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Product Details

  • Paperback: 240 pages
  • Publisher: TitleTown Publishing; 1st edition (April 2, 2012)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0982000960
  • ISBN-13: 978-0982000960
  • Product Dimensions: 9 x 6.1 x 0.5 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 13.6 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (35 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,261,635 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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". . . an important and vital book. . . His honesty about his transition is one we don't see often and it's very refreshing.  This book . . . will educate the masses on what it means to be transgender and in today's society . . . FOUR STARS!!!"
- Larry King, Talk Show Host

"Ryan Sallans is an incredibly brave young man who has written a powerful book. Second Son will save lives."
- Dan Savage, co-founder, It Gets Better Project

"Ryan Sallans takes his readers on this fantastic, page turning journey about life as a transgender male. . . he offers insight to the personal struggles and triumphs he faces in order to be true to himself . . .a book that will both educate readers and help others. . ."
 
- Dr. Robi Ludwig- Psychotherapist, TV commentator and Author 

". . . a heartbreakingly modern American man's story . . . This is a book for anyone who has ever truly loved or tried to understand another human being. . . This is a brave man's story, bravely told."
-Michael Rowe, Lambda Literary Award and Randy Shilts Nonfiction Award-winning author of Looking For Brothers and Other Men's Sons

". . . When treated academically, gender identity can be a complex and even convoluted topic.  Second Son reminds. . .that living your life as you are meant to can be extremely complicated and yet so very simple." 
Elizabeth Schroeder, EdD, MSW- Sexuality education expert and Executive Director, Answer

From the Inside Flap

Second Son is a story that intimately explores the transition experience of Ryan Sallans, born Kimberly Ann Sallans. The reader is pulled through Ryan's transition from infant to child, child to body-obsessed teenage girl, teenage girl to eating-disordered young woman, female to male, daughter to son, and finally a beloved partner to a cherished fiance'. A unique lens on life and love.

Ryan candidly shares his struggle to find love and acceptance; a struggle that transcends through every layer of society. He nearly died from an extreme case of anorexia as an insecure female college student. The only thing that saved him was his inner spirit begging for a chance to live.

Second Son chronicles Ryan's battle with his family, his romantic partner, and his body. He unblinkingly focuses on the empowerment he achieved as he underwent gender reassignment surgeries and traces his evolution into manhood.


More About the Author

Ryan Sallans, born and raised in rural Nebraska, began his transition from female to male in 2005. He is most known today as a national speaker who shares his journey from female to male-bodied and his struggles with an eating disorder. Ryan received a Master of Arts degree in English and Educational Psychology from the University of Nebraska-Lincoln. Ryan has evolved into a Diversity Trainer, Consultant, and Author.

In his spare time he enjoys building furniture and battling with home repair projects, both small and large, as well as hitting the trails either by foot or on his bike so that he can be out of the city and take in the sights of nature.

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Thank you Ryan for writing this and sharing your story.
Sunshine State
Somewhere I read an excerpt from the book and just had to purchase it.
William Manning
If you know anyone who is considering transitioning, read this book.
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Most Helpful Customer Reviews

3 of 3 people found the following review helpful By estraley on April 18, 2012
Format: Paperback
Ryan's raw narrative gives a view into a life that is as unique as it is powerfully "normal". Through honest accounts of life altering and ordinary events, Ryan shows his humanity with a side of gender nonconformity, discomfort, and the process toward acceptance. Those who are looking for a book to expand their understanding of transgender lives will not be disappointed. They may be pleasantly surprised by the accessibility and ability to relate to such a courageous author and activist. I couldn't put it down, and I predict other readers will have the same experience. Ryan's vulnerability is transformed into strength in the hands of the reader, and I hope that many have the opportunity to experience this book.
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful By Christine on June 8, 2012
Format: Kindle Edition
I was recommended this book from a friend of mine. I can't even begin to describe how helpful it was to a parent of an FTM. Ryan's story was so raw and real. He holds nothing back. Reading his words and exploring his surroundings took us through his journey. What I loved most is his candor and now willingness to help out others and their families with new information. I now have a starting point on how to help my child. I have already been in touch with others for resources, and he opened that door. He is willing to help out anyone who needs help. That is a blessing to this mom!
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By Tyler Richard on April 25, 2012
Format: Paperback
Ryan's book isn't just for transgender people or their friends and family. It is for anyone who has felt just a bit not in sync with the rest of the world. It is for people who want to take what might be seen as bold steps to become whole. It is for people who have had their relationships change over time and needed to adjust in life.

In a moving and compelling story, Ryan shares with others his own story. You walk away inspired to live your own life in a way that is truer to yourself and kinder to those around you.
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By chops4u2 on June 2, 2014
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I have been reading more and more about transgendered children and Ryan told his story well. The book held my attention and I appreciated that there were actual pictures of Ryan.
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Ryan has a very nice writing style that makes you feel like you are a friend he is sharing his experiences with. I am amazed at how open he is, sharing everything. If you or a loved one is considering transitioning I urge you to read as much as you can. Memoirs like this one from Ryan are invaluable for helping those who are non-trans to start to understand what it is like to live in the wrong body and how important it is for them to take the steps necessary to have a body that matches their true self. Without writers, like Ryan, who are willing to put it all out there a lot more people would suffer and non-trans people, like me, wouldn't have a way to "get it". Thanks Ryan for your gift of honesty and hope.
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By Jonah on February 25, 2014
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I think everyone's chronicles about their own lives are subject to what they feel most compelled to share and what they believe is most important to share. Ryan Sallans shares some key aspects of his own transition but sometimes the book seemed to go from a deep-dive into a topic to a glossing over of another. Still, I applaud him for getting a book published. I know many will find it helpful.
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By Tammy Hayes on November 6, 2013
Format: Paperback
Ryan Sallans memoir, Second Son is a compact little book documenting his struggles with his gender identity as well as an eating disorder. In unflinching detail he has shared with us his childhood growing up in rural Nebraska and his struggles trying to fit in and be like the other girls, though it was obvious to most who knew him that he was somehow different. Once he went to college, his struggle to fit in didn’t change much, but while in college the issue was more with his overall body image. What he later discovered was that his eating disorder and problems with body image had a great deal to do with his gender and less to do with the pressure to fit in. He lived many years as a lesbian but when he came to the realization that he was transgender, he was also beginning a relationship with a woman who told him in no uncertain terms that she wasn’t attracted to men. Wanting to make the relationship work, he suppressed his true self as long as he could, but eventually he couldn’t continue to live a lie. He began to transition and slowly but surely, his girlfriend of many years drew further and further away from him.
This book is about more than a bodily transformation. It is also a transformation of spirit and the enduring power of familial love. It’s also about finding and making your own happiness and not letting anything stop you. You have to go after your own destiny and not let the nay sayers or negativity hold you back.
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By Valerie on October 14, 2013
Format: Paperback
Ryan Sallans did a good thing when he opened up his life to us through his book. The journey he takes us on is filled with such emotion and is unflinchingly honest and raw. Bearing his truth to the world like this makes him a hero to me. He's a true beacon for those of us needing to hear that it's ok to be who you really are and to be happy. This is a great book for anyone questioning transitioning or going through transitioning and to parents and loved ones of those transitioning.
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