9 of 11 people found the following review helpful
on July 3, 2003
Wow. Finally someone has written a relationship book that even a MAN can love. This book is chock full of practical solutions to the most intricate problems in everyone's relationships. I suppose if I had owned this book years ago, I'd still be with my first girlfriend. Luckily, I found it in time to polish up the rough edges on my current relationship, and get some good insight into the demise of all of my previous relationships.
The book covers all the biggies, including money, sex, kids, jealousy, workaholics, in-laws, and even "annoying habits". It's an excellent book for your reference shelf. Can't seem to get past that same old fight? Pop it open to the appropriate chapter and put some of the solutions into action. Better yet, read the whole book and head off the trouble before it starts.
4 of 6 people found the following review helpful
An intimate relationship is an extremely stressful experience that can bring out the worst traits in two otherwise reasonable people. ~Kelly E. Johnson, M.D.
Kelly E. Johnson, M.D. is a nationally recognized psychologist and is also the author of A Relationship for a Lifetime. His goal in writing this book is to provide information that will quickly and effectively solve disagreements and problems. This book covers the topics of sex, money, misunderstandings, household chores, career, time management, friends, leisure, divorce, dating, children, family, infidelity, jealously and even annoying habits.
Through reading this book, you may be able to prevent small fights or as the author says: "virtual life-destroyers."
Are you asking?
Will we stay together?
Why are we fighting?
Are we even right for each other?
Do we want the same things out of life?
Is there a way to put some passion back into our relationship?
When you are in love, the last thing you think you need is a relationship course, but it is probably when it is most needed. The author has a unique "Relationship Pyramid" in which he shows how most of us spend our time in the bottom level, otherwise known as relationship conflict. What we really want is to feel good about ourselves and we probably got married because the person we chose made us feel that we were appreciated and loved.
The author also gives two formulas. One for success and one for failure. A proactive, positive and objective response, like reading this book is going to bring more success than denial or wishing the problems would magically go away.
The author discusses ways you can tolerate and even embrace your partner's differences. Of course it helps if they agree not to yell at you so you can actually like them as a person. After presenting a "stop the fighting" agreement, he delves into the real reasons people don't get along.
If you don't want to be in a relationship in the first place, this book isn't going to make you feel the desire to stay, but it might make the staying seem more comfortable. This book is really about respecting other humans and trying to communicate with them effectively. That may even include compromise and an understanding of human sexuality and human desires.
There are solutions for anger, emotional abuse and sex-drive discrepancies. There are ideas about why people withhold sex and how you can spice up your love life. If you have started to feel like you are "Sleeping with the Enemy" like Julia Roberts, there is also a section dealing with a controlling partner. When they start asking you where you were when you left the house for five minutes to take out the trash, you might have a problem on your hands.
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