Repairing Your Marriage After His Affair: A Woman's Guide to Hope and Healing [Paperback]

Marcella Bakur Weiner (Author), Armand DiMele (Author)

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Publication Date: September 9, 1998

A Step-by-Step Guide to Healing Your Heart and Rebuilding Your Marriage
Discovering that your husband has been unfaithful can be emotionally devastating, leaving you reeling in pain and confusion. But take heart—this survival guide for women offers compassionate and practical solutions for coping with the aftermath of an affair. Drawing on their years of experience as professional therapists, authors Marcella Bakur Weiner and Armand DiMele explain how to heal the marriage bond and restore trust between partners. Written with empathy and understanding, this book addresses such vital topics as:
·Coming to terms with the sense of loss and betrayal
·Coping with feelings of suspicion and the specter of "the other woman"
·Dealing with the children during and after the affair
·Understanding character traits of men who have affairs—and how different women's personalities interact with them
·Finding the best sources of emotional support
Also included are helpful exercises for self-healing and redeveloping mutual trust as a couple. Repairing Your Marriage After His Affair will guide you through the turmoil of infidelity and aid you in mending and strengthening your marriage vows.

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A Step-by-Step Guide to Healing Your Heart and Rebuilding Your Marriage
Discovering that your husband has been unfaithful can be emotionally devastating, leaving you reeling in pain and confusion. But take heart?this survival guide for women offers compassionate and practical solutions for coping with the aftermath of an affair. Drawing on their years of experience as professional therapists, authors Marcella Bakur Weiner and Armand DiMele explain how to heal the marriage bond and restore trust between partners. Written with empathy and understanding, this book addresses such vital topics as:
·Coming to terms with the sense of loss and betrayal
·Coping with feelings of suspicion and the specter of "the other woman"
·Dealing with the children during and after the affair
·Understanding character traits of men who have affairs?and how different women's personalities interact with them
·Finding the best sources of emotional support
Also included are helpful exercises for self-healing and redeveloping mutual trust as a couple. Repairing Your Marriage After His Affair will guide you through the turmoil of infidelity and aid you in mending and strengthening your marriage vows.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 192 pages
• Publisher: Three Rivers Press; 1st edition (September 9, 1998)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0761509631
• ISBN-13: 978-0761509639
• Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.4 x 8.5 inches
• Shipping Weight: 8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (4 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #748,035 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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146 of 153 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars Advice guidebook, July 4, 2000

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This review is from: Repairing Your Marriage After His Affair: A Woman's Guide to Hope and Healing (Paperback)

An easy read. The advice is well intended and good. However, I didn't like the overall feel of this book no matter how many times I picked it up. I saw its value, but it continually rubbed me the wrong way.

In my situation, the truth about the affair came out slowly, horribly, over months and months. It included not only betrayal by my spouse, cold-hearted arrogance by the other adulterer, but the discovery of aiders and abettors who were 'supposed' long-term friends of the family. It was so hellish, that when I finally came out of fight or flight mode, settled enough to begin reading recovery books such as 'Repairing Your Marriage', the worst was over. What happened already happened.

This book has a lot of 'you must do this', and 'you must never do that' (while in the throes of it). I couldn't relate to the idea of a 'proper' way to conduct your self after being violently flayed open. Every situation is so very different. There is no real blanket advice. I just couldn't plug the rawness of what happened in my life into the 'clinical experiences', which this book is based upon, and end it all with meditations and visualizations. Couldn't get my teeth into it, even though I appreciated the work that went into creating this book.

22 of 23 people found the following review helpful:

2.0 out of 5 stars Unhelpful advice, December 3, 2005

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Faith (Phoenix, AZ) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Repairing Your Marriage After His Affair: A Woman's Guide to Hope and Healing (Paperback)

I did not find this book helpful at all. In fact, I felt it made me more guarded and confused as to the "proper" way to conduct myself. I was afraid to speak. From "timeouts" to the meditations and visualizations to heal yourself, it left me cold. To read that you need to see it from his side and the anger he must feel makes you furious. His anger and pain is nothing compared to the person that has been betrayed.

12 of 13 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars practical book about affairs, July 31, 2005

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This review is from: Repairing Your Marriage After His Affair: A Woman's Guide to Hope and Healing (Paperback)

I found this book very helpful to me and my husband. It basically saved my marriage. There were many good points that the authors covered. They offer specific guidelines for talking to your spouse. I practiced what they suggested around "timeouts" when having a serious heated discussion and it has helped. I found the information on traits of men that are prone to having affairs fascinating. My husband was open to reading the book together and he learned things about himself as well. I also found it helpful to learn about distinguishing thoughts from feelings and how to sooth myself during very rough times. This book helped me deal with my anger, why the affair took place, and what to do to develop trust between us. I recommend it highly.