Rocking the Roles: Building a Win-Win Marriage [Paperback]

Robert Lewis (Author), William D Hendricks (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: January 1, 1999

Rocking the Roles explains how marriage can be a perfect blend of structure and equality, balance and beauty.

Transform your relationship by learning about:

• common misunderstandings about marriage
• core roles that don’t limit choices
• what spouses most need to understand about each other
• what submission and authority is and is not
• sexuality

Build a marriage on a firm foundation of Scripture, forgiveness, and a healthy understand of who we are in Christ.

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From the Back Cover

THE TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE NEVER WAS THE BIBLICAL MARRIAGE. Ozzie and Harriet are gone. And with them, the idea that the traditional marriage is the only right way. Yet, today’s couples are also discovering that the “roleness” marriage in which everything is equal, with no distinction between male and female, isn’t all that satisfying either. Rocking the Roles examines what the Bible really has to say about the male and female roles. A far cry from the restrictions of the traditional marriage or the formlessness of modern marriage, this approach offers a perfect blend of structure and equality, balance and beauty. It explores: 1) Common myths and misunderstanding about marriage roles 2) ‘Core’ roles that don’t limit choices but help prioritize commitments, energy, and time 3) What husbands and wives most need to understand about each other 4) What the “S” word-submission-is and is not 5) Spiritual leadership as practical responsibility, not privileged rank 6) How to transform your marriage by applying these practical, biblical principles to day-to-day life. So if you want a marriage in which fairness, respect, and support operate equally between you and your partner, it’s time for Rocking the Roles-and for discovering God’s radical, inspired, and timeless design for lasting marriage.

About the Author

ROBERT LEWIS is the teaching pastor of Fellowship Bible Church in Little Rock Arkansas. He has an M.Div. and a master's degree in New Testament Greek from Western Conservative Baptist Theological Seminary a Doctor of Ministry degree from Talbot Theological Seminary and has done graduate work in marriage and family counseling. Robert has written three books on marriage and has been a featured speaker at national and international conferences for Campus Crusade's Family Ministry for seven years. He is married and has four children.

Bill Hendricks is President of The Giftedness Center a Dallas-based consulting firm specializing in organizational effectiveness and individual career guidance. Bill is the author or coauthor of seventeen books including Your Work Matters to God Rockin’ the Roles The Word in Life Study Bible The Power of Uniqueness and The Light That Never Dies: A Story of Hope In the Shadows of Grief. His writings have appeared in The Wall Street Journal The Dallas Morning News Christianity Today and numerous other publications. He holds an undergraduate degree in English from Harvard University a master of science in mass communications from Boston University and a master of arts in biblical studies from Dallas Theological Seminary. He is a Board member for Pine Cove Inc. serves on the Steering Committee for an international consortium called the Theology of Work Project and is an active member of Park Cities Presbyterian Church. More important than all of these pursuits however are the three amazing daughters Brittany Kristin and Amy whom the Lord gave to Bill by his late wife Nancy.

Product Details

• Paperback: 272 pages
• Publisher: NavPress; Rev Upd edition (January 1, 1999)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1576831256
• ISBN-13: 978-1576831250
• Product Dimensions: 8.4 x 5.4 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 10.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (23 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #71,720 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Robert Lewis is the best-selling author of Raising a Modern-Day Knight and Rocking the Roles: Building a Win-Win Marriage. He is also executive director of the Global Reach research/resource organization, founder of the Men's Fraternity ministry, and pastor-at-large for Fellowship Bible Church in Little Rock, Arkansas. In 2001, he was named Pastor of the Year by the National Coalition of Men's Ministry. He and his wife, Sherard, have four children. Jeremy Howard holds a Ph.D. in Christian Apologetics and Worldview Studies from Southern Baptist Theological Seminary. Now a writer and editor, he lives with his wife and children in Nashville, Tennessee.

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23 of 24 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Very Practical..., March 26, 1997

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This review is from: Rocking the Roles: Building a Win-Win Marriage (Paperback)

The best of the "Christian Marriage" genre. I've read several books on marriage and this is probably the most practical. It tackles the tough questions like: Is it important to have a stay-at-home parent? What does it mean for a husband to be a servant leader? And, what does the Bible mean when it instructs women to be submissive to their husbands? My wife and I would strongly recommend this book to anyone who's interested in a Biblical perspective of modern marriage

12 of 12 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Ancient wisdom for 21st century minds, April 15, 2003

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This review is from: Rocking the Roles: Building a Win-Win Marriage (Paperback)

Of all the books my Finacee and I have read to prepare for marriage, this is by far our favorite! The authors challenge the myth of the roleless marriage and establish that God has given the husband and wife unique roles. The husband is a Servant-Leader, and the wife is a Helper-Lover. In doing so they fearlessly take on the "S-word", what submission really means. It's not her role (as if God created a woman to be a mere doormat!), but merely a response to her husbands Servant-Leadership as she embraces her own role as a Helper-Lover.

The authors provide a picture of the culture for which Paul was writing, and show that it is suprisingly cosmopolitan like our own.

Where others try to twist controversial portions of the scriptures to fit modern ideas, these authors uncover the ancient wisdom of God and bring it to life in the 21st century.

19 of 21 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars feminist convinced, July 17, 2001

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Moonwaxing "mom" (Atlanta Burb, GA United States) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Rocking the Roles: Building a Win-Win Marriage (Paperback)

My first marriage was a roleless marriage--one of "equality." That didn't work. The models provided to me have been traditional marriages and roleless marriages. I haven't liked what I've seen. Then I heard about the Biblical marriage and that it wasn't the traditional marriage. My boyfriend, now fiance, treats me so well and said that this was the Biblical experience. I didn't believe until I attended the Family Life marriage conference .... It was there that I learned of this book. It's convincing with sound, Biblical reasons. It explains how the S word works for both partners to be empowered and feel loved. I no longer consider submission to be allowing dominance but rather following the leader of our family. As my friend said, God asks us to do roles that are harder. I'm up for the challenge!