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Romancing The Web: A Therapist's Guide To The Finer Points Of Online Dating

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I disagree with the review below, the book may have been a little repetive but I could understand what the author was saying. However, with the other books I have tried to use I ended up so confused and frustrated that I just gave up. This book really helped me get the right image of myself onto the internet and gave me helpful tips about choosing a mate that I would never have thought of myself.
I live in a very small town in Iowa and all the men in my town are married or not an option. Dating was out of the question with my two young children so the internet was my only option. Romancing the Web really helped me to feel comfortable with the internet and online dating sites. I am currently in a relationship and I have found that in my past relationships I had moved too fast, Berry's suggestion to only e-mail for a month helped me to really get to know Dave and now we have started talking on the phone.
I highly recommend this book for anyone who has been frustrated by the internet or needs a little relationship nudge, it really helped me.

I am a therapist and work with a significant number of single persons seeking meaningful relationships. I stumbled on Romancing the Web in a local bookstore and was impressed by the information presented and the easy-to-follow approach. Ms. Berry's guidelines are thoughtful and appropriate and very helpful in establishing a healthy partnership. I have taken to recommending this book for all of my online dating clients!

I am a 54 year old man who went through a divorce five years ago. I tried the bar scene looking for a new mate and was very frustrated and intimidated.It was hard to meet someone I would be both interested in and compatible with. I thought about internet dating but that, too, seemed intimidating. I discovered Romancing the Web and have found the book extremely helpful. I have been able to follow the author's instructions about how to write a profile and how to proceed to meet women over the internet. Without a resource like this, I think I would not have tried internet dating and most certainly wouldn't have known how to safely go about it. Thanks for a very informative and helpful, easy to read book. The personal stories included gave me encouragement to continue my search and I am happy to report I am four months into a new relationship with a wonderful woman I met over the internet.

I think "A Good Speller" should read this book again. He is clearly confused. I found the author clear and consistent, both in her advice about photos and with regard to addressing appropriate safety concerns. She gave great information about writing and evaluating profiles and also was very helpful in teaching daters how to state things in the most positive manner. This is not lying as "Speller" states, but marketing as Ms. Berry explains. I also found the exapmles given in the text and summaries helpful as they enabled me to hear the messages in several different ways. I found Romancing the Web easier to read and more helpful than the other online dating resources on the market that I have seen.

This book is excellent, especially for folks just getting back into dating again and who want to do it differently. She has sage advice, and really has you thinking about whether you are ready to actually do online dating.
She covers all topics with great examples. I'm on my second read and using it to reframe what I do want and how I want to get there. Highly recommend.

As a therapist, Diane Berry has had a lot of experience with people who were fearful and timid when it came to online dating. Her guidance is pitched for those who feel a strong need for caution. One chapter holds the reader's hand while preparing an online profile and another deals with whether to use a photograph. Other books provide guidance in these areas with an eye to practicality and adventure rather than the concern for fearfulness and timidity found in this book. In my opinion, the caution becomes extreme when she tells the reader to engage in e-mail for a month and then telephone conversation for a month before agreeing to meet face-to-face. When the meeting does occur, she says to limit contact to no more than once a week for several months.

Women will probably get the most out of the tips for safety and the red flags to look for in online contacts. There certainly is value in learning the importance of safety with online contacts. But, honestly, it goes a bit far when Berry advises women to have a friend call them on a cell phone fifteen minutes into the first meeting to make sure that everything is alright. And I wholeheartedly disagree with her etiquette rule that breakups should be done in person if you met the person face-to-face, or by telephone if you talked to them on the telephone.

I don't want to be unfair to Berry; however, I think most people would become impatient with her over-cautiousness. At least, I did. If you are feeling the need for caution, then Romancing the Web is meant for you.

Gordon Scott Edwards, author of Internet Safari, Finding Love Online At 65

If you are tired of looking for Love in all the wrong places, perhaps a different strategy might work. Believe it or not, companionship, fulfillment and yes, even Love, can often be found in cyberspace. "Romancing the Web" will help you to point your computer mouse in the right direction and give you invaluable tips along the way. - Larry James, CelebrateLove.com, author of "How to Really Love the One You're With"

I'm in my 30's and recently went through a divorce. My friends kept suggesting on-line dating which didn't seem to appeal to me. I was just to nervous and uneducated with the whole thing to give it a try. One of my friends gave me a list of books to read to help me get started and one of them was Romancing The Web. Reading it helped with the nerves and I was on my way. Once I got comfortable navigating on-line I became nervous as to what would happen if I finally found someone! Resources like Romancing The Web helped me with not only the online issues(chapter 6,"The Rules"), but also with the what happens next(chapter 7, "taking it slowly"). It's an easy to read book with lots of helpful tips!

This book is very useful for those who are unsure about online dating and the value that it brings. For me, I recongnize and embrace the online dating so, it was not a perfect fit for me.

At first I was apprehensive about on-line dating, but with the right tools like Romancing The Web, you can have great results. Great book! Practical info - easy to use. I'm in a relationship for the first time since my marriage ended and it's going great! Slowly - as Diane recommends - but great! Thanks!