From Publishers Weekly
Neuharth, a marriage and family therapist, brings the same mixture of practical suggestions and sympathetic understanding in this new guide to avoiding self-defeating actions as he did to his If You Had Controlling Parents: How to Make Peace with Your Past and Take Your Place in the World. (The earlier book resulted in Oprah, Good Morning America and CNN Talkback Live! appearances.) In order to change behavior that has undermined personal happiness, Neuharth argues that it is essential to recognize that one is one's own source of this unhealthy conduct, that one has the power to alter it and that denial usually prevents one from taking productive action. Denial,Neuharth finds, frequently stems from inappropriate fear that taking any action may have too great an emotional cost. In an especially useful chapter, he shows how most fears reflect concerns about self-worth or worries about a dreaded experience such as publics peaking. He offers a number of self-tests and sensible techniques for becoming more self-aware and overcoming fears, illustrated by numerous case studies. In addition, Neuharth helps readers identify their deepest hopes and desires along with the means for achievement. A clear, apostrophic style ("You've done this thousands of times in your life") and user-friendly organization further add to this above-average manual for maximizing personal happiness.
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Demystifies much within our pasts that can hurt our intimate relationships in ways we may not even realize. If You Had Controlling Parents helps spark understanding and acceptance across generations. (John Gray, Ph.D., author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus on If You Had Controlling Parents)
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A step-by-step plan in which [the reader] can deprogram himself from the ingrained and harmful habits taught by unhealthy guardians...and change habitual feelings of low self-esteem, distrust, or even a willingness to be victimized. (Los Angeles Times on If You Had Controlling Parents)
Excels in describing threads common to many extreme parenting styles...and to the way children subjected to them feel once they've grown up. (Dallas Morning News on If You Had Controlling Parents)
If You Had Controlling Parents can claim a very respectable spot on the shelf of self-help books. The book is solid. (USA Today on If You Had Controlling Parents)