Romantic Jealousy: Causes, Symptoms, Cures [Paperback]

Ayala Malach Pines (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: June 23, 1998 | ISBN-10: 0415920108 | ISBN-13: 978-0415920100 | Edition: 1

Romantic Jealousy provides us with a compelling account of the psychology of jealousy. Based on twelve years of research on the theme of jealousy in romantic relationships, Dr. Pines offers real-life vignettes and astute practical advice aimed at helping readers assess their own jealousy quotient as well as offering ways to control their own jealous urges. She asks the most central of questions: What causes jealousy? Are women more prone to jealousy than men? What is the difference between normal and abnormal jealousy? How can you tell if you are a jealous person? To answer these questions, Dr. Pines examines five basic psychological approaches to understanding and treating jealousy - covering such issues as whether jealousy is innate, the result of unresolved childhood traumas, the result of the dynamics within a specific relationship as well as other psychological explanations. This book is essential reading for anyone seeking a better understanding of the dynamics of jealousy - its causes, danger signs, and symptoms - and the most effective strategies available for keeping jealousy controlled. This book was originally published by St. Martin's Press in a hardback edition. This paperback edition has 40 per cent new material.

Editorial Reviews

Review

"Pines has provided us with a provocative and illuminating look at jealousy; her insights should prove extremely useful to couples grappling with one of the oldest and most difficult of interpersonal issues. An important book.." -- Elliot Aronson, Department of Psychology, University of California at Santa Cruz

"The definitive book on the psychology of jealousy. Compelling real-life vignettes and astute practical advice make this required reading for all lovers and for counselors who work with jealous couples.." -- Dale Larson, Department of Psychology, Santa Clara University

"This book is a compelling account of the psychology of jealousy. Ayala Pines...journeys into the deep recesses of the human mind and heart, exposing the dynamics of jealousy and offers the most effective ways to keep those jealous impulses under control." -- Caribbean Wedding Guide - Fall/Winter, 1998

Language Notes

Text: English (translation)
Original Language: Hebrew

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Product Details

• Paperback: 320 pages
• Publisher: Routledge; 1 edition (June 23, 1998)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0415920108
• ISBN-13: 978-0415920100
• Product Dimensions: 8.9 x 6 x 0.9 inches
• Shipping Weight: 15.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (11 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #244,078 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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46 of 46 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars And eye-opening and extremely helpful book, June 24, 2004

By A Customer

This review is from: Romantic Jealousy: Causes, Symptoms, Cures (Paperback)

I am an extremely jealous (delusionally/abnormally jealous) person, and it is something I really wanted to change about myself. I believe that psychological, cultural, psychoanalytic, and situational factors all contribute to one's jealousy or lack thereof, and the prospect of ridding myself of it seemed both desirable and daunting. But reading this book has given me the confidence that I can, if not completely overcome my jealousy, at least channel my feelings correctly, understand the roots of the jealousy, and react with a more appropriate response.

This book has done an excellent job of both getting out on paper some of the thoughts I've been trying to convey both to myself and to my boyfriend, as well as providing me with some new ways to understand my jealous feelings and tactics for conquering them.

Some reviewers have said that the book offers no "cure" for jealousy. Of course it doesn't--I don't think any book on jealousy, or any other issue, for that matter, has the power to cure. Rather, it has to come from within, with the book to guide you.

I am certainly not "cured" of my jealousy--changes like that don't happen overnight from reading one book. But this book has given me the much-needed jumpstart to begin conquering it.

48 of 49 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Wonderful!, June 12, 1999

By A Customer

This review is from: Romantic Jealousy: Causes, Symptoms, Cures (Paperback)

This book has saved the most important relationship of my life! I have already changed my life for the better and I just finished this book two weeks ago. My boyfriend of three years noticed the change immediately and is thrilled with the "new" me. Before this book, I thought my jealousy was caused by my cheating ex-husband. It opened my eyes to a much deeper beginning in my childhood with a parent who cheated and the feelings of insecurity that came from that. If you have uncontrollable fears of jealousy, you must read this book.

27 of 28 people found the following review helpful:

2.0 out of 5 stars Romantic Jealousy, July 9, 2000

By A Customer

This review is from: Romantic Jealousy: Causes, Symptoms, Cures (Paperback)

this book was very informative...but I don't feel that it gave me what I was looking for. I was hoping to get more on how to turn jealousy around. On a positive note, it does give different situations and the aspect of the nonjealous partner - so in that respect, it was an eye opener. But I felt it didn't give enough information on how to cope and rise above jealousy.