Self Parenting: The Complete Guide to Your Inner Conversations [Paperback]

John K. Pollard (Author), Linda Nusbaum (Illustrator)

Book Description

Publication Date: February 1, 1987

SELF-PARENTING: The Complete Guide to Your Inner Conversations is the classic and original how-to book defining the concept of "self-parenting." Many of us grew up within a parental environment that did not support our childhood needs for love, support, and nurturing. As adults, we mentally continue the same patterns as an "Inner Parent" that left us feeling alone and abandoned as a child. By beginning the daily practice of positive Self-Parenting, the negative outer parenting patterns taught as a child (and subsequently internalized as an adult) can be recognized and reversed. The foundation of the SELF-PARENTING is the daily practice of the Self-Parenting Exercises, a thirty-minute session of cognitive interaction between the Inner Parent and Inner Child. During these daily half-hour sessions Illustrated In the book, the reader learns how to love, support, and nurture his or her Inner Child as well as increase their awareness of the profound implications of their Inner Conversations in the "real world."

Product Details

• Paperback: 276 pages
• Publisher: The SELF-PARENTING Program; 1st Edition, 7th Printing edition (February 1, 1987)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 094205525X
• ISBN-13: 978-0942055252
• Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.6 x 8.5 inches
• Shipping Weight: 13.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (15 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #50,352 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
  • #11 in Books > Self-Help > Inner Child

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www.SelfParenting.com
www.DigestiveAwareness.com
www.HowRelationshipsWork.com
www.GenericHumanStudies.com
www.ArticularTherapy.com

PUBLICATIONS: Books

SELF-PARENTING: The Complete Guide to Your Inner Conversations (1987)
-Wrote and published SELF-PARENTING: The Complete Guide to Your Inner Conversations, creating the principles and practice of consciously parenting your Inner Child as an Inner Parent.
-During this period, was the featured guest of many news, and television interviews, including CNN; Good Morning Australia, various radio presentations, and newspaper and magazine articles.
-Became the first Inner Child author endorsed and recommended by prominent psychological teachers such as Louise Hay, John Bradshaw, and Ken Keyes, Jr.

The SELF-PARENTING Program (1992)
-Wrote and published second book on advanced principles of Self-Parenting.
-Created and ran a publishing company to present Self-Parenting in both the United States and Australia.

The Digestive Awareness Diet: You Are HOW You Eat (2006 Oct)
-Created book to explain the normal function of the digestive system for the lay public
-Presents a fact based tour of the digestive system based on the scientific understanding of digestion.
-Linked organ function with classic visceral-somatic symptoms
-Provided natural therapy solutions to common digestive symptoms for the lay audience

How Relationships Work (2008)
-Created book to explain How Relationships Work
-Original research and understanding

What Is Generic Human Studies? (2010)
-Created book to explain GHS Theory
-Original research and understanding

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

34 of 34 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars An excellent tool for re-parenting of self December 24, 1998

By A Customer

Format:Paperback

I have been using this book with my clients for more than seven years. I am so disappointed that it is out of print. It is a positive life experience when practicing self-parenting--going from negative inner parenting talk (e.g., "you're stupid", "life is a bummer", "you'll never get what you want", etc.) to having the loving/nurturing parent listen to the inner child and allowing him/her to be heard (e.g., "I want you to succeed because you are worth it--what do you want to do to make that happen? The child responds "I want to go to school to make myself the best I can be". The parent agrees, the child goes to school and everyone wins!!). It is a very simple concept and a very powerful tool from changing folks shame based existence into love, kindness and success. I would recommend Self-Parenting to anyone who has grown up in guilt, fear, shame and rage.

27 of 27 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars This book changed my life; I buy it for friends. December 3, 1997

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Format:Paperback

An easy-to-read, delightfully simple book with a life-altering message presented in a format that speaks to the logical and the intuitive / emotional parts of the brain at the same time. The techniques in this book not only work in relationships with inner selves, they work with other people as well. Winning -- really winning -- involves finding win-win solutions to conflict. And this book teaches how to do just that. I've bought, given away, loaned, and recommended this book to many friends. It is especially helpful to people who were raised by less-than-nurturing (e.g. alcoholic) parents. While there are other books on this subject (I have Charles Whitfield's also), I haven't found a more effective book in teaching how to resolve the pain of inner conflict than Self Parenting by John K. Pollard. I hope this book goes back into print. In the meantime, I'm ordering three copies.

20 of 20 people found the following review helpful

4.0 out of 5 stars Self-Parenting: The Complete Guide to Your Inner Converstns. January 26, 2000

By Cathy Watrobski [e-mail]

Format:Paperback

The information provided in Self-Parenting was written with great clarity, which makes this book easy to understand and use. The ideas conveyed here were also done with love and nurturing. Both my inner child and I LOVED the whimsy of the illustrations and large print. It's a very well-written book and a great tool. I've used this technique in the past and found it very helpful. I expect to get back to it in the near future.

16 of 16 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars A "How To Actually Do It" book September 11, 2005

By Jim L. Wright

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I have read many books that discuss the benefits of developing a relationship with your Inner Child. This book offers you an actual method that you can put to use every day for doing just that. I have been using Dr. Pollard's technique of thirty minute sessions every day for nearly two years and have found it to be a very rewarding adventure. I promise you that it has changed my life in many ways. A great book and a very practical methodology for getting to know and understand and "listen to" your inner child.

13 of 13 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars The best book of self growth ever written - It's incredible. November 24, 2008

By Fabrizio Di Marco

Format:Paperback

After fifteen years of research and practice of many body, mind and spiritual techniques I have to say that the only technique that has ever really worked for me to give me what it promises and more is Self-Parenting. If only anybody could give themselves the opportunity to try it the whole world would change for them.
When I first started daily Self Parenting sessions I felt (as the Inner Parent) that it was like a duty for me, something that I "had to" do for my Inner Child. Now, after one year I feel the joy of doing this "as the Inner Parent" and enjoy the sessions more than anything else in my life. It's incredible!

10 of 10 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars A book that will change your life February 22, 2007

By New Day Hypnotherapy

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Most books like this tell you to love your inner child, but don't tell you how to go about it, or the exercises are long and involved. This book is written in a light and humorous way so is easy to read in a short time. The exercises really work and are easy to do. This book changed my life, and if you read it and do the exercises, I can practically guarantee it will change your life for the better.

13 of 14 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Change your life from the INSIDE out. October 29, 2008

By C. M. Bates

Format:Paperback

I have been through therapy and 12-Step work, but the eight months I have been practicing Self-Parenting (S/P) has been more beneficial to me than YEARS of therapy. Using S/P with something else I learned after therapy and 12-Step, The Sedona Method, has finally given me the inner peace I have sought for years.

I have been doing a 30-minute S/P session daily since February 2008 and definitely plan to keep doing it - it is now a habit. That 30 minutes in the morning really puts me in touch with MYSELF.

Also, it seems to me that all of my outer relationships have gotten better (without any conscious effort on my part) JUST BECAUSE I HAVE BEEN USING S/P. I am much calmer. I am more present (in the moment). I have more empathy for others. I am less triggered, but when something triggers me I EASILY figure out what the problem is.

One other benefit to using The Self Parenting Program is that I have finally learned how to identify my own needs and how to meet them. Taking responsibility for figuring out my own needs and meeting them has given me so much `ENERGY!'

My `outer' life hasn't changed much since I started using S/P (same home, same relationships, same job) but my `inner' life is so different. For the first time in my life I am truly happy.

In Self-Parenting, Dr. John Pollard III presents the reader with a simple method to learn more about themselves. As they learn more about themselves, they will find themselves and their lives transformed from the inside out.