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SM 101: A Realistic Introduction [Kindle Edition]

Jay Wiseman
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Book Description

100,000 COPIES IN PRINT! The long-taboo subject of consensual BDSM (bondage/discipline,dominance/submission, sadomasochism) is coming "out of the closet" - much to the delight of the millions of adults who enjoy engaging in bondage, spanking, erotic role-playing and similar consensual practices. With chapters on everything from partner-seeking to afterplay, including step-by-step guides to bondage, spanking, flagellation, roleplay, erotic torment and much more, Jay Wiseman's SM 101 has taught the fundamentals of safe, exciting SM to tens of thousands of people of all genders and orientations! "If you want to read SM nonfiction that has a pulse and passion, that inspires as much as it instructs, SM 101 is the book for you." - Joseph Bean, Drummer

Editorial Reviews


It goes by many names: bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadomasochism, and more. In Jay Wiseman's SM 101, the long-taboo subject of consentual sadomasochism is accurately, insightful presented in the context of adult human sexuality, experience and tradition for the interested non-specialist general reader. SM 101 surveys the entire spectrum of consentual sadomasochistic practices from from bondage, to spanking, to erotic role-playing, and more. Now in an expanded second edition, SM 101 includes a new chapter on starting and running sadomaschistic organizations and events for consenting adults. Greenery Press has an extensive title list in the area of human sexuality and maintains a site on the World Wide Web (see the above URL) with a complete roster of their publications in various aspects of human sexuality and practices. -- Midwest Book Review

Product Details

  • File Size: 1671 KB
  • Print Length: 404 pages
  • Publisher: Greenery Press; 2nd edition (December 1, 1998)
  • Sold by: Amazon Digital Services, Inc.
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B0029XXT7W
  • Text-to-Speech: Enabled
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  • Word Wise: Enabled
  • Lending: Not Enabled
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #37,510 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
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238 of 241 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars Enter the real world of SM play December 30, 2000
BDSM, by nature, is shrouded in a world of fantasy. This is fantastic if you are sitting down for a good erotic "read", however, it is more problematic if you are contemplating trying to act out your SM fantasies. Fortunately, readers now have access to a non-titillating , realistic guide to SM play. Jay Wiseman is an experienced SM player and a popular lecturer/speaker at many BDSM events and his book, SM 101, has condensed down his years of scene experience into a very readable guide to SM play.
It is somewhat of a `technical manual' that explains SM terminology, the mechanics of `erotic pain' as well as how to use clamps, bondage, flagellation, erotic torture and humiliation. The second part of the manual introduces the reader to SM organizations, SM relationships and how to construct specialized types of scenes. This book is a definite must have for anyone contemplating exploring the public BDSM scene. The terminology and basic safety rules are "musts" at any responsible event.
Because this is book is written by a scene player, it does move a little quickly over the initial exploratory stages that many couples go through to get into SM - Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns has a somewhat more elaborate introduction into the SM mindset. However, if you have decided that you are going to play and want to know how, there isn't any better book out there to get started with.
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116 of 119 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars This is the book I wish I had read when I was a beginner September 14, 2001
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SM 101 contains all the essential information that BDSM beginners desperately need, written in a way that newcomers can understand. Though the introductory chapter says it isn't intended for people who are already members of SM community, I would argue that this is an excellent guide even for people with years of experience. I have been a member of several BDSM organizations over seven years, and I found this book to be thought-provoking and helpful. This book has provided me with information and advice that is more honest (and more accurate, I think) than much of what I have gotten from years of workshops, lectures, and demonstrations.
I think the primary advantage of this book over others on the subject is its depth. Its introduction to the basics of BDSM is particularly thorough. Personal anecdotes, both amusing and poignant, give real-life insight into what it's like to play with BDSM. It has a strong emphasis on safety without being pushy or patronizing. Most books just recite arbitrary rules. SM 101 gives information, suggestions, and advice designed to help readers make their own decisions about the risks they want to take.
One of my favorite parts of this book is a collection of off-handed remarks overheard at BDSM events. These quotes, scattered in margins of the pages, range from clever to hilarious to profound. Another nice touch is advice on finding partners, and a step-by-step guide to negotiating SM play. There are even negotiation forms that can be copied and used to make sure that all the points are covered. I strongly recommend the safety precautions this book suggests for playing with someone new.
All in all, SM 101 is a book I would highly recommend to anyone who is seriously considering exploring safe, sane and consensual BDSM.
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127 of 134 people found the following review helpful
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"SM101, A Realistic Introduction, Second Edition" by Jay Wiseman is what I consider to be the best book for newcomers to BDSM and those who want additional information about things they haven't yet tried or understanding terms and techniques that they may not be familiar with.
Jay writes in an easy style; the book is written in plain language and is completely understandable... infinitely "readable". He defines most all the current usage terminology, discusses the basics of SM play and Dominance and Submission better than anyone else in my opinion. It is a "How To" and a "How Not to Do" with explanations about every phase of BDSM play.
The best reason to buy this book, however, is to really understand what safety is all about. Also the book contains lots of resources for further information about the lifestyle as well as a wonderful "negotiation" form for new and experienced partners so that their sessions will be mutually safe and pleasurable. He stresses something that I know is true from my many years in the lifestyle and that is that open communication between consensual partners is of the utmost importance.
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54 of 56 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars A must-read for even the curious-only February 23, 2000
As a newcomer to the bdsm "scene" I am looking for good information on more than just techniques. I am also trying to handle fear, anxiety, and other issues I can only guess at right now. For this, Jay's book is among the best I've read. Not only does he explain the "how" of bdsm, but the who, what, and why people get into this. To read about his own journey over many years has helped me relax and take my own next steps. I believe that anyone who is struggling with "coming out" with their "alternative" sexual expression should read this book right away. It will give you a map of the territory, which is not as scary as our culture leads us to believe, and lead you into what is hopefully a personal transformation.
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36 of 36 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Informative, encouraging & honest January 21, 2001
I have never read a work on BDSM that was not only easy to read, but easy to "digest". The book is organized in a logical manner, frequently reminding the reader of vitally important points (safety, consensuality, etc.), and is laced with charming quips he apparently overheard through the years. I found it interesting to read about people who are experiencing these feelings and desires, and how they were able to "realize" the part of themselves society has so overtly and incorrectly stigmatized. Wiseman has provided a clear, unassuming intro to SM, and while his credibility is primarily based on two decades of personal experience in the SM scene, it is made "real" and "human" with the inclusion of his own hesitant beginnings. With any luck, SM101 will help to repair the truly evil reputation SM is currently shackled with (pun intended).
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
3.0 out of 5 stars Just started
Just started reading it. Not sure how I feel about it yet, but i am very intrigued by the author
Published 3 days ago by Chelm78
4.0 out of 5 stars I like it. I like the little captions of conversationally ...
I like it. I like the little captions of conversationally expressed ideas. Very progressive now and was absolutely more progressive when it was written.
Published 12 days ago by Christina Amezquita
5.0 out of 5 stars Full of information, easy to follow
Great book, was suggested to me recently by someone who had read the first edition years ago when I was a beginner in a BDSM relationship with him. I had so many questions! Read more
Published 27 days ago by EmmyTryed
5.0 out of 5 stars Five Stars
Best of my seven book purchases on the subject.
Published 1 month ago by Joseph Baronak
4.0 out of 5 stars Interesting
Interesting for anyone looking to explore the lifestyle, if even just for a weekend experiment, or for researching these types of lifestyles.
Published 1 month ago by Shannon Bolin
4.0 out of 5 stars Four Stars
Very good beginners book. Somewhat outdated but the principles are still the same.
Published 3 months ago by chevy 2
5.0 out of 5 stars Five Stars
Published 3 months ago by Mike Whitley
5.0 out of 5 stars Five Stars
loved it
Published 4 months ago by Samantha
5.0 out of 5 stars Five Stars
Excellent! I don't think I could say anything more. Extremely happy about my purchase.
Published 4 months ago by Hope Lloyd
5.0 out of 5 stars Good for Beginners
A very good beginners guide to BDSM.
Published 5 months ago by John James
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