Safety for Stalking Victims: How to save your privacy, your sanity, and your life [Paperback]

Lyn Bates (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: June 26, 2001

Stalking is a serious crime that disproportionately affects and endangers women. The National Institute of Justice says one in every 12 women and one in every 20 men will be stalked in their lifetimes.Some stalkers make phone calls, send messages, or deliver "gifts." Some follow their victims home, vandalize property, make threats, or kill pets. Some stalkers even attempt rape, kidnapping, or murder. And some succeed. Being the target of an obsessed person is a frightening experience. But it isn't necessary to live in fear. Learning how to live safely is the key.Topics include:Who stalks, who is stalked, and whyEvaluating the seriousness of the situationReplacing terror with sensible precautionsRestraining ordersgood or bad?Disappearingwhy, when and howProtecting your childrenSelf-defensewhat works, what doesntSafety on a budgetMaintaining your privacyStrategies that don't workHelpful web sites and organizationsUsing scenarios based on real stalking cases, this book overflows with detailed, practical strategies to put you in control of your situation, and let you break the cycle of terror.Mistakes by the legal system, employers, or even family members can make the situation worse. If you work with stalking victims, or are concerned about one, you need this information, too.

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"...an essential guide for victims of this crime, offering practical and readable must-have information for self-preservation and protection." -- Doreen Orion, M.D., forensic psychiatrist, author

About the Author

Lyn Bates is a founder of the non-profit AWARE, an organization devoted to teaching women to protect themselves from stalking and lethal assault. An award-winning expert on anti-stalking defensive strategies, she has helped thousands of people to avoid potential dangers and, when necessary, protect themselves with defensive weapons from pepper spray to firearms.

Product Details

• Paperback: 236 pages
• Publisher: iUniverse (June 26, 2001)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0595181600
• ISBN-13: 978-0595181605
• Product Dimensions: 9.2 x 6.1 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 12 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (3 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #843,048 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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9 of 12 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Valuable and Meticulous Resource on Stalking, November 27, 2001

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"waguns" (Buffalo, New York USA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Safety for Stalking Victims: How to save your privacy, your sanity, and your life (Paperback)

This book is a well written guide for anyone involved in the trauma of stalking--and not just the kind you see in those lame TV movies. In addition to providing victims with checklists, how-tos and what-not-to-dos, this would also be a good book for anyone who who knows someone in trouble--significant others, co-workers, family and friends. Bates' opinions are backed up with no-nonsense reasoning and this would also be an excellent book for anyone who writes fiction and wants to use a stalking plot. Each chapter builds the "story" of stalking, from recognizing its signs to coming away safe and each is presented in a useful way, highlighting action items the victim can take to stay safe.

1 of 1 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Full of sound advice., September 7, 2011

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LM "bas1a" (Pacific) - See all my reviews

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This review is from: Safety for Stalking Victims: How to save your privacy, your sanity, and your life (Paperback)

This is readable and practical and genuine.

It is for the classic police-acknowledged single-stalker situation mostly. It is less appropriate for exceptional stalking situations where there are a bunch of people involved (group stalking, cause stalking or organised stalking...) It is, however, useful for those too.

Stalking brings stress, even if you are the firm confident sort. The stress can make you forget whole bits of self-protection that you really do know. That's when you need a book like this. It reminds you of those basics and suggests a few new ones.

For cause stalking, a good book is David Lawson's "Cause Stalking" which is pocketbook-sized, brisk, and to the point, with lots of good advice. Furthermore, it has helpful insights into why a group might be doing this to you. The man who wrote it comes from a background both of investigating and getting close to organised stalking groups.

Don't forget the web-based discussion groups, too, which, though they can be riddled with phonies, plants, idiots and pretenders, have some people of astonishing ability who can be a lifeline.

5.0 out of 5 stars Lyn Knows her Subject!, August 21, 2008

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Skip Coryell (Holland, Michigan) - See all my reviews

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This review is from: Safety for Stalking Victims: How to save your privacy, your sanity, and your life (Paperback)

I ran across this book while writing my latest novel. One of my main characters was being stalked by a serial killer and I needed to know how stalkers operate. Lyn's book told me all I needed to know. I highly recommend it.

--Skip Coryell--
Author of "Blood in the Streets: Concealed Carry and the OK Corral"
Blood in the Streets