened the door for a patient in therapy to feel and understand how childhood abuse affected her. She has suffered from prescription drug abuse and alcoholism most of her life. She was particularily able to connect with the "Numb" aspect of her illness.