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Product Details

  • Paperback: 176 pages
  • Publisher: HJ Kramer/New World Library (January 18, 2005)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1932073124
  • ISBN-13: 978-1932073126
  • Product Dimensions: 8.6 x 5.5 x 0.6 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 4.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (19 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #226,970 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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Psychologist Susan Campbell has worked as a corporate trainer and relationship coach for over 40 years. A former professor at the University of Massachusetts, she is author of nine books on the topic of relationships and human communication. Her most recent work centers on how to use honest, present-centered communication as vehicle for personal healing and expanded self-awareness. This body of work has put her at the forefront of the Honesty Movement in Psychology and is described in her best-selling, Getting Real and her more recent books, Truth in Dating, and Saying What's Real. Her work has been featured in many popular magazines including New Woman, Psychology Today, Self, Harvard Business Review, Seventeen, Men's Health, New Age, Fast Company, and Yoga Journal. To view her recent work on video, go to You Tube and search for drsusan95472. For more information, visit her website www.susancampbell.com

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54 of 59 people found the following review helpful By Paul Sampson on September 6, 2005
Format: Paperback
I came upon this book the hard way. I was raised in a family that rarely showed emotion and never talked about feelings. Although my former girlfriend tried several times to get me to talk about my feelings, I refused to do so and told her that was silly.

After she left me, I tried unsuccessfully to win her back. That's when I realized how terrible my communication skills were. I communicated the only way I knew how, which was usually either by attacking or by being defensive. Yet amazingly, until reading "Saying What's Real," I didn't realize this. I just thought I was logical. After all, I could win any argument with her or anyone else.

This book taught me that healthy communication is not about being right or getting people to do what we want. The author, Susan Campbell, makes the case that most communication comes from the (mostly unconscious) intent to control through manipulation, trying to impress others, lying so as not to hurt another's feelings, etc. She says that, conversely, healthy communication is about, "Creating mutually beneficial solutions... and sharing what we feel and think." In other words, healthy communication is about relating, which Campbell says builds intimacy and connection.

Since I wasn't comfortable with talk about relating and sharing, I initially thought the book's advice wasn't useful to men like me. After all, what man on this planet talks about how something made him feel? However, I kept reading and eventually become convinced Campbell is right. It became obvious that had I been able to really communicate and relate to my former partner, things would have turned out differently. She once commented how we often didn't seem to "get" each other. Now I know why.
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17 of 19 people found the following review helpful By Self-help junkie on March 10, 2005
Format: Paperback
Having read Susan Campbell's 'Getting Real' (which is one of my top self-help books I recommend to clients) I wondered whether this book could be as good or as insightful. In fact, I think it's even better! Although reading 'Getting Real' kind of paves the way to being open to the shorter, more practical advice she gives in this new book.

Her 7 keys for mindful, present communications are excellent and easy to understand - putting them into practice may take more time, but with practice and persistence they could really make any relationship more meaningful and rewarding. I will be recommending this book to couples in conflict especially - there are some very powerful tips here that I believe could really help any troubled partnership.
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19 of 22 people found the following review helpful By Jayne Clary on June 10, 2005
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It sounds cliche, but it is the truth - Susan Campbell saved our marriage. My husband and I have talked with therapists and read lots of books yet we never were able to get past certain difficulties. Using the simple, honest suggestions in this book and in "Getting Real" (also by Susan Campbell), gave us the vocabulary and tools to begin the journey of getting more connected to each other. We have learned that assumptions about the other persons feelings are very often inaccurate while being present and honest about ourselves and being OPEN to the other is almost magical when practiced by two willing partners. This is a practice....it takes time..."Saying What's Real" is a great start. I suggest reading it out loud together (and get "Getting Real" too).

I highly recommend both of these books.
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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful By Martha Stewardess on August 21, 2007
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this book has changed my communication skills with my fiancé emmensly. More importantly- changing my communication w/ myself. Recommended for everyone and anyone to read. The seven keys are really ways of telling yourself how you feel about what's going on when it's happening.
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9 of 12 people found the following review helpful By AZ Written on January 27, 2007
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As the saying goes, it's the simple things that make a difference. In this case, the focus is relationship communication. The seven keys are as follows:

1. Hearing what you say, I feel . . . .

2. I want . . . .

3. I have some feelings to clear . . . .

4. I'm getting triggered about . . . .

5. I appreciate you for . . . .

6. I hear you, and I have a different perspective . . . .

7. I would like to talk about how we're feeling.

You might immediately notice the common theme of using "I" statements to express feelings. These precepts are elementary for good communication, and the author presents them in lucid terms, with engaging, narrative examples. Anyone could benefit from applying these principles, especially those new to the topic of relationship communication.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By P. Schmitt on February 22, 2012
Format: Paperback
Having used the 7 truth skills with friends, family, coworkers, and strangers, success is obvious because of the way these folks now respond to me.
The biggest thing I got from the book was the awareness and assuredness that no matter what I feel, I'm going to be okay. I WISH I had this confidence a few years back when I waisted a few years in a relationship that was only meeting part of my needs. I chose attempts to control and never got what I wanted. With my new-found security I say, "Although I have come to care for you, I see myself with someone who ____________." This information is very liberating!
I've also utilized "Truth in Dating." Excellent!
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