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"I just had to write and thank you for the insight you provided concerning limits . . . You have given some great ways to enforce limits in a positive manner." -- Cathy Barg, parent
"The best, most useful book on parenting I've ever read." -- Jack Canfield, parent and author, Chicken Soup for the Soul and other books
"The best, most useful book on parenting I've ever read." -- Jack Canfield, parent and author, Chicken Soup for the Soul and other books
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All families need a map to travel the rough roads of life more smoothly. Take Redirecting Children's Behavior as your guide. This comprehensive book will show you the path to peace within your family and beyond. Take off on a surprise journey with Kathryn Kvols to see how quickly your family can become close, cooperative, and respectful.
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57 of 58 people found the following review helpful
Format:Paperback
This book has wisdom that could not be learned in a thousand lifetimes of raising children. Quite simply it teaches you how to parent in an effective and non-judgemental way so that everyone's feelings and desires are considered but you still achieve your goals as a parent. I have used it on children, nieces & nephews and even adults my age and I must tell you that it works.
For example, when a young nephew spilled apple juice on a niece's newly colored princess picture, she burst into tears. Her father tried in vain to distract her, telling her to stop crying, in order to end the extremely loud sobbing. (Any embarassed parent would do this! It's your first reaction and is so natural!) Remembering what this book had taught, I toweled up the apple juice and softly said "Let her mourn. It was a beautiful picture and a terrible accident has happened. My brother did the same thing to one of my drawings when I was in the second grade and it was heartbreaking. She has the right to be sad right now." Within an instant of a second my niece stopped her loud sobbing and stared at me in disbelief. Her dad was surprised, too, at how quickly the dramatic wails had ceased. A few big tears still rolled down her cheek and there certainly was a follow-up whimper or two, but she was instantly ready to get out the blow dryer and salvage the picture, all because I had said I understood her sadness and it was okay for her to cry. Why did it have the complete opposite effect? Because the frustration of being told to "quit crying" when she had a right to cry wasn't added to the mix of her emotions. She only had to deal with one emotion - the sadness - and when acknowledged by another, she was able to work through it much faster. I give this insightful book 100% credit for that outcome.
I simply adore this book and although I found it almost mind-bending at times to read and comprehend, I truly cherish it. I sincerely mourn that the first copyright date was long before I was born and that my parents did not ever get their hands on this book. I am also sad that I have this wonderful knowledge and yet find it so hard to be as loving and non-judgemental towards my husband who I adore, although I would love to treat him so divinely. Read the book and you'll understand what I mean - you really do become sad each time you don't apply it's wisdom to solving the difficult situations you encounter in real-life relationships. The good news is this book gives you the power to change and is SO FUN to put into practice!
For example, when a young nephew spilled apple juice on a niece's newly colored princess picture, she burst into tears. Her father tried in vain to distract her, telling her to stop crying, in order to end the extremely loud sobbing. (Any embarassed parent would do this! It's your first reaction and is so natural!) Remembering what this book had taught, I toweled up the apple juice and softly said "Let her mourn. It was a beautiful picture and a terrible accident has happened. My brother did the same thing to one of my drawings when I was in the second grade and it was heartbreaking. She has the right to be sad right now." Within an instant of a second my niece stopped her loud sobbing and stared at me in disbelief. Her dad was surprised, too, at how quickly the dramatic wails had ceased. A few big tears still rolled down her cheek and there certainly was a follow-up whimper or two, but she was instantly ready to get out the blow dryer and salvage the picture, all because I had said I understood her sadness and it was okay for her to cry. Why did it have the complete opposite effect? Because the frustration of being told to "quit crying" when she had a right to cry wasn't added to the mix of her emotions. She only had to deal with one emotion - the sadness - and when acknowledged by another, she was able to work through it much faster. I give this insightful book 100% credit for that outcome.
I simply adore this book and although I found it almost mind-bending at times to read and comprehend, I truly cherish it. I sincerely mourn that the first copyright date was long before I was born and that my parents did not ever get their hands on this book. I am also sad that I have this wonderful knowledge and yet find it so hard to be as loving and non-judgemental towards my husband who I adore, although I would love to treat him so divinely. Read the book and you'll understand what I mean - you really do become sad each time you don't apply it's wisdom to solving the difficult situations you encounter in real-life relationships. The good news is this book gives you the power to change and is SO FUN to put into practice!
35 of 36 people found the following review helpful
Format:Paperback
I was spanked as a child and thought that was how I would do it. Then I read this book and took the related class. It completely changed how I parent. Why spank when you can easily get your kids to cooperate in other wonderful, self-esteem building ways? I have been doing this method now for 3 years and my kids are obedient, confident, good problem solvers and get very positive comments from their teachers. I owe 60% of that to this book.
22 of 22 people found the following review helpful
By A Customer
Format:Library Binding
This book teaches more than just how to weave a stronger relationship with the children in your life. It teaches you how to have better relationships throughout your life. Not only does it teach you how to encourage others, you learn how to create bonds through successful, and positive communication. In all honesty this book taught me how to be a better manager in addition to preparing me to become a parent.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
5.0 out of 5 stars
Great book!
Highly recommend this book, its a great start on getting strategies on how to raise your kids in a way that gives them independance and not fear based. Read more
Published 17 days ago by Raquel
5.0 out of 5 stars
Excellent book
An excellent read suggested to me by a behavioral therapist; it's inspired me to sign up for a 6 wk parenting seminar based on the book. Read more
Published 3 months ago by VSW
5.0 out of 5 stars
Redirecting Children's Behavior
Very happy with this book. It has helped me and opened my eyes on how to deal with my son's behavior. I highly recommend this book.
Published 6 months ago by Elizabeth R. Vamosi
5.0 out of 5 stars
Great parenting book
A great parenting book which uses genuinely modern (and great) parenting ideas. It reinforces some of the parenting ideas I felt intuitively, but also has additional ideas which... Read more
Published 15 months ago by Kim Whalen
5.0 out of 5 stars
GET THIS BOOK
I have worked as an elementary school counselor, an elementary school teacher (currently), and I am a parent. I have read many, many, many parenting books. Read more
Published 16 months ago by Montana Momma
5.0 out of 5 stars
Common Sense Prevails
This book can mean the difference between a healthy child and an unhealthy child ... and a healthy YOU and an unhealthy YOU. Read more
Published on March 8, 2011 by Jan Denise
3.0 out of 5 stars
Disappointed
I ordered this book after reading the positive reviews. When I read it I was disappointed. This book just doesn't contain that many good ideas. It's a lot of common sense. Read more
Published on March 7, 2011 by Katalina
5.0 out of 5 stars
Redirecting Children's Behavior
Out of all the books there are on parenting, this book not only shows the typical and atypical quandaries that come up with your child(ren), It gives options and concrete examples... Read more
Published on April 17, 2010 by G. Cirone
5.0 out of 5 stars
Parenting Book
This book was very informative and helpful when our children were young. I purchased it for our daughter and son-in-law as a gift before their first son was born. Read more
Published on April 3, 2010 by Lindsey H
5.0 out of 5 stars
We need all the help we can get
Things can be turned around for the good of both parents and children. We all say and do things that may hurt love ones. We may not even be aware of it. Read more
Published on August 3, 2009 by Anne Barker
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