Redefining Our Relationships: Guidelines For Responsible Open Relationships [Paperback]

Wendy-O Matik (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: May 1, 2002

Put together your own version of an ideal relationship, embrace the full capacity of your heart to express love, redefine the potential of a friendship, imagine a thousand ways to make love to yourself and to anyone else you care about. Radicalize your relationship by imagining your wildest ideal partnership together. Avoid stagnancy by challenging your old familiar routine and re-inventing new levels of commitment. Face your true desires in life by asking yourself what you really want from all of your connections.

Editorial Reviews

Review

Wendy-O Matik's guide for the possibilities of polyamory reads like a punk rock Ann Landers channeling Emma Goldman. -- Hakim Bey, author of T.A.Z. The Temporary Autonomous Zone, Ontological Ararchism, Poetic Terrorism (Autonomedia Press)

Wendy-O address the issue of non-monogamy with the same love-based anarchy that she brings to her poetry. -- Michelle Tea, author of Valencia

Wendy-O tackles a touchy topic with clarity and creativity. I gave the jealousy tips to my lover immediately. -- Annie Sprinkle, Post-porn Star turned Certified Sexologist

About the Author

Wendy-O Matik is a Bay area based freelance writer and author of Redefining Our Relationships: Guidelines for Responsible Open Relationships. As an educator, role model, and spokesperson for the polyamory community, Wendy has become a revolutionary activist of the heart. Since the release of her book, she has taught over eighty Radical Love & Relationship Workshops globally, excavating important social trends and reshaping the future of alternative relationship models for the 21st century. As an activist for social change, Wendy is pushing the boundaries on firmly rooted notions in mainstream society on relationships, love, gender, sexual equality, and sexual politics.

Product Details

• Paperback: 93 pages
• Publisher: Defiant Times Press (May 1, 2002)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1587900157
• ISBN-13: 978-1587900150
• Product Dimensions: 8.2 x 5.6 x 0.3 inches
• Shipping Weight: 0.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.1 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (18 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #166,714 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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40 of 40 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Good guidelines, March 28, 2005

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Thomas M. Seay (Palo Alto, California USA) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Redefining Our Relationships: Guidelines For Responsible Open Relationships (Paperback)

I happened upon Ms. O Matik at the San Francisco Anarchist book fair where she was selling this work. The book has nothing that is mind-bogglingly new. It is straight-forward and common-sensical. However it obviously comes directly from the author's personal experience and will help you steer through the complexities that might arise should you decide to pursue a polyamorous lifestyle.

What is refereshing is that Wendy does not try to proselytizein this book: she does not try to advocate this lifestyle as the only way. The author takes a mature attitude and one does not feel that she has adopted this lifestyle for the sake of rebellion. In other words, the works flows from her center. It is a postive statement that is life-affirming, not a negative rebellion against.

36 of 36 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Thought Provoking, July 19, 2003

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This review is from: Redefining Our Relationships: Guidelines For Responsible Open Relationships (Paperback)

This book is slender yet packed with thoughts, expressed clearly and succinctly. The author is a poet who lives the alternate lifestyle. The focus of her book is not limited to polyamorous sexual relationships, but goes beyond that to the many forms in which love and intimacy are shared. Although it is about polyamorous relationships, it is more than that -- it is a meditation on love, and invites the reader to think outside of categories about what one truly wants and needs as a human being.

24 of 28 people found the following review helpful:

2.0 out of 5 stars The Reader's Digest Guide to Polyamory, July 10, 2004

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Thomas A. Amoroso MD "tamoroso" (Somerville, MA, USA) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Redefining Our Relationships: Guidelines For Responsible Open Relationships (Paperback)

Nothing in this book is wrong or out of place, but it's instantly obvious that it's written by a poet and not a prose artist. I personally feel this book has a far greater economy of words than the topic deserves. It's an addition to the books on polyamory which is a rapid, easy read-but left me wanting more. More explanation, more details, more mechanics.