The Secret Language of Relationships: Your Complete Personology Guide to Any Relationship with Anyone [Hardcover]

Gary Goldschneider (Author), Joost Elffers (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: October 1, 1997

From the creators of The Secret Language of Birthdays comes a book that builds on the unique personality profiles of its predecessor to predict the nature of romance, marriage, friendship, business, or family relationships. 2,000 illustrations. Two-color throughout.

Editorial Reviews

Amazon.com Review

The Secret Language of Relationships adopts the format of its bestselling predecessor, The Secret Language of Birthdays, and the compendious collection of combinations that follows proves the book's assertion that "A relationship is a rather mysterious and amazing third entity, one that can come to lead an existence independent of the will or desire of its two partners.... in certain cases a relationship can prove far stronger than either individual, leading us to believe that a certain kind of synergy is at work."

Well-organized, packed with fascinating "personality" information, and replete with snapshots (on every page) of famous couples--whether colleagues, spouses, or lovers--The Secret Language of Relationships is also simple to use. A glance at the two-page chart at the beginning of the book determines your birthday "period." Next, find the period of the person who interests you--friend, parent, child, lover, or mate. The ensuing relationship dynamics are named colorfully and aptly: "Peas in a Pod," "Uncommon Intimacy," "Flexible Structures," "Few Dull Moments," and "Few Antipathies."

Describing 1,176 possibilities, The Secret Language of Relationships sheds light on the classic questions--the hows and whys of chemistry in relationships. Is there a prime ingredient for love at first sight, a Fred Astaire and Ginger Rogers of it all? An entertaining exploration of the very thing we cannot do without--each other--this wonderful volume explains why we feel the way we do about the people in our lives, and how--if necessary--to make it better.

About the Author

Gary Goldschneider is an astrologer and coauthor of each of the books in the Secret Language series. Joost Ellfers is a book packager specializing in highly illustrated books. --This text refers to an alternate Hardcover edition.

Product Details

• Hardcover: 768 pages
• Publisher: Studio; First Edition edition (October 1, 1997)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0670875279
• ISBN-13: 978-0670875276
• Product Dimensions: 11.7 x 8.7 x 2.1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 4.8 pounds
• Average Customer Review: 4.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (81 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #65,206 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
  • #85 in Books > Religion & Spirituality > New Age > Astrology

Customer Reviews

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

38 of 38 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Entertaining, but Definitely not Spiritual, July 19, 2006

By 

Regina McMenamin (New York, NY) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: The Secret Language of Relationships (reissue) (Hardcover)

THE SECRET LANGUAGE OF RELATIONSHIPS is a follow up to author Gary Goldschneider's earlier book about the study of people based upon the day they were born, rather than their astrological sign.

Wildly entertaining and surprisingly accurate, this book is used by cross-referencing two birthdays on the charts provided on the inside covers. At the point where these two birthdays meet, you are given a page number where you will find a profile about the relationship between the two people, regardless of whether that relationship is based on friendship, romance, family or business.

These profiles are a half of a page long; include a brief synopsis of the relationship, advice and nutshell facts about strengths and weaknesses.

Despite the fact that I am skeptical by nature and put little if any stock in astrology, I found this book fun. What's more, I was very surprised to cross reference couples I know, colleagues I've worked with, etc and found that these relationships are perfectly described in this book.

I am surprised to read some of the reviews here that reveal customer dissatisfaction with this book. I never expected to learn anything spiritual or mystical here. And though I am not exactly surprised that some are saddened to learn that there are potential challenges in their own relationships, I suspect that these reviewers cross referenced themselves with their spouses and were horrified to read they'd be better off friends or business associates.

Still I recommend THE SECRET LANGUAGE OF BIRTHDAYS for those looking exclusively for mindless entertainment for themselves or for their friends who visit and find it in a bookshelf.

- Regina McMenamin

23 of 23 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars insanely insightful!!!, October 11, 2001

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Maya León (Neumünster, Germany (previously, Bozeman, MT)) - See all my reviews

This review is from: The Secret Language of Relationships: Your Complete Personology Guide to Any Relationship with Anyone (Hardcover)

I must give this book an absolutely wonderful review. It has helped me to understand things about myself and my relationships with other people that has really helped me to change myself and therefore my to change my relationships for all the better. This particular book by Gary Goldschneider and Joost Elffers gives insight on all relationship combinations throughout the year, giving the weaknesses, strenghts and everything in between in the realtionship. The only reason this or any other astrology/personology book would ever not make sense to anyone, is because of the failure to recognize qualities within yourself, others, or your relationships. So, if something you read in this book or any other for that matter, doesn't seem at all like what you percieve in your reality, take a step back from the situation and look at it with a broader perspective. There were many things that I realized to be true about myself and my relationships after reading this book. It's truly incredible. I love it! I reffer back to it all the time and I can't wait to buy the other books by Goldschneider and Elffers about Destiny and Birthdays. I hope that all of you out there will give these books a chance! They are simply wonderful!

22 of 23 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A True Gift, April 9, 2000

By A Customer

This review is from: The Secret Language of Relationships: Your Complete Personology Guide to Any Relationship with Anyone (Hardcover)

Before reading this book I was highly skeptical of anything mystical. During a desperate search to understand the 'why' of a failed relationship, I discovered the hard truth in this book. The more I study this book, cross-referencing all the various relationships in my life, the more I realize how incredible (and accurate) it is. I began to study the other two books by the same authors, The Secret Language of Birthdays, and The Secret Language of Destiny. Both amazing! It has opened my eyes to a whole new level of spiritual awareness. Be sure to study it thoughtfully! I've noticed that cursory glances do not reveal the true accuracy of this work! If you think it's wrong...LOOK AGAIN...you may be surprised! It is a wonderful compassion tool and it will help us all to understand each other better. Needless to say, my whole spiritual outlook has changed!