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Q. What gave you the idea of forming your own widows’ support group?
A. Losing someone close to you has to be one of life’s most universal experiences, but it wasn’t until it happened to me at a relatively young age that I realized our culture doesn’t provide much guidance about how to reinvent yourself afterward. I hoped that by joining with other young widows, we could lighten the task by facing this daunting transition together.
Q. What kinds of things did the group do together?
A. I had joined a traditional support group before, but the goal seemed to be to sit in a circle and talk about how sad we were. And there weren’t even any snacks! So I put together more of a renegade group, looking to the future, and focused on doing, not talking. Although we did wind up talking our heads off, too, we also cooked together, volunteered, invited widowers to meet us. We went through the family home of one of the women when she was packing up to move. We even went lingerie shopping together when some of the women started to look for love again. Ultimately, we took a transforming trip to a place none of us had visited before. Along the way, we shared a few tears, but a lot more laughter.
Q. How did you put the group together? Did their differences create conflict?
A. My process for finding the other women, mostly by asking around, couldn’t have been more random. Then when I introduced everybody the first time, I thought, “Wow, did I make a mistake.” It was a crazy mismatch of personalities. All we had in common was that each woman had suffered through a tragedy that had turned her life upside down. I was afraid that this was going to be one sad story, snacks or no snacks. But instead, it turned into an adventure story, not only the adventures we shared, but the adventures each of us encountered as we navigated our way through incredible changes.
Q. Did the group help you, too?
A. When I started the group, I viewed myself as the journalist who would chronicle our story. I had remarried four years after my husband died, shortly before the group’s first meeting. But my grief was still fresh, and I was coping with all the upheaval of trying to cobble together a new life, with a new career, new husband, new stepdaughter, new home, and new dog. I began to rely on the example of the group, and its good, old-fashioned girlfriend advice, for how to put a new life together and keep it in balance with my memories from the past.
An inspiring book for those looking to move past their grieve and in helping to find the new you.
The story of each woman is really interesting and I think all female readers will find someone to emphathize with in the book.
Saturday Night Widows by Becky Aikman is a great book for anyone who is starting over; or contemplating starting over.
This book is one of the best books I have read in a long time. It was so timely, I wish I had read it 20 years ago when my first husband died. Read morePublished 24 days ago by MarLynn Branson-Tomlin
The author puts together a support group of young widows. She decides to do this after being kicked out of a clinical grief therapy group that in her opinion turned into a... Read morePublished 24 days ago by Karen R
This book received mixed reaction from my book discussion club, but I loved it. The author is a former Newsday reporter and her gift for writing comes through clearly in this book... Read morePublished 1 month ago by Lois A. Lichtenstein
Very touching story - shared it with a relative who recently lost her husband in an accident.Published 1 month ago by Amazon Customer
Awesome book. As I read through it I found myself wanting to be part of the group. Made me smile and made me cry. Read morePublished 2 months ago by Arlene G.
I gave this book to my sister-in-law cannot give stars at this time.Published 2 months ago by Margaret L.
I started a club for widows, a few months after my own husband died, in April. After the club was up and growing, I came across Becky Aikmen's book in June and bought it, but... Read morePublished 3 months ago by Gayle A. Hopper, MD, Los Angeles, CA