182 of 200 people found the following review helpful
on April 25, 2013
This wasn't a book. It was a mantra that is repeated for hundreds of pages. There isn't a single strategy in it to improve or accomplish anything. This was the first Kindle book I ever asked to return and receive a refund. It contains no explanation for how he has helped his clients or how you can help yourself in any form or fashion. The 13 traits shared aren't explained or given any sort of methodology. Rather then are all a form of circular reasoning, hence why the book reads like a mantra.
You're a cleaner. This is why you demand the last shot. Why do you demand the last shot? Because you are a cleaner. Why would you pass up the last shot, because you are a cleaner who has belittled or punched a teammate and they didn't sue you so they have earned the title of closer as bestowed by you with your cleaner mentality. Thus you can defer to a closer because you are a cleaner and give them the honor of the last shot.
If none of that makes any sense then you see the problem with the book as that is a summary of how the entire book reads. Cleaners are born, not made and he knows cleaners because he was born a cleaner. If you have to read his book, by definition you would never be a cleaner because a cleaner would be too busy being a cleaner to need affirmation and help to become a cleaner. He trains cleaners because they recognize each other as cleaners and he is a great trainer of cleaners because other trainers aren't cleaners.
Again if you find this hard to read, then you understand the problem with the book.
58 of 61 people found the following review helpful
on May 17, 2013
I am fairly sure that many who are drawn to this book are looking for anecdotes involving Jordan, Kobe and Wade. None here. At least nothing of interest, and the author himself says so by claiming that whatever happens between the client and him stays with them. Professional, but the advertising is very misleading.
With that out of the way, it's yet another one of those motivational books, except it doesn't seek to motivate you but goes on about how he (and Jordan, Kobe, and Wade) is naturally motivated. So are you, it goes on to say, as long as you keep in touch with your true self and not worry about how you are perceived. Then it keeps up this point by arbitrarily dividing people in to three categories: coolers, closers, and cleaners.
If you were looking for some sort of a motivational book, I'd probably give it 3 stars. If you were looking at some 'behind the scenes' stories of what makes great athletes great, including moments of their not-so-visible lives, you really have come to the wrong place and should move on.
34 of 36 people found the following review helpful
on June 10, 2013
This book never finds its stride. I never did figure out whether it was a biography of Michael Jordan (whom the author seems to have a "man crush" on), a bio of Kobe Bryant or his own autobiographical experiences as a PE coach, or a sports psychology motivation book. There are some nuggets of wisdom interspersed, but then Grover keeps lapsing into his mantra that it's alright for Michael Jordan to be a complete pr*** because he dribbles a basketball better than other people. His term "cleaner" for a "relentless" person never resonates. It doesn't reach the iconic lexicon the author seems to be hoping for. It seems like he's watched "Pulp Fiction" one too many times and is completely enamored with Harvey Kytel's character. "Cleaner" just kept reminding me of what Michael Jordan, Kobe et al would work as in the local high school if they couldn't play basketball, since Jordan's only other talent seems to be losing money at casino gambling tables. His pseudo tough-guy vernacular is also contrived and distracting. Trying to come across as some no-nonsense bad a**, using a liberal sprinkling of "f***," "motherf*r," "a-h**," etc., just makes him sounds weak -- kind of like the gym rats who take a "boot camp" fitness class and suddenly think they know what it's like to be in the Marine Corps. Not very professional. But then again, maybe that's how they're teaching PE teachers to talk these days.
The author also talks about the people who know how to get the job done -- the ones who work late at night closing up restaurants, or other bottom-of-the-rung jobs, and work their way up in life, paying their dues, learning life's lessons and going on to be superstars. Fair enough, good lessons to be learned going that route. Yet none of his prima donna heroes did any of that. They got into colleges for free that they didn't have the grades for, got mediocre grades at best while there, and were multi millionaires by the time they were in their early 20s without ever having had a job. Seriously, how hard of a life can that be? But then again, I come from a different background. As a career military officer I've served in six wars over a 30 yr. period. I've seen and served with truly relentless men. Men who keep attacking with bullets in their body, no food in their stomachs, no sleep for days, and still get the job done -- for nothing more than duty, honor, country and a 40-cent ribbon they put on their chest. They are not pampered athletes with 7-figure bank accounts who whine about two-a-day practices. (The horror!) Nor are they complete pr**s to all around them. Now THAT, is Relentless.
29 of 31 people found the following review helpful
on May 11, 2013
Has some good stories about elite level athletes, but offers zero practical advice on how to raise your level of performance. Not worth the time or money - I stopped reading half way through. Worst book I have read in a long time.
55 of 63 people found the following review helpful
on April 30, 2013
Obviously Mr. Grover should be applauded for his personal success however, his ability to communicate his message to an anxious audience is woefully inadequate. It appears you have to hire Mr. Grover personally to obtain the benefits of his experience because any usable information is glaringly missing from this effort.Further, it appears that Mr. Grover is a firm supporter of excess, which may explain some of the less enviable personal traits of his main characters, M. Jordan, K. Bryant and D. Wade. As a Marine, D-1 athlete, coach, father and grandfather, I'll be looking elsewhere to provide advice to those who seek it.
8 of 8 people found the following review helpful
on May 12, 2013
I'm sure the author is a great personal trainer... But he gives zero insight, other than the common platitude: "work harder."
8 of 9 people found the following review helpful
on April 15, 2014
It is very interesting to read the reviews on this book from being very positive to very negative. I certainly understand why some people did not see value in the book. There is nothing really personal about this book. It felt to me like the author had his hands tied in terms of sharing his experiences in detail. There is not any "how to" information or real strategies. When one reviewer says this is not a book, but a mantra... I get his point of view. That being said, I believe the book can really make you think about your life and how you want to show up. When I put the book down, the question I asked myself was, "Do I want to be the very best at what I do?" Not my best, the very best!! I think this is an awesome question that can change your life if you want. From my perspective this book did give me more insight into the mindset of people like Michael Jordan and Kobe Bryant. Like them or hate them, they are fierce competitors and the book has inspired me to find "another gear" and take what I do to a whole new level. I did draw motivation from the book that will stay with me. I believe people who are succeeding in life and want to go even further will relate to a lot of what is said in the book. It will give them deeper insights into things they already think about. And one of the main points in the book is... WE ALREADY KNOW WHAT TO DO!! What just need to be reminded on a daily basis - DO THE WORK!! In order to succeed in life you must stop questioning your abilities and start trusting your instincts and intuition more and more. Stop waiting for someone to tell you what to do and start taking the action you need to take. If you think hard enough, this book will open some new doors for you.
12 of 15 people found the following review helpful
on May 19, 2013
This book would have been so much better without the 4 letter words. Would have liked my son to read it but we don't think people need to use gutter language to get their point across, so he won't read it. Shame, the title and supposed goal was loft. Sadly, the result was a turn off.
3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
on June 20, 2014
I'm 30% into the book and it's really connecting with me. I'm a lifelong competitor that can "turn it off" to be a really nice guy, and this book makes me feel a lot more OK with being that competitive guy. The author hits the competitive framework with polished experience, recalling time spent with Kobe Bryant and Michael Jordan and others. He's really talking about the "Cleaner's Framework". A Cleaner is the ultimate competitor in his eyes, a step beyond the Closer. A framework is how they work.
Sometimes I'd question my competitive feelings as civil life often reinforces "be nice" over "be a relentless competitor". I feel more at ease knowing there are other competitors out there that feel the same as me.
People who don't "get it" won't "get it". This book isn't for everyone. Nature vs. Nurture aside, I don't know if you can teach/parent/coach someone into being a Cleaner if they're not passionately competitive. However, I bet it'd be useful for parents trying to understand/connect with their kids if they are competitive and the parent is not.
3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
on August 28, 2014
If you want to perform at the world class level, this is a great book! Tim Grover's work with elite athletes focuses on the laser like focus required to acheive and maintain that status. If you are looking for balance this is not your guy, but if you want to be the best at whatever you choose to do, this book obliterates all of the feel good things those around you will tell you in order to be allowed to hang around, or to protect their own interests. Great read, and I had to fight to keep the book while I was reading it once my kids thumbed through it! I think that our society takes themselves and others opinions way to seriously, and what they are doing not nearly serious enough. If you get paid to do something, you should be the best that you can be; but I also believe it is important to compartmentalize and give all that you have to everything that you do. Be a great Attorney, but be a great dad when you get home. And never mix the two. Your client doesn't need a good dad, and hopefully your kids don't need a good attorney!