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  • Paperback: 177 pages
  • Publisher: New Growth Press; 1st edition (November 1, 2006)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0977080765
  • ISBN-13: 978-0977080762
  • Product Dimensions: 9 x 6.3 x 0.4 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 11.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (67 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #33,385 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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This book is not just another simplistic manual on relationships, offering theoretical methods and procedures for arriving at someone else s idea of a model relationship. Instead, Tim Lane and Paul Tripp have written about Christ crucified the power of God and the wisdom of God for redeeming relationships. Destined to radically transform multitudes of families and friendships, their wisdom is based on the Rock and the Rock is very sound. --U.S. Rep. Bob Inglis (SC-4)

Paul Tripp and Tim Lane bring deep Christ-centered thought and broad counseling experience to their writing, offering fresh hope and practical answers to people in less-than-perfect relationships. Paul and Tim are men who love our Savior, his Word and the Spirit, so it is with the utmost confidence that I always recommend their writing. --Elyse Fitzpatrick, Women Helping Women

About the Author

Tim Lane and Paul Tripp work together at the Christian Counseling & Educational Foundation in Glenside, Pa., where they counsel and teach. They both have M.Div. and D.Min. degrees and lecture at Westminster Theological Seminary in Glenside. Together they wrote How People Change and lead church-based counseling training courses using CCEFs Transformation Series. Both men were pastors before coming to CCEF Tim in Clemson, S.C. and Paul in Scranton, Pa. Tim and his wife Barbara have two sons and two daughters. Paul and his wife Luella have three sons and a daughter. Paul is also the author of Age of Opportunity, War of Words, Instruments in the Redeemer s Hands, and Lost in the Middle.

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This book truly aligns with the word of God.
Angel McDaniel
They say, "It's inevitable. If you live with other sinners, you will have conflict."
This book is a MUST READ and will help each understand others and themselves better.
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43 of 52 people found the following review helpful By C. L. Blakey on May 26, 2007
Format: Paperback
Last week I finished this new book from Resources for Changing Lives-Relationships: A Mess Worth Making. Tim Lane, together with Paul Tripp (author of one of my favorite books, War of Words) tackle the deeper issues involved in relationships in the lives of believers.

Written with a gentle, we're-right-there-with-you tone but also grounded in the authority of Scripture this proved to be a helpful read considering my relationships and the specific ways I need to embrace the power and sufficiency of God's grace to redeem, restore and deepen the quality and purpose of relationships in my own life.

The structure of the book is a little awkward because even though it has two authors they write as one. I was somewhat distracted by this especially when they would tell a personal illustration but not say who's story it was. I was surprised that at the beginning of each chapter they had a lengthy excerpt form a secular song. And I was concerned at the couple of quotes they positively sited from Donald Miller of the Emergent Church movement. The one other hang-up I had was due to the multiple Scripture references quoted from The Message translation.

Overall this was a beneficial read. Perhaps a better book addressing the heart of godly relationships would be Jerry Bridges book The Crisis of Caring: Recovering the Meaning of True Fellowship. However I would still recommend Relationships: A Mess Worth Making and here are some excerpts from my two favorite chapters:

Chapter 5-Agendas

p. 43

The default question we ought to bring to every area of life should be, "What is God's purpose and design? What was his reason for creating this?" When you apply these questions to relationships you begin to see how different his agenda is from your own.
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17 of 19 people found the following review helpful By Michael Leake on May 17, 2009
Format: Paperback
On the top of the back cover it reads, "Hope for messy, conflict-ridden relationships": unless you are prideful, blind, or live in a cave that sentence will appeal to you. Tripp and Lane once again deliver an impressive book. Relationships are messy but through 15 chapters the authors show us that they are indeed a mess worth making. Inside this excellent work you will find advice for conversations, apologies, forgiveness, mercy, how to use your time and money, and much more. But more importantly each chapter is gospel-saturated. This book does not only define the problem it offers the only biblical solution--Christ and Him crucified.

This seems like such a petty thing to say...but...the cover really turns me off to the book. It makes it look like a book for high school students. Either that or something that a grandmother made and she just had to get all of her grandkids on the cover. UPDATE: Thankfully since this review was first published they changed the cover! Great decision.

Inside, one thing concerns me and that is the use of The Message for many Scripture passages. While I find that paraphrase helpful at times, I think a fair amount of people are turned off to it. I sincerely hope that it does not distract from the beautiful message of this book. One other, minor disappointment that I hope gets corrected in the second edition (if there is one), is that the authors refer to the wrong James as the author of the Epistle of James. Easy mistake, but again I hope it does not hurt their credibility. These dislikes are minor and the overall tenor of this book is phenomenal.

If every member of our churches followed the biblical guidelines outlined in this book then our churches would be much healthier places. Once again Tripp and Lane bring us to the foot of the Cross and therein points us to healing in our relationships.
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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful By Sunny Sage on May 18, 2007
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This is one of the best books written on the subject from a distinctly Christian viewpoint but valuable for non-Christians as well.
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful By Dave J. Jenkins VINE VOICE on April 8, 2011
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Relationships A Mess Worth Making is written by Drs. Timothy Lane and Paul David Tripp. Dr. Lane serves as the Executive Director of the Christian counseling and Educational Foundation, a faculty member and is an experienced counselor. Dr. Paul David Tripp is president of Paul Tripp Ministries, a Professor, speaker and author. Relationships a mess worth making shows the importance of messy conflict written relationships and how God uses them in our lives to shape and form them in His image.

The book has fifteen well-written easy to read chapters that are faithful to the Scriptures and proclaim and apply the work of Christ to everyday life. This is a unique book on relationships because it doesn't just quote the Bible as a reference- it seeks to take the reader through the Bible in order to understand what Scriptures say about relationships, and then applies the teaching of Scripture to real-life relationships and situations.

As I read this book, I was personally challenged and convicted about many areas in my own life where I need to grow. While reading this book, I felt like I was sitting in on a counseling session with Drs. Lane and Tripp operating as surgeon and me as the patient. As the book moves from chapter to chapter the reader gains insight into not only why their relationships suffer and struggle but how to fix it. This is not a self-help book- this is a book that brings the Word of God and the whole Gospel to bear on the reader.

Many Christians books on relationships fail because they go overboard in explaining theory or emphasize to much practical application. Relationships A Mess Worth Making strikes a balance between Scripture, application, personal stories and examples that needs to be modeled in the Church Today.
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