Rekindling the Romance: Loving the Love of Your Life [Paperback]

Dennis Rainey (Author), Barbara Rainey (Author), Bob DeMoss (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: January 10, 2006

By God's design, romance is supposed to be the flame in the fireplace of marital intimacy. Yet far too many Christian couples feel cheated because their marriage produces as much spark as a book of wet matches. Others have neglected to fan the flames of passion for so long that they have lost hope of experiencing romance.

Rekindling the Romance, now available in trade paper, is organized into short, biblically-based chapters. Packed with practical insight, this tastefully candid and inviting resource provides the Christian couple with the keys to unlock their relational and sexual intimacy.

Editorial Reviews

About the Author

Dennis Rainey is the executive director and co-founder of FamilyLife and co-hosts the radio program, FamilyLife Today. He is senior editor of the HomeBuilders Couples Series, which has sold more than 1 million copies worldwide, and author of Parenting Today's Adolescent and The Tribute.

Barbara Rainey is the author and designer of Thanksgiving: A Time to Remember. She and Dennis have co-authored several best-selling books, including Starting Your Marriage Right, Moments Together, Parenting Today's Adolescent, and Building Your Mate's Self-Esteem.

Bob DeMoss served as a youth culture specialist for Focus on the Family for seven years and is one of America's leading authorities on pop culture. He has authored ten books, is an internationally acclaimed speaker, and has made appearances on Good Morning America, Geraldo, and MSNBC.

Product Details

• Paperback: 308 pages
• Publisher: Thomas Nelson (January 10, 2006)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0785285563
• ISBN-13: 978-0785285564
• Product Dimensions: 8.9 x 0.9 x 6.1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 11.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (11 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #267,704 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

20 of 20 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars One of the Best! March 25, 2005

By David R. Bess VINE™ VOICE

Format:Hardcover

I was given this book by a friend some time ago, and decided last week to pull it off the shelf. I'm glad I did. Dennis and Barbara Rainey, cofounders of "Family Life" ministry, have a real gift for providing tools that will enhance and invigorate any marriage. Whether newlyweds or long-time partners, the comments made here by the Raineys will offer insights any husband or wife will find helpful.

The first major portion of the book is addressed particularly to wives, written by Barbara. The second major portion of the book is addressed particularly to husbands, written by Dennis. The goal of each section is to help each partner better meet the emotional and physical needs of the other. Reading through the portion addressed to one's spouse will reveal just how on-target the comments are.

I've read several books of this nature, and this title is one of the best available for Christian married couples. I recommend it highly.

26 of 30 people found the following review helpful

3.0 out of 5 stars I've read a lot of books on marriage this year and this one isn't on the top of my list March 11, 2006

By Idaho Country

Format:Hardcover

This book talks a lot about romance and how a wife can be more intentional towards loving her husband. This is fine and good. But, if the romantic aspect of your marriage is flagging due to other problems, then those other problems need to be taken care of before your love life can be worked on. That is what I am experiencing in my marriage. So, that said, this book was not of much help to me personally. I have also read Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas and Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs - both of which were far better books - deep and theological, even psychological - getting to root problems that happen in marriage. If you are having issues with lack of romance in marriage, it's likely that you have underlying issues that need to be addressed first. Once those issues are resolved, the romance issues will likely be resolved as well. If you just want a book to cheer you on to be more romantic, than this is for you. If you want something more deep and personal to help you explore and hopefully discover the real problems in your marraige, then look elsewhere.

9 of 9 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Great book! March 18, 2007

By Kelly McCants VINE™ VOICE

Format:Hardcover

Dennis & Barbara Rainey did a great job with this book! Rekindling the Romance is for husbands AND wives. Light, humorous and easy-to-read, Dennis and Barbara give very practical Christian advice for adding a little playfulness and romance back into your marriage and rediscovering the fun you experienced while dating.

The book is divided into two sections: one written by Barbara for the women, and the other written by Dennis for the men. Each section begins with the same fictional and humorous story of a marriage between "Bryan" and "Angela", but each account is told from Bryan and Angela's different point of views. If you and your spouse are reading the book separately, make sure that you both read each of the stories. You will gain a lot of perspective into your spouse from that alone!

For the women, Barbara discusses the natural and inevitable disappointments in marriage and how they actually strengthen the commitment in your marriage. She spends time discussing the differences in how women and men express romance and how to practically express romance to your husband in ways he will best appreciate it. Barbara gives great work-around ideas for interruptions and distractions (e.g. KIDS!!) that can potentially put the ka-bosh on romance in a household.

For the men, Dennis discusses what women need to feel romanced, which is very different from what men need. He gives lots of useful tips, little things, that would be meaningful to your wife and be construed as romantic. He really does a fabulous job in communicating what women want! He discusses relevant issues that men face today that interfere with a healthy marriage relationship, and encouragement on getting past these "romance robbers".

Scattered throughout both sections you will find "romantic interludes", which are small little ideas you can do for your spouse today without much preparation. At the conclusion of each section are 5 bigger ideas, which do require advanced preparation.

Read the book together, or read each of the sections separately. You will no doubt benefit from the Rainey's advice and ideas. My suggestion is to read this book when your relationship needs a little spark back to it, not when things are going really well. If things are going well and romance is in the air at your household, get this book and put it on the shelf for one of those inevitable rainy seasons. You can't help but benefit from the Rainey's ideas during those times!