Self-Esteem Revolutions in Children: Understanding and Managing the Critical Transitions in Your Child's Life [Paperback]

Thomas W. Phelan PhD (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: January 1, 1996

Offering practical and achievable methods to help children gain self-respect, this guide enables parents to discover the basics of self-esteem, the relationship between discipline and self-respect, and the reasons for the junior high self-esteem crash. A robust, yet realistic self-esteem is taught through five critical strategies in which gimmicks and good intentions are replaced by the hard work of both parents and children. Following this step-by-step program, parents can help their children to feel better about themselves and to make changes toward building a strong sense of self.

Editorial Reviews

Review

In Self-Esteem Revolutions In Children, Thomas Phelan describes "self-esteem revolutions" as the sweeping changes that youngsters experience in the foundations of self-respect as they mature. These "revolutions" include the transition from self-esteem based simply on unconditional parental love to self-esteem that is based on the conditional acceptance of other people, as well as based on competence. Another motivator with children is the development of "Great Evaluator" inside each child, which constantly gives feedback about how well youngsters are doing in the social, academic, physical and character dimensions of their lives. Self-Esteem Revolutions In Children is essential reading for any parent, teacher, or care-giver. -- Midwest Book Review

About the Author

Thomas W Phelan PhD is a clinical psychologist and lives in Glen Ellyn, Illinois.

Product Details

• Paperback: 173 pages
• Publisher: Parentmagic, Inc. (January 1, 1996)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1889140015
• ISBN-13: 978-1889140018
• Product Dimensions: 9 x 6 x 0.5 inches
• Shipping Weight: 10.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (3 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #861,989 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Thomas W. Phelan, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist and the author of 1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline for Children, All About Attention Deficit Disorder, "I Never Get Anything!", Self-Esteem Revolutions in Children, and Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder. He lives in Glen Ellyn, Illinois.

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31 of 31 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars I was impressed enough with this book to order his others, July 7, 2000

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Al B. (Rome, GA USA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Self-Esteem Revolutions in Children: Understanding and Managing the Critical Transitions in Your Child's Life (Paperback)

This book makes some very accurate and useful observations, chief among them:

Self-esteem comes from tangible experiences, not just touchy-feely, feel-good platitudes mouthed by adults -- children see through those.

Each child has a "Great Evaluator" (internal critic) that is always monitoring the child's performance and pushing for improvement. This is necessary for the child to develop, but sometimes this internal critic can be misled and a child can become too self-critical.

Life is not always supposed to be too comfortable for kids -- some discomfort is necessary for growth. Likewise, a parent's job is not always to make a kid feel good.

The author then goes on to elaborate on each of these and his other observations, giving specific advice to parents on how help the child accurately see themselves and build real, not phony, self-esteem.

9 of 12 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Self-esteem Revolutions in Children:understanding & Managing, July 2, 2000

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Sheryl L. Wolf - See all my reviews

This review is from: Self-Esteem Revolutions in Children: Understanding and Managing the Critical Transitions in Your Child's Life (Paperback)

The book is divided into three main parts and goes into detail on why self-esteem is important. I felt this was information I already knew. However, the most helpful part of the book was the last section where it discussed how to manage your childs self-esteem.

1 of 1 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars practical understanding of child development, August 1, 2007

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Sandy (Perth WA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Self-Esteem Revolutions in Children: Understanding and Managing the Critical Transitions in Your Child's Life (Paperback)

Very helpful in terms of understanding child development, children's needs and particularly vulnerable times for them. I liked Phelan's practical approach, very down to earth - there is no way you can make a child have good self esteem. He blows many myths out of the water and hopefully makes it much less threatening to be parents, it is not "all your fault".