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Self-Sabotage Syndrome: Adult Children in the Workplace

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If you have been losing jobs despite working "very hard", and you are an ACoA, this is the book that will finally answer the big question of "why! " ACoA's, as explained succinctly yet in detail by Woititz, have ingrained patterns of behavior that result in problems on the job. We can identify these patterns, come to understand where they came from, and finally, do something to change them! This book gave me far more insight than years of counseling - Woititz truly knows the ACoA!

I cannot recommend this book enough. It is short, and quick to read/skim, but it helped me SO MUCH in identifying issues that I'm dealing with - and once I'm aware of the issue (and in my case, how common my problems are among adults who grew up in instable circumstances) it helps me try to stop the behavior or my thinking. This is not only for children of alcoholics - my parents were not, though one grandparent was, and his drinking and behaviors, and his only child's anger and codependency, created enough of a stew to mess me up but good for 30+ years. Awareness is power, though, and now I can see where I'm acting out my childhood fear and insecurity at the office.

From the moment I started to read this book, I was 'smacked in the face' by the relevence of this book in my life at this "exact juncture" !.

I have just lost a job that I "loved", it was my "home away from home" (I actually used to say that...); my boss was my "best friend", I would do virtually ANYTHING to support and help him in the work place and in his failing personal life. I was terminated because his wife felt we were "too close" after two years of blind loyalty. Terminated ! No notice ! No severance ! Lost my job, my best friend, my source of income, my entire world/life.

READ THIS BOOK IF YOU ARE AN ADULT CHILD !!! I wish I had read it before. I will not be the 'enabler' and the 'fall guy' the next time.

I highly recommend this book to anyone that is an ADULT CHILD and find themselves without a job/sense of self/reason to live/purpose in life because the "job" and "your life" ARE NOT intertwined unless you allow them to be. I did not establish correct "boundries", and coincidentally, my previous "boss/best-friend" is an Adult Child also.

I just ordered the book to be delivered to my previous boss/best friend. Hopefully he will learn from this book as well, and not follow the same patterns.

This book gave me insight into why I think and feel the way I do. It also gives practical tips to use whn situations come up in life. I learned lots from this book.

Este libro lo compre como sugerencia de una persona de ALANON Hijos adultos de alcoholicos.
Como hija de un alcoholico pasivo, vivi en negacion 30 anios de mi vida siempre con el estigma de ser la "inadecuada". Al leer este libro me di cuenta de todas las caracteristicas que vivi en mi hogar y sobre todo como la mayor parte de mi vida sabotie por ignorancia mi forma de vida.
A pesar de que Espanol es mi primer idioma, este libro es super facil de leer y comprender.
A este libro no le falta nada.