The Second Wives' Club: Secrets for Becoming Lovers for Life [Paperback]

Lenore Fogelson Millian (Author), Stephen Jerry Millian (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: October 20, 1999

Are you or someone you know a second wife? Are you tired of arguing about your husband's first marriage? THE SECOND WIVES CLUB is the book you've been waiting for. Join the Club and learn the six secrets of successful second marriages. Learn how you can have wedded bliss while avoiding the pitfalls that second marriages bring. Don't be put off by his ex-wife. Help him get rid of his old "baggage" and make space in your relationship to be lovers for life.

Product Details

• Paperback: 176 pages
• Publisher: Atria Books/Beyond Words; Original edition (October 20, 1999)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1582700141
• ISBN-13: 978-1582700144
• Product Dimensions: 9 x 6 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 9.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (15 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #488,090 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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24 of 24 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Enjoying being a "Second Wife", February 19, 2000

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Valerie Leibowitz, LCSW (Ridgewood, New Jersey) - See all my reviews

This review is from: The Second Wives' Club: Secrets for Becoming Lovers for Life (Paperback)

As a long time second wife, I found that this book confirmed many of the experiences that I had to learn through trial and error and often tears. It was well written and addressed all the issues that we, as second families, struggle with. I recommend it to all women in my position, especially those just beginning this new adventure. Thank you for sharing your experiences as a second wife. As a professional in the mental health field myself, I have already recommended this book to a client.

16 of 16 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars On the money..., December 13, 2002

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Karon Goodman (Oxford, AL United States) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: The Second Wives' Club: Secrets for Becoming Lovers for Life (Paperback)

Written by a second husband and wife team, this book is "designed to help you and your husband become lifelong lovers," and the authors tell us up front that "Knowledge is power; ignorance is vulnerability." That theme is prevalent throughout the book and makes it a helpful companion so that a second wife can identify and work to solve her problems. Everything is the book is based on the acronym LOVERS, and these points are factored into each solution and idea:

Loyalty
Openness

Value of Trust
Empathy
Respect
Stability of Commitment

We have to deal with a history we may not like or understand, and the difficulties can escalate into crises quickly. The average second marriage lasts only 4.5, years, the authors say, so many of us are struggling. Much of the book is devoted to transcripts from couples in counseling. You'll identify with many of the challenges they discuss.

The authors cover six problem areas, including the ex-wife, the kids, grandkids, the mother-in-law, friends, and damaging memories. Each section includes a quiz and responses and behaviors that will help you deal with the issues of your family.

You'll also see a "How to Find Your Challenge" quiz at the end where you can learn just how serious your problems are. Finally, there are "Help Yourself Tools" that include relaxation exercises, communication skills, problem solving tips and more. This book is straight talk specifically to the second wife -- when you've been there, you understand.

10 of 11 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Must have for second wives and/or second husbands!, December 2, 1999

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Mary Ann (Chicago) - See all my reviews

This review is from: The Second Wives' Club: Secrets for Becoming Lovers for Life (Paperback)

This book has become my new "Bible" that I keep on my nightstand at all times! I have been a second wife for 5 years. Since I began dating my husband we have had lot of problems with his children from his first marriage, his old friends and (especially) from his ex-wife. Although I wish this book had been available years ago, I am grateful that someone finally wrote about this subject. It has already helped us and enriched our lives. The vignettes are about real people and many of the vignettes ring true in my husband's and my life. It's a great book! You'll love it! I even bought one to give my thrice married girlfriend for Christmas!