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Refuge: A Pathway Out of Domestic Violence and Abuse

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Don Stewart is an expert in dealing with domestic violence. He has seen the effects of violence on women and children, and provides a much needed wake-up call to the Christian community, challenging pastors and churches to become actively involved in providing safety and help for families instead of pretending the problem doesn't exist or looking the other way. For victims of violence, this book gives hope and practical help. It is a "must read" for every pastor, family member, friend, and caregiver of DV victims, as well as for DV survivors.

Det.Sgt.Stewart has done a wonderful job of bringing this subject to light from the perspective of a professional who has been in the trenches. Many books are written by counselors, pastors and others, who have a more cerebral approach to the subject of domestic violence. The author has written a bare bones factual book from someone who has actually been in the homes minutes after the events happened. He brings insight and compassion needed to address the abuse but also offers suggestions that work. If one needed to literally walk through the system, with someone who has seen the outcomes of abuse, he would be the perfect guide.In lieu of having him personally take you to each person you would need to see, this book is the alternative.
I recommend it highly.
R F Cochran- Author- Echoes Of A Silent River

I found this book to be very helpful. I have been in a bad relationship for almost 20 years. This detective has done more to "open my eyes" to the reality of my situation. I can relate to the book so well it is almost scary. Mr. Stewart explained behaviors of the abusive person and I can see everything so clearly now. The only thing I can disagree with him is in the 12 month escape plan. I do believe it is a great thing for those who are able to find a person or family who will let them live with them until they can get on their feet. The downside is that it will be extremely hard to find people who are willing to take on ALL of your physical and monetary needs, especially with children in the home.
SO, 4 stars, this book has done more to make me think cleary than I would have ever dreamed.

55% of all domestic violence is caused by women Not men. This book only seperates and promotes a discrimination against men. Both men and women are abused and should be treated the same. This problem will only start to be solved when all Shelters are open to men and women, not just "the weaker sex." Everyone should care about this problem because, ALL VICTIMS IN UP IN THE EMERGENCY ROOM USUALLY WITHOUT HEALTH INSURANCE - which means YOU PAY more and more FOR THEIR CARE.

I find this to be so one sided that it will cause more problems then it will resolve. The facts are straight from the files of gender feminist. The author was trained in domestic violence by the federal govement...I am sure using funds from the Violence Against Women Act. This was written with the help of gender feminist...sort of like asking the klu klux klan to write laws concerning racial relations?

This author states domestic violence cause more women to go to the Emergeny room then most other reasons combined. Come on..more women go for DOG BITES then for domestic violene. 95% of all victims are women? Come on now..even the Department of Justice disproves this and they state at least 40% are men.

The "rule of thumb" was never used to allow a man to beat his wife

If these facts are so far off base..we can not trust ANY of this
book!!!!

Get the facts by researching this yourself by typing in "abused men" in any major search engine.